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http://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/n4vfd/people_who_dont_want_children_ever_whats_your_1/
The older I get, the more I realize having kid is a selfish decision and likely to turn my life into living hell (aka agree with all the statements in the above reddit link). But I still want them.
Do you want some mini-you?
"sometimes I want to beat my kid with my other kid"
Amazing
DH and I are on the fence but I'm 90% sure we'll have kids. We'll just make sure to enjoy ourselves for a few more years.
I voted "others" because I'd like to have biological children and adopt sometime down the line, in 6+ years.
I definitely want children (one day!) I'm a nurturer and I just can't imagine not having atleast one child. But I totally understand why someone wouldn't want to have kids. I have two nephews that I babysit quite frequently and they are enough to drive anyone insane. (But they're also the light of my life at the same time!!)
Other, I want my own and to adopt but FH isn't keen on the adoption idea. I defintely don't think parenthood isn't a path for everyone.
I would probably want two biological children and then might adopt one child a few years later.
I definitely want one child. After that, I'll have to decide if I want more. But my first thought is no. And I am adopted, but I still voted that I want my own biological child. That means a lot to me if FH and I are able to, but if not, we will definitely adopt.
Yes. Badly. And I really wanted to vote for BOTH the first two answers - we are going to TRY and have our own and adopt if we cannot get pregnant naturally. May adopt anyways. (My mom, dad, and sister are all adopted..)
I've always wanted to adopt. It's weird though, I've ALWAYS wanted to be a mom- but I don't have that nagging feeling that it has to come from MY uterus.
I voted other. DH and I definitely want children, but we hope to adopt and have biological children.
i voted other. FI and I right now don't know if we do at all. I'm pro adoption, he however, is not.
I voted other because I really don't know. I used to definitely NOT want kids. Now I often feel like maybe I do want them some day... I had such an awesome childhood and I feel like it'd be kind of fun maybe to recreate that from the other side. Have traditions and do the PTA thing and throw birthday parties and all that jazz.
But I know that I am not at all ready now. The idea of having a kid NOW terrifies me. Most of the time I feel about 70% sure that we'll have them some day... and I kind of hope that I wake up one day with a random biological urge to have them.
But then 30% of the time I am like ohhh hell no. I like my life. I like everything about it, why would I change it? I have so much free time it is AWESOME. And really? Not that much responsibility. My husband and I kind of act like overgrown children with constant movie marathons and video games and general silliness. I feel like having kids might ruin my life, honestly. I would have to be the grown up then... and I don't know that I want that!
No, I do not want kids. People always say I will change my mind, but I don't think I will.
I always say I want to want kids, but I just don't. I'd like to get there eventually. Its hard to wrap my head around consciously making the decision to get pregnant. Maybe one day...
Now? No. But that is because we are young, broke and have a lot of school left. But we both want to have bio kids and adopt someday. But it won't be for 5 or so years. :)
I have a bonus son and am pregnant now, so it would be really strange to say no :)
We also talked about adopting a third down the line, but I think we're just going to stick with the 2.
Hard to say at this point in my life. I used to be certain I didn't want children... but then my mother had a baby. My baby sister is almost 6 months old and she is so adorable and fun. I've kind of warmed up to the idea these last few months. I feel like I probably will after we're married for a while. But I can't say for sure!
Yes, it would be nice to have three or four eventually. I'd rather have it one way or the other: no kids/being the cool aunt, or lots of kids.
I grew up in a big family and like the zany, busy environment that comes from it--having multiple children to play and grow up with each other, the friends constantly coming over, the big parties and Christmases, football games, big homecooked meals, noise, directing a small army to church on Sunday, all that stuff.
When I was younger I didn't want kids, but I think the teacher/nurturing blood in me has won out! Seeing a child learn to do things like walk and talk is one of the most amazing experiences. I'm laid back enough to be unconcerned about kids "ruining my life." Raising multiple kids would be tough, but quite a fun adventure all around.
P.S.: I totally don't get that "mini you" sentiment people float around. All of my siblings are VERY different from each other, and completely different from our parents. It's procreation, not replication!
God no, not right now, and I have a really hard time relating to people my age with babies because our lives are sooooo different. I can't imagine having or wanting kids right now.
However, in 6 years when I'm 28, out of graduate school, and my husband is hopefully more established, we would like to have two kiddos. He really wants them and I'm warmed up to the idea, just not right now.
We're planning to adopt (five years in the future at the absolute earliest, but it will probably be more like 10-15).
I've really been into the idea of adopting, but DH wants one of his own. So hopefully one and one!
My SO and I both want kids someday. I grew up in a big family, and I can't wait to have a big family of my own! Hopefully we can have them biologically.
But due to my PCOS, it might not be an option and we are open to adoption. Guess we will have to wait and see if we can have kids of our own or not.
I want kids so bad that i am even willing to have sex with my husband to get them!
YES I KNOW IT'LL BE A CHALLENGE BUT I CANNOT WAIT TO HAVE BABIES!!!! I THINK PREGNANT BELLIES ARE THE CUTEST :)
@AnastasiaM: That !
I want kids more than anything !! SO and I talk about it sooooo much !! I CANT WAIT !!
I voted "others" because I'd like to have biological children and possibly adopt my 2nd child sometime down the line. DH and I have also decided that if we have fertility issues, we're going to move straight into adoption instead of fertility medicines/treatments.
Neither of us have any interest what so ever in being parents. It makes our bond that much stronger :) We have all kinds of plans for our future that are made a LOT easier by the fact that we won't have children.
I would really like to have my own biological children (eventually). Adoption is not out of the question, I just haven't thought about it very much at this point in my life.
Some days I want them, some days I don't.
Overall I know I will want a child and DH definitely does. The urge has been getting a little stronger lately. And I'm sure in a year or two we will be more than ready.
@jellybellybear: So you too are addicted to Reddit. So is my FI.
That being said I didn't vote because none really applied. I do want kids but not for a very very (very very) long time. I would say I will start considering it in about five years. Adoption is always an option if things don't occur naturally.
Nope.
We talked about it before marriage and have talked about it since--neither of us wants kids and we're happy to stay as we are forever.
I love kids. I have 3 nieces/nephews who I spend a ton of time with, I work with kids and have for many many years, but I just have ZERO desire to have any of my own.
On top of that, I know too many terrible parents and too many terrible kids to want to roll the dice. I think at least 50% of the positive things people say about parenthood are excuses and rationalizations for their own decisions. I know that kids can be amazing and great blessings, but it's just not a road for everone, and I wish FAR more people would choose a life without kids.
YES! We're planning to TTC in the spring of 2012, but I would be totally happy to start now :)
Ideally we'd like two biological children, but if it's not in the cards we would also be more than happy to adopt.
I want them, a lot. If I can't have them naturally, I would like to adopt. I cant imagine my life in the future without having them.
FI said whatever I want is fine with him, whether we have none, one, or two (pretty sure he would put a stop to it after 2), but he wants us to be done having them before he is a certain age (he is a little older than me), so that he can still save for retirement, etc. I understand. One of the nicest things he ever said to me, actually, was that if we can't have them, he will always be fine with us just the way we are (just me and him).
No, we aren't planning on having any children for the most part. However, sometimes I do think it'd be nice to have 1 child someday, but it will most likely be through adoption if we do.
@jellybellybear: I'm no sure I understand how having a kid is selfish? I think it's actually rather selfless to be a parent, since parents give up so much and do so much for their children. (Well, some parents don't, but you know what I mean.)
I do want kids, and so does FI... probably several. We'll try for bio first but if we can't we'd definitely consider adoption, and maybe we'll consider it even if we do have bio kdis too.
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