Do you think your first wedding anniversary is that important?

posted 3 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Well, my husband and I are oddballs in that we don’t celebrate our anniversary, so take this with a grain of salt. I don’t think anniversaries are that important. Once you get to 10 years and milestone anniversaries beyond that, maybe I would celebrate with a special vacation or a party. 

I guess for some people, they are celebrating the anniversary of the wedding more than the anniversary of the marriage, because the 1 year mark is a good time to look back and remember the wedding day. But DH and I are not wedding people so we don’t do that. Actually I think that 1 year is the LEAST important anniversary because it’s the least number of years to be married… honestly a year is not a long time to have been married, so I don’t see what the big deal is. 

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Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

We didn’t do anything to celebrate our first anniversary. As far as the Bees who complain about other events being planned on the same day, no one, I mean no one, gives a shit about your anniversary except you. It’s only special to others if you’re an elderly couple celebrating your 50th, 60th, etc… 

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would have been annoyed if we had had any obligations on our first anniversary. I wouldn’t have said anything, though, and wouldn’t have expected anyone else to remember the anniversary. The day before or after would have been just fine.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

bmo88:  For me…dating anniversaries are semi important, but wedding anniversaries are right up there with my birthday, his birthday, my kid’s birthdays and Christmas. I can’t imagine spending one not with him (or the family) doing something special.

People have the right to do things on our anniversary, but I don’t think they should be mad if we don’t show up.

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’ve been married a long time, and while all anniversaries are special, the 1st wasn’t any more special than the others.

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

We had a nice night out for our first anniversary.  We also defrosted our cake and invited our local bridal party members over for cake and champagne to celebrate the night, but we didn’t do anything crazy.  For us, it was more about remembering the day and what it meant to us, and less about having a big party.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

We’ve had 2 wedding anniversaries, and our anniversary is very important to us.  I wouldn’t get mad if someone else got married on our anniversary, but would probably decline an invitation.  We didn’t invite anyone but our parents to our wedding, so there’s no “they came to ours, so we have to go to theirs” type of situation.

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

Our dating and wedding anniversary is very important to us, but we understand that we’re the only people who feel this way.  I wouldn’t get upset if someone got married or planned an event, however, we probably wouldn’t attend since we’d already have plans.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

It will be important. Of course it will be! But if someone got married the same day i would just celebrate it later or earlier. I think we are going back to the same hotel in the country we stayed at the night of our wedding. We loooved that place. 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I think it will be super special to us, but I certainly don’t expect anyone else to plan their lives around it!

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Anniversaries are very special to us becasue we were both hopelessly single for so long. We love celebrating all the time we’ve been together. We’re thinking of taking a trip (honeymoon part 2) for our 1 year. But 1 year also marks when we want to start trying for kids, so that makes that anniversary different. Potentially our first/only anniversary without kids.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I do. I wouldn’t go to an event if it were on our one year anniversary. 

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall

Our friends are getting married on our first anniversary this year, and we are planning on going. 🙂 In fact I think it’d be an appropriate way to celebrate – celebrating the love of another couple, remembering how we felt on our day, maybe bring back some memories of our wedding that we may have forgotten about…. Get dressed up, have a nice dinner, and party it up on the dance floor! It would have taken us a lot of effort to plan something that fun for just ourselves, and we are getting past the age where partying happens on any regular basis so it’ll be a treat.

Besides, we got married on a Saturday and since it’s a year later theirs is on a Sunday. We can use the Saturday before the “official” anniversary to have all the 1-on-1 time we want.

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