Post # 1
I’ve done my registry, but was wondering if a lot of people usually get a good amount of money for their wedding gift as well. We just paid off our cruise a few minutes ago – a total of $1044.00 & it def. put a dent in the bank! LOL thank God for taxes & FI working overtime!!
& I’m also hoping we’re going to get a good bit of money for a wedding gift. Did you? or did you know someone that did after not asking for it in any way?
Post # 3
We got a lot of money, but we didn’t really register for a lot (because we had most things already) and we didn’t have showers or anything. People will always bring gifts to showers I think, not money.
Post # 4
We got more gift cards than money or gifts! Mainly to places we had registered at, but we also got a lot of random ones from places we didn’t register at.
Post # 5
My FI is Vietnamese, so money is the traditional gift. I think my family members and our friends will be the only ones shopping off of the registries!
Post # 6
Money is apparently the norm around here. I don’t even think we’ll be registering (which makes me sad) because it is so expected. In fact, FI’s dad said something to the effect that we should invite a lot of people and do the food ourselves so that we can rake it in. *sigh*
Post # 7
i don’t have a lot left on my registry- after an engagement party and a shower- so i’m hoping for money too! apparently the ladies at my shower were saying that i need to add to my registry, but i just don’t need much more stuff. it’s because they’ve already been so generous and bought it all for us!
Post # 8
At the wedding that I have attended we always give money as gifts. Actual gifts are given at the bridal show that is given approximately 2-3 months before the wedding.
Post # 9
I think it depends on family and regional traditions. In my family (Chicago-area), the standard is gift for the shower, check for the wedding. In my fiance’s family (Deep south), the standard is little gift for the shower and big gift for the wedding. Cash for them is only given during the money dance, which is something completely unheard of where I’m from.
Post # 10
Gotcha, thanks ladies. My whole family is pretty much from Alabama & FI’s from the Florida Panhandle. My family are Southern Baptists. So I guess we’ll see what tradition is for them!
Post # 11
We had plenty of stuff left on our registry after my shower, and we got mostly cash at the wedding. I wasn’t sure what to expect either way, but after the fact, I heard from both families that money is the more typical gift.
Our of 75 guests, we got maybe five actual registry gifts. The rest were envelopes with checks/cash.
Post # 12
@Miss Chapstick: If you don’t mind me asking, for 75 guests…how much $$ did you receive? We’re hoping to have around 100.
Post # 13
I don’t think it’s all that uncommon. I’ve known people to have registries, but still get monetary gifts.
BF’s cousin’s wedding was 90k… they got 30k in monetary gifts. I wish I knew enough people to end up with 30k after all was said and done…
Post # 14
Whoa…30K in monetary gifts. I need some new friends! 🙂
We registered for everything, and still lucked out with about $3K in cash. We had about 180 guests, though, and I felt everyone was extremely generous to us.
Post # 15
I’m with you, crosisng my fingers for lots of cash at the wedding. Hopefully those out of staters won’t bring a gift! After our honeymoon costs we’d be eating ramen for weeks if we don’t get cash!
Post # 16
I grew up in a European family (italian) and weve always Only given money… I dont ever remember seeing a single gift at anyones wedding…. We normally would register for our shower, and get mostly gifts there…. 🙂