Post # 1
I had a bit of a wedding freak-out last night and long story short, we’re changing our date to the summer. We don’t have a new date yet, but we have decided on a low-key, casual Backyard BBQ-theme with lots of fun little details like a campfire with a smores bar, and a lemonade stand. We’re not fancy or traditional people at all, so this fits us as a couple much better than our old plans.
My question is, with a small backyard wedding of 50-75 is it really necessary to have a separate ceremony before the reception? I’m thinking we start the party around 4-5pm (apps, drinks, just sort of a casual party feel) and then around 7pm take a break from the partying to have everyone gather around while we say our vows. We will have tables set up where our guests can sit during the ceremony. After the vows and ring exchange, we will go right back into the reception with toasts and dinner and all that. My FI and I have absolutely no problems seeing each other before getting married, so we’d be out there partying with everyone before our vows.
I know it’s our wedding, and we can do whatever we like, but if you were attending would you find this weird?
Post # 3
My concern would be the alcohol. I think you will be upset if you, your fiance, or your guests are drunk (or even a little tipsy) during the ceremony. I don’t think you need to have a whole separate event or location but why not just go ahead an exchange vows at the start (4 or 5) and then just party the night away.
Post # 4
it is different, but I think it sounds neat… fun
Good Luck !!
Post # 5
I think that it would be fun! It would definitely have a more casual feel, but it would be memorable. And with 50-75 guests I think everyone would get what you were going for. I do think that I’d bump up the ceremony to 5:30 or 6, so no one is too “partied out” (or drunk) or too disheveled looking at your ceremony part. 🙂
Post # 6
@Moose1209: I agree with Moose. I would probably do the ceremony first, still in the backyard like you described, but get it done first and then start your reception. You will also have some guests that won’t want to stay very long at the reception so this will allow them to still see the ceremony and then leave if they want.
Post # 7
Good points! (This is why I love WB, never even though of the alcohol issue)
I really did like the idea of having the ceremony in the middle. Do you think it would work better if the time between the start of the reception and the ceremony were shorter? Like say, an hour? (Start at 4, ceremony around 5-5:30)
Or do you think it would just be wonky and not work no matter what the time difference.
Post # 8
@Gingersnap: I love that idea! Sounds so laid-back and fun! Not so stuffy, which is something I’m trying to steer clear of as well. Good for you thinking outside the box!
Post # 9
@Gingersnap: I think it would work if it was only an hour. It just really depends on your guests and how much they drink. I went to a wedding once where they had cocktail hour before the reception. And I’m telling you there were people talking LOUDLY throughout the ceremony and I couldn’t hear a thing. Now, there were also 600 people at this wedding so it’s a totally different situation. If you think most of your guests would only have a drink or two in an hour long period then I would think they can compose themselves enough to pay attention : )
Post # 10
i think having cocktail hour before the ceremony is a good idea! i know some jewish brides do it that way when they have to wait until sunset to have the ceremony.
Post # 11
That sounds awesome actually!
Post # 12
Dumb question, but why not wait to break out the booze? Start the party, have the ceremony, THEN break out the wine/beer/champagne/alcohol? That way, you get to have what you want and not have to worry about anyone being tipsy or all-out-drunk?
It’s kinda what we’re doing for our wedding… except it’ll be larger with most people starting the party/socializing while we’re getting ready, lol. So I LOVE the idea!!!
Post # 13
@Zinzerena: haha yea that is definitely a smart idea and thats probably what we’ll do, just in case 🙂
Post # 14
I actually love this idea. I always hate the sitting around awkwardly part before wedding ceremonies begin. I think you’d get so much more of an incredible happy vibe from people who have already been mingling and celebrating! And Ryna’s idea is perfect.
Post # 15
@Moose1209: what she said.
Post # 16
Fantastic idea. I agree with the other posters about the alcohol. You’ll also need to recruit some people to wrangle guests and make sure they are quiet and in place. I know that following our reception we took family photos, and a bunch of people that were supposed to be in them left! At another wedding I attended, some friends left to check into their hotel and ended up missing important portions of that one. If you can, give people some warning about what time you are starting the ceremony so people don’t skip out and miss it.
We did a backyard wedding too. It was really awesome and people actually loved that it was a bit more casual. Good choice! 😀 We also did s’mores and they were very popular. If you have any logisitics questions about a house/backyard wedding, feel free to PM me!