Post # 1
Weddings seem to make all of us appearance-conscious. It made me wonder, do you think you are beautiful? I think most women are better looking than they give themselves credit for. It makes me so sad when perfectly reasonable-looking women, even beautiful women, put themselves down about their appearance.
I feel like I wasted so many years of my life thinking I was ugly. I mean, I was kind of a weird-looking child (really I was….but tons of people are). I like to say I improved with age. 🙂 I know I am not the most gorgeous person in the world, but with some minimal effort I look great most days, I think. One thing that really improved my body confidence was making a concerted effort to say only positive things about my appearance to myself and others (usually I am successful). When you can only say positive things, your attitude starts to get more positive too.
I know that real beauty is on the inside, but a lot of self-worth can be tied up in appearance. What do you think of yours? Has your wedding impacted how you feel about your appearance?
Post # 3
I agree that I thought I was a weird loking child as well! My facial features are more defined than the traditionally pretty girls (I think it’s the eastern European in me). But I definetly have grown into myself now and feel a lot better about how I look. And I love how the wedding pictures made me look!
Post # 4
I really started taking pride in myself about two years ago, and when that happened, I started to love myself, my appearance included. Sure, there are things I don’t like about myself, but I’m happy with who I am and how I look. Once I started loving myself and feeling confident, my outward appearance change- to the point where friends and family noticed. If I would have answered this pole two years ago, I would have checked “I’m middle of the road”, but today, I checked “I’m gorgeous in my own way” 🙂
Post # 5
I have my “fat days” like everyone else, but in general I’m pleased with how I’ve grown into myself. I feel naked now without makeup on but when i do my makeup just right, sometimes i surprise myself by who i see in the mirror =].
i was tall, awkward, dorky, and not allowed to wear makeup growing up. I was a tomboy and never got any attention from boys. I laugh at photos of myself now with braces, glasses, long mousy brown hair I was forbidden to cut (dad’s rule–it was down to my butt!) and the huge clothes i’d wear to hide my C cups! Hey i was 13…boobs were weird =]. And i’m always happy with the features of my face–my eyes are unique, my teeth are straight and white, i’ve always been happy with my nose.
Long story short, I’ll be honest and say I think i’m a beautiful woman. I’m no Heidi Klum, but hell, who is, except Heidi Klum, of course…=]
And yes, I see too many beautiful women put themselves down and it just KILLS me. My friends do this and it just frustrates me to no end that they can’t see themselves from a different perspective for once
Post # 6
I’ve got one of those looks. I can either look great or fu-law-ful. I have a very German looking square face too. Doesn’t help sometimes in pictures.
When I was younger, my hair was darker and my natural hair color looks HORRIBLE with my skin tone. Hair dye does wonders.
Post # 7
I said average. lol. But dang. When I decide to go for it, I look pretty good. = )
Post # 8
EJS- I have to say, your wedding pictures, I think your leaned on a piano, is one of my favorite I’ve ever seen on Weddingbee 🙂
Post # 9
I think bridal magazines and the WIC make us insecure. In an ideal world, the wedding and the marriage should make us all feel beautiful! We all have loving FIs who think we are SMOKING HAWT! If they didn’t, they might not have even said hi to us in the first place. I think Miss Nachos had a great post the other day about her self-image. And her FI knew her during that whole junior high awkward stage! The rest of us are probably still hiding those photos from our FIs. :oP
Not one of the bees should worry about their bridal self-image. You will be the best looking, best dressed woman at your wedding!
Post # 10
Having a more positive self-image in general has allowed me to have better bad days. There are days when I feel fat, or ugly, or my skin is acting up for the zillionth time, and I can say, “ugh I feel fat/ugly/pimply” and it means more than just fishing for compliments would. Because my underlying self-confidence is good, when I am feeling the flaws, my husband takes me seriously. He doesn’t need to contradict me or lecture me about how really I am god’s gift to man; he just gives me a hug and tells me I am beautiful even if I am all gross-feeling.
My emotion about my appearance and the truth of my appearance are much more separated than they used to be. I can feel ugly some days but know that I am not actually ugly and that this emotion too shall pass. Versus I used to think that because I felt ugly, I was ugly.
Post # 11
I know these kind of women…like my sister who looks great but is always saying she needs to lose 10 lbs…in front of me who has always struggled with my weight. Losing weight has def helped me feel better about myself…I was getting unhealthy and was miserable about the way I did look. I was 250 lbs and finally did something about it and now Im down to 200lbs and very proud of myself. I did have my awkward child and teen yrs…bad hair…bushy eyebrows! Loved when I got them waxed for the first time! Sometimes it takes time after being teased and put down…even by your own sister…I feel beautiful and think Im beautiful. My fiance also builds my confidence every day when he just looks at me and tells me Im beautiful….he melts my heart.
Post # 12
I appear to be among the minority…which for this is awesome! I don’t think I am pretty. I love my eyes and occassionally I will think I look nice but generally I don’t like myself. I wish I had confidence! I think it is because I was once told that my being smart made up for the fact that I’m not as pretty as my younger cousin. I’m 20 and was told that years ago. Anyways I wish I liked myself! I am so glad that y’all feel good about yourselves.
P.S. I ALWAYS think I look fat, even though everyone tells me that I am not 🙁
Post # 13
Aw, thanks Miss Sapphire! That totally makes my day to hear that =]
Post # 14
I grew up in LA around blonde beach babes.
Soooo, yeah, confidence is not aplenty.
Post # 15
I feel like I’ve always been in communities where I’m surrounded by gorgeous women who put a TON of effort into beauty. Staying thin, makeup and beautiful outfit/hairstyle every day, and many many beauty procedures. I honestly don’t have time for most of this and usually go au naturale. So I don’t think I’m that pretty. I’m not fat or ugly, but definitely no supermodel. If I really make an effort, I do think I can look pretty hot 😉 But I don’t have anywhere close to the time it’s necessary to look like that every day.
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Post # 16
@D.Marie: i totally agree with you. my sister is TINY think size 00. so of course she always says she’s trying to watch her figure and watch what she eats etc.. um I’m a size 16. so i tease and say what figure and we just giggle about it. but yeah weight has always been my issue, i definitely hide my emotions by eating and will say that whenever i have a period that is stressful in my life you can tell because i gain about 20 lbs or more. and i never really lose it, hence i’m over weight. now i am in the mind frame of losing the weight and handling my stressors in a different light…
edited because other the weight i think i’m one of the sexiest women i have ever seen.. i love how exotic i look (yes i am tooting my own horn)… and my nose is my favorite part of my body besides my collar bone, even though my boobs have gotten me the most perks! (all pun intended)