- 3 years ago
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I soooo get what you mean
yes, it seems that a lot of times (not just on the bee, but in general) people try to find any reason they can to get offended
I think people in general need to grow a thicker skin and be less politically correct. Hurt feelings solve nothing.
I think it goes both ways but yeah I kind of hate when I feel like I can’t say what I’m thinking. I wish I could just say “you’re being ridiculous and crazy” when it fits instead of biting my tongue or having 96399 bees @ me and say “zomg internet bully!”
Yes, I think sometimes people try to read too much into what other bee’s say. Then it snowballs into a back-and-forth argument that really doesn’t need to happen.
@Future_Mrs_Dr_I: What does PC mean ?
I have a problem with negative criticicism in general. I prefer to be told things more tactfully, it makes me feel as though the person truly wants to help me (even if he or she doesn’t agree with me). I find some comments very fiery and sometimes when I see a nickname, I already know the tone they’ll use in their answer.
Sometimes there are topics that I take more personal, and I might want to express my feelings (if a situation saddens me, or angers me) through my answer. I’m trying to stay ”neutral” when I write but I always feel bad if someone replies as if they were attacked (by me), because it’s never my intention. I’m still struggling with my English and sometimes I lack proper vocabulary to express my thoughts as well as I would in French, and I guess it can be perceived in a way that was not intended to. I am always willing to apologize when this happens because I hate conflicts and I just like to socialize and have people to talk to over Internet – the Hive is the ”girls night out” I don’t have in my real life, and I don’t want to be seen as someone looking for a fight, but just someone who wants to chat and express opinions in different conversations. Needless to say, I don’t like drama from other Bees either.
I do not agree with ”people need to grow a thicker skin” (though I understand what people mean by saying that). I would go with ”people need to think they do not answer a computer screen, they answer a human being”, and sometimes this human being is vulnerable for XYZ reason, and you can truly hurt them through harsh words.
Hmmm I’m trying to find out what pc stands for lol. Eh, sometimes I notice it and scroll back to where the “altercation ” starts out of curiousity . Sometimes it seems reasonable other times an overreaction. I don’t worry too much about wording things, if someone misunderstands that is their problem. Though I also don’t go around trying to offend people
Oh, thanks ! I’m not sure I answered the question correctly because I understood it as ”do you think it should be less fighty-fiery” (from the Jerry Springer reference). Sorry.
I rather that ppl have differing opinions and not be afraid to share them. That can lead to some pretty heated discussions. I rather that there be no name calling, foul play etc. Otherwise heated discussions are the best on the Bee. Ppl have some really great inputs.
Yeah. I just posted on the Is anyone else sick of the holidays thread, and ended up deleting my last sentence cuz I thought it’d cause an issue. People can be way too sensitive.
I couldn’t vote because, I don’t think any of your options applied to me. I don’t like the drama, but I prefer that people not say things that they know will likely offend and hurt people. I’m not sure exactly what you’re trying to get at. But for instance, every now and then someone throws the “R” word out there when they’re trying to describe a situation that they think is dumb or stupid. Then someone on the Bee will call them out. In my opinion those people need to be corrected, and find a better way to express themselves. That’s just one example though. For the most part, I prefer when people try to be PC. It’s not that hard.