Post # 1
Sorry if this has been done recently but I’m just curious how many bees out there truly have no idea. I feel like I always see bees say they absolutely want kids or they absolutely don’t. I also feel like people I know IRL all know exactly what they want as well.
I’m not in a huge rush to figure it out as we are only 24 but I’m just curious how many others out there just have no idea. I feel like my reasons for both sides are selfish so I’m hoping I just figure it out in the next six years.
I’m also curious to hear from bees who absolutely didn’t want kids and ended up deciding they wanted them.
Post # 3
@MrsBeck: Some days I do, some days I don’t. We’ll see where the chips fall, lol.
Post # 4
I flip-flopped a lot. I went from NEVER wanting kids, to desperately wanting one.
Now that I have one, I am happy. DH likely wants another, but I am really unsure that I want any more.
Post # 5
Definitely. I want to have one. I’m 27 and we are planning on either getting pregnant in 2014 or 2015.
We are set on only having one child. If we change our minds later then we would adopt. I’ll be having my tubes tied after our one biological baby.
Post # 6
Nope. FI and I consider ourselves to be CBC (childfree by choice).
Post # 7
I scare myself sometimes that I’m so gung-ho about kids. But first things first…
I must finish my degree. I must finish my degree. I must finish my degree. I must finish my degree. I must finish my degree. I must finish my degree. I must finish my degree. I must finish my degree. I must finish my degree. I must finish my degree. I must finish my degree. I must finish my degree. I must finish my degree. I must finish my degree. Dear Lord help me, I MUST FINISH MY DEGREE.
Post # 8
Sometimes. Right now the only kid related things I want are the novelty type stuff. I like the cute clothes, pictures, parties, and picking names. Then I remember that those novelty things make up about .0000001% of being a Mother, and I change my mind.
I figure a genuine desire to have a baby might come. I think there’s also a chance that desire will never come. Both are fine by me.
Post # 9
Absolutely. Which is good, since we already have one.
Post # 10
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
We have 1 already, so we had better want kids. lol
BUT I went into our marriage saying I absolutely, 100%, without a doubt did not want more kids. One and done. No more for me. Uh uh. No way. DS is a teenager, so why in the heck would I want to start all over again for crying babies and poopy diapers? And then, without any warning, I changed my mind. In one moment of aching clarity I realized that doing it all over again was exactly what I wanted because I’m really happy being a Mom and I am not ready to let go of family dinners every night and hearing “I love you mom” every day once DS goes off to college in just a few short years. I was so darn sure that I didn’t want more kids right up until the moment when it all changed.
Post # 11
I can’t have kids and my FI and I are adament about not wanting to adopt (it’s just not our thing). Instead we fill the role of the awesome aunt and uncle according to our family and friends. We get the fun for a few hours a few times a year and pass them back to their parents in the end. It’s a awesome arrangement!
Post # 12
@MrsBeck: I think we’re twins.
Post # 13
I do want kids, but if we are not able too, I don’t foresee us taking measures to go above and beyond to get pregnant.
Post # 14
@littlemisst08: the novelty things are why I sometimes flip flop. And then I think about how nice it would be to have kids when I’m old to take care of me (one of those selfish reasons I mentioned). I’m hoping someday a firm decision just hits me either way!
@MrsPanda99: Haha same here. Sometimes I flip flop multiple times on a day!
Post # 16
We don’t want them & have not fliped flopped on the issue, and we are almost 30.