Post # 1
I grew up in a house with adults who were involved in the medical field. They taught me many many things regarding the medical field….a few that stick out: to always question doctors and medical professionals, to push for what I wanted or felt I needed & to trust my instincts when it comes to my body. Ive heard a lot of people (men and women, my husband being one of them) say “I trust my doctor”. As much as I want to believe my doctor has my best interest in mind, I know doctors are human and can make mistakes and they can sometimes be motivated by money (i.e. pushing certain brands of drugs over others because of promotions the drug companies are having). Im kind of surprised when people put their complete trust in doctors and do whatever the doctor says/wants without asking questions or doing some of their own research.
Do you implicitly trust your doctor? Im especially interested in hearing from those who are pregnant or TTC!
Post # 2
Hm, I’m not sure if you are referring to it (or saw it), but I commented something like this on a a thread about birth plans. I’m a mom to one 16 month-old, and will be TTC in a couple months, but I’ll elaborate either way 😉
I deal with two main doctors right now–my OBGYN and my son’s pediatrician. I trust my doctor because I’ve asked her a lot of questions about her philosophies of care. The only direct care she’s given me has been during my son’s birth, and she always discussed pros/cons of anything she suggested. I was free to decide whatever I wanted, and she made decisions within the framework of knowing what I wanted.
As for my son’s pediatrician–well, she was my own pediatrician, and I even job-shadowed her in high school. She rolled her eyes when she was supposed to go to a drug company’s luncheon and says she ignores them completely. She only uses meds when absolutely necessary, and she listens to and trusts my account of what’s happening with my little guy.
So it’s not that I trust my doctors because they’re doctors, it’s that I know and trust their opinions and know they are acting in my best interest because I know them well and we’ve developed a good relationship. I ask a lot of questions, and wouldn’t do or take something that felt wrong, but in general, I do trust my doctors.
Post # 3
I’m a medical student. Here is what I think! Doctors are people. They make mistakes just as anybody can and you should be well educated about your own health issues if you have them and be proactive in your health. As for the money thing, yes, doctors make six figures. I’m also coming out of this with 260k in debt. We aren’t rolling in money laughing menacingly in our hot tubs full of $50 dollar bills like the media sometimes thinks.
A doctor would never prescribe a drug a patient didn’t need to make more money because that is a quick way to get your ass sued. However, they may prescribe brands that give incentives but most brands of the same med are basically equal.
Also, vaccinate your kid according to your docs vaccination schedule. The antibodies from breast milk only last about 6 months and that it why so many vaccines are given in infancy. Nobody wants their baby to have polio.
Post # 4
AOriver: I do not trust doctors for a few reasons. One is that doctors are human and everyone makes mistakes. So it’s good to think and question because something important may have been overlooked. Another reason is that, especially in clinic type situations most of the doctors I’ve ever encountered have NEVER read my chart at all, not even glanced at it (I know this by the fact that they don’t seem to know anything about my history when they talk to me). And lastly, myself, family members and friends have been misdiagnosed or given dangerous medication combinations way too many times to put 100% faith in any medical professional.
Post # 5
I don’t trust every doctor, but I trust my doctor. I took time picking out a doctor that will listen to me, take time and answer my questions. I have some bare bones medical training (my dad was an first responder, and I learned how to do some basic things from him) I do my research, and my doctor encourages me to. It was a year between my doctor recomending Metformin for my PCOS and me starting Metformin for my PCOS while I researched. There was no pressure to start Metformin.
I think if you don’t trust your doctor period you need to switch doctors. I did so twice in the last 4 years. One doctor kept letting me self diagnosis. Another set me home with mono without getting the right lab work done.
All of this said, I don’t have 10 years of medical school. I have to trust my doctor, because I don’t have the knowledge base not to. There is so much misinformation out there, be it anti-vaccination, or what ever bad fad diet is going around, that I need someone to guide me through it. Without trusting a doctor at all, I might as well walk into an Ebola ward naked for the good that I would be doing my health.
Post # 6
i think it depends on the situation. i trusted my primary care doctor after being a patient of hers for close to 10 years, but when we moved i needed to find a new one. i trust my therapist 100%, but again, it’s after being a patient of hers for 14 years.
my mother is a nurse. if she thinks something is up, i trust her judgement. she’s the one i ask if i think something is off. you know?
Post # 7
Misswhowedding: I like your opinion. So many people read something on the internet and assume truth. My SOs mom told him not to eat carrots because they have a high sugar content and that is why he had gain a few pounds. This was as she was making me a grilled cheese that literally had half a stick of butter in it.
Post # 8
I trust my doctor, but I also tend to do my own research on things. I don’t consider doctors the be all and end all of medicine. They don’t always know current studies or trends, and yes they do make mistakes and misdiagnose. It’s always good to question a diagnosis.
Post # 9
Not for a second. I have heard US is way better patient care.. .but i find in Canada it is hard to find a good doctor. I have been involved in too many situations that if an issue was caught sooner, someone woul dbe alive. My dear friend that recently past, died under doctor care and they are stumped as to why. Another doctor my sister was seeing got diagnosed with colitis and he told her she had asthma!!! Like what does ashtma have to do with the stomach!!
Post # 10
Nikkimcq: honestly, you would be surprised how much one organ system has to do with another and how a disruption in one system can cause symptoms somewhere seemingly unrelated
Post # 11
I trust my doctors, but not blindly. I pay attention to my body, ask questions, and when needed, do my research. I have always been willing to switch doctors if I wasn’t 100% comfortable with one, so I’ve built a good group (pcp, gyno, and a specialist) who I feel I can trust and who are great about answering questions.
Both my FIL and MIL are doctors, so sometimes I go to them if I’m not sure about something, but I’ve been really lucky finding good doctors.
Post # 12
AOriver: As someone in healthcare, I think your family gave you perfect advice. Doctors are NOT all created equally… Some are SO bad at their jobs (diagnosing, treating, etc) that it is downright scary. They more often than not cause more harm than good. Don’t get me wrong, MOST Drs are wonderful. However, I’ve recruited and trained tens of dozens, and have fired (and reported) a few for all of the above reasons. I am amazed at how some of them get through school, and there are some who should not be practicing. It was so bad once that I had to literally ask the Dr if he was blind, because he was misdiagnosing almost every single patient.
Another mistake many people make is choosing their Dr based on personality. I don’t care how funny you are or how much you smile, as long as you are top notch clinically. And, unfortunately, many brilliant and amazing Drs have poor social skills.
Post # 13
Jess1483: Thats fantastic! Sounds like you found a great doctor that you can trust and will provide you with the information you are asking for!
Misswhowedding: lol I know what you’re saying….I agree. Doctors go to school for a reason and should be trusted to a certain extent. Its important to find someone who can guide us through this messy life and help us make the right decisions!
LittleE3: totally agree 100%. I am not anti vaccine and trust doctors when it comes to stuff like that. But I think a healthy caution is good when it comes to our bodies in terms of things other than vaccines.
jadlnc: Thats very scary. I have seen doctors like that, not reading charts and not really paying attention to what the patient is saying….that is very disturbing.
Post # 14
LittleE3: Oh absolutely! i totally agree with you, but it was the further issues that were ignored. My sister went for a second opinion and lung testing and there was no asthma in site.. I think it was just an eary off for this doctor. I have actually talked to others that saw this doctor too and there is a current petition going around in act to revoke his license because of mis diagnosis. So sad, but happy to hear it wasnt jsut my sister have this issue. I definitely do believe in good doctors, but hard to find because they are kept by loyal patients 🙂
Post # 15
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
Well, after my GP diagnosed me with SCABIES when all I had was sports bra rash, I stopped going to her.