Post # 1
I am curious if you ladies wear your engagement ring and/or wedding band when you go on job interviews. I have a really large e-ring and even though my husband and I make roughly the same amount of money and I have no desire to be a SAHM (when we eventually have kids), I worry that my e-ring and wedding band send a message to potential employers about my commitment to a career. The last time I interviewed for a job was before I was engaged, so I have never had to deal with this before. Does anyone have any experience with this or any thoughts on the right thing to do?
Post # 3
@septcabride: I would wear my wedding band but not the large e ring.
Post # 4
I would wear my e-ring, I know plenty of career minded women with giant e-rings.
Post # 5
I’d wear it – if someone is going to hold a prejudice against me for being a married/engaged women, then it isn’t someone I would want to work for anyway! Plenty of married women are very career minded.
Post # 6
If I had to interview somewhere before I was married I’d probably wear either my wedding band only or band + ering. They can’t ask you your marital status but I do think some people notice and I would rather they assume I’m married than single or engaged (married = stable, single = less stable, engaged = needs time off for honeymoon).
Post # 7
I wholeheartedly agree with @FutureKMM. My ring isn’t big, but of course I’m wearing it. I don’t think people would hold it against you at all. If an employer judges me because I’m getting married, there’s no way I would be happy there over the long term.
Post # 8
I’m totally struggling with this, too. I had a great interview with a company recently, and I’m wondering if that’s why they didn’t hire me. They were really strict about being late and giving days off, and I could see them not wanting to hire me because of that. I have another interview on Friday, and I’m kind of considering popping on the wedding ring.
Post # 9
I think if some people might find it over the top (ie. it will definitely stand out or get noticed) then I’d just wear my wedding band, if even that.
The point of the interview is for them to get to know you PROFESSIONALLY. I would never wear/carry anything that might give an interviewer too much insight into my personal life since you never know what their prejudices may be (things like the necklaces with children’s birthstones or cell phones with photos on the home screen).
They need to make their decision based on your work, not your home life.
Post # 10
I have never thought of NOT wearing my e-ring on a interview.
I agree 100% with @Mrs.KMM:
Post # 11
I’d wear it. Honestly when I got my promotion my boss told me he was looking for someone who would stay with the company awhile. Telling him that I was recently engaged and planning to build my life here actually helped.
Post # 12
I didn’t. With the job market as it is, I didn’t want to give people a reason to not hire me.
I know in a perfect world it wouldn’t matter, but depending on your field, married does not = stable, married = wants to have babies and single = more flexible schedule, can work longer hours, won’t be having to take maternity leave anytime soon.
Post # 13
I wear mine. But, I also have an emerald, which means people don’t make assumptions about its meaning. One of the perks of forgoing a diamond is walking around without a blatant sign of my relationship status on my left hand. It keeps my personal life more personal.
Post # 14
I live in an area overflowing with independent women who wouldn’t even consider giving up their careers because of marriage (and it also happens to be an area that is very expensive to live, so most people couldn’t quit even if they wanted to!).
It wouldn’t even occur to me to not wear my e-ring. If you live somewhere that has a higher occurance of bailing after marriage, i’d maybe be more concerned.
Post # 15
I wouldn’t want to work somewhere that thought that way about married or engaged women. I wear them and if someone has a problem with it, they can kiss my….well they don’t have to hire me.
Post # 16
I have actually worn a fake engagement ring. I think you are taken more seriously if people assume you are “settled”. Granted, I was applying for a job in nj and i am from around the boston area, and people always assume that you are going to flee soon after the job offer if a better job in your area comes along. The fake e-ring was to show my commitment to my boyfriend at the time. Saying “I moved here for my boyfriend” doesn’t show nearly as much commitment as “i moved here for my fiance”. So yes, I would most definitely wear both.