Do you wish you had babies sooner, later, or was the time just right?

posted 4 years ago in Parenting
  • poll: How do you feel about your timing
    I wish I had waited longer. : (16 votes)
    26 %
    I wish I had started sooner. : (17 votes)
    28 %
    The timing was perfect : (28 votes)
    46 %
  • Post # 4
    1862 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @canadian-b33:  I was just thinking about this question today!! I have baby fever BAD, but then I was wondering if later on I would wish that we had waited longer?? We’re planning to TTC in January… Hope you get some responses! 🙂

    Post # 5
    4050 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    Curious about this too!

    Post # 6
    158 posts
    Blushing bee

    Ok I’ll comment 🙂

    I was 18 when my son was born.

    I wish I had waited to have kids since I hadnt even completed highschool yet (although now I wouldnt trade my children for the world!)

    If I could go back to baby free days…I would enjoy the freedom to do what I wanted and the peace and quiet lol.

    Best thing about being a parent is watching my children learn and explore the world. Of course the baby belly laughs are awesome as well lol.


    Post # 8
    7138 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I had my first at 26 which was a good age.  Due to life circumstances I didn’t have my second till 34- which I felt was a little late.  If I could have re-written history I would have had the 2nd at maybe 28 or 30.  But you can’t always script your life.

    Post # 9
    806 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    i had my son at 19, way too early but now im kind of glad that i got it out the way because i can have my time to myself for the most part now that hes almost a teenager. i wasnt prepared at 19, but you always grow and learn while raising your children. i dont think anyone is fully prepared at any age. and now thinking of TTC with FI in a year or two, and im not quite sold on it yet. i enjoy our freedom


    Post # 10
    9696 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @canadian-b33:  I will be around 30 when we have our first. I always thought I’d start having kids around 25 but that didn’t work out. Finding the right man was more important than getting knocked up! I am glad that I waited until I was in a stable relationship with stable finances. We could start now, but we are choose to wait a few more years.

    The timing is perfect for us but some people may see it as too late.

    Post # 12
    133 posts
    Blushing bee

    30 is no 20.  Getting pregnant after waiting so long was a nightmare.  I’m not sure how my body will recover or if I’ll be able to keep up with my child during the toddler years.  I don’t want to say I wish we had tried sooner, though because I was not ready even a year ago.  It took coping with deaths in both families for my husband and I to realize we were strong enough for anything.  I recommend to others that are younger and wanting kids to do it, though.  It’s just biology.  It’s sad that it takes my generation so many years to get their lives in order enough to start their families.

    Post # 13
    1738 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014


    age your first baby was born:  I was 18.

    how do you feel about the timing? In hindsight was it perfect or would you have preferred to wait longer or have gotten pregnant sooner? I would have waited a bit longer but I have no regrets. Everything worked out. I like to think I’d have been able to afford children more easily if I’d waited longer.

    if you could go back to your baby free days, what would you enjoy the most? I wouldn’t go back but I enjoyed having more time to myself.

    best thing about being a parent?? I have enjoyed watching my children grow into wonderful individuals who have so much to offer the world around them. It hasn’t been easy but I wouldn’t change much of anything.

    Post # 14
    424 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    age your first baby was born: 29

    how do you feel about the timing? In hindsight was it perfect or would you have preferred to wait longer or have gotten pregnant sooner?  It was perfect timing for us. We waited 1.5 years after getting married to start TTC, did some traveling, and got the rest of our party days out of the way.  It took us 5 months to get pregnant so we were so ready by the time our BFP finally came the day before our 2 year anniversary.  Our baby girl is now 4 months and we are thrilled to be parents!

    if you could go back to your baby free days, what would you enjoy the most?  Honestly, I wouldn’t want to but maybe I’m still just reveling in her newness.  :). Don’t get me wrong, sometimes it would be great to go to the store without it being an Olympic event.  But overall I wouldn’t want to go back.  I know I will be excited to travel a little more when she gets old enough to enjoy it,  but we are excited for family and kid-friendly vacations and sharing those memories with her.

    best thing about being a parent?? Watching her grow and change every day.  And baby cuddles are seriously the best.  

    Post # 15
    3832 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    commenting to follow….. : )

    Post # 16
    14812 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I had my son at 21, he is 20 now and out on his own. It was tough, but i think it was perfect timing for me. Shoot, 1 more year and DH’s youngest will be out on his own and we’ll still be young enough to really enjoy the empty nest! 

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