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FI and I are definitely eloping for various reasons (if you care to read: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/eloping-but-worried-about-fmils-reaction). Almost all of our married friends/family/bosses have told us in the past "You guys should elope, we wish we had just eloped and saved all that money and saved ourselves from all the stress!". I'm curious to know out of the newlyweds here, who wishes they had eloped instead and why?
Thanks and congratulations to all you newlyweds! :)
There were times that I really wished we had planned to elope. But there are a lot of factors that made that absolutely not an option for us. And now, looking back, I wouldn't have changed a thing - I loved my big wedding! But congrats to you on your decision!
At times yes but I still loved the wedding and the memories of it!
I do! The wedding was good, everything we wanted and planned for a year, but what I really loved was marring my husband!
Yes, and I'm not even ENGAGED yet. Ha. To be fair, we've been doing alot of planning and its really overwheming.
Well. I just posted on your other thread reently that we are now eloping after cancelling our May 1 wedding. We are thinking Coziumel, Hawaii, or ??? So far, everyone seems super supportive and actually relieved (expenses would have been tough on everyone, almost). I was so excited today to find out the trolley co, refunded our deposit! $195.
I don't know if cheerful is still around,but I love her "black tie elopement"!
Thanks for the reply all. :)
Arizonabride: I recall you from the other post (thanks again for your input!). So glad you got your money back, I too was relieved when our pastor etc refunded the money. The blue ocean in Cozumel looks wonderful, Hawaii wold be amazing too, are you set on somewhere outside of the country? Just think how awesome a two week all inclusive type vacation/elopement would be! Aaaaaah, bliss. We are going to go on a two week vacation to Colorado, do some snowboarding, dog sledding, visit a wolf sanctuary, hike, get married, eat, drink and be merry- with minimal stress. :) I will look up Cheerfuls posts now.
I would have loved to elope! In fact, if we could do it all over again, we would elope. The wedding was fun and great, but the marrying my husband part was the best!
It comes up from time to time during planning - especially when everything seems too overwhelming. I can definately understand why you're doing it.
Negative, it was too fun!
Although it would've been nice to have that 20K back in our bank accounts, LOL.
I dunno I was so dead set against eloping in the beginning, now that I feel I've
HAD the wedding, I *could* elope and be ok with it!
But i think that's only because I ultimately DID get to experience a wedding!
There's something naughty and fun about running off and getting married, though, that I love. Romantic and dashing...
Sometimes, when I realized how much money we were spending on stuff, I thought to myself "Is this really going to matter when it's all over?" lol, but I am glad I have the memories & the pictures & that my family was all there and got to share in it.
We eloped on Sunday although we're still having the family wedding in May. I wanted to elope, he wanted the wedding so we both got what we wanted. What I loved most about Sunday was is was just about he and I. I didn't care about my hair, makeup, dress, making other people happy or worrying about anything else but commiting myself to my love for the rest of our lives. It was amazing. But I am looking forward to the party in May :-)
Nope. Loved the wedding just the way it was. We wanted to have our families and friends around us to share our joy and celebrate with us. You can have a small, intimate wedding without eloping. Great memories for all!
We had a really small wedding, and it was very nice. On one hand, I still would have loved to just run off somewhere and get married. But on the other, I'm an only child and Mr. Mary Jane is the oldest in his family... so it was important to our moms and dads - we could not take that away from them.
No!! I loved our wedding :) but we were lucky to go through it all drama and relatively stress free
I'm kind of feeling the "I wish we had eloped" thing right now. Things are not coming together as I had hoped. I think by the time the day comes I will feel differently and I will be glad that we did it with friends and family (especially my little ones) present. I hope!
I think sometimes people say they wished they had eloped because it makes them sound cool and not bridezilla-ey. I have even said this. But I loved my wedding, I loved walking down the aisle and dancing with my family, and hearing the toasts, and celebrating with all the people important to me. I wouldn't go back on it for anything...
No. I actually loved our wedding, and so did Mr. Swan. He was still talking about it weeks after. In my mind the word elope means going away and secretly getting married. My Momma would have kicked my butt if her only child did that so that was not even an option. If anything we would have done a very small destination wedding in the Caribbean where I was born and where much of my family still lives. That being said, I had didn't have a stressful planning process or wedding day. I know that is not the case for everyone. I say do you and what will work best for you.
Yes, we have been dealing with bad timing for our families and it would have been less stress on them and us if we would just elope. But we are too deep in deposits to turn back now.
No way, never for a second. Seeing my mom's 5 sisters and her all in one place at one time (hasn't happened in 20 years, might never happen again) was incredible. Cold cash in the bank has nothing over the love and warmth we felt over our wedding weekend!
I wouldn't have eloped, but I think I wish it was longer and little more low key like our rehearsal dinner.
I am engaged and not a newlywed. Initially, I had REALLY wanted to elope. Mostly because I just didn't want the expense of a wedding. I saw pics from my friends elopement in NYC and was a little jealous and I saw beautiful pics from an elopement in Paris with the bride & groom in front of the Eiffel Tower and the bride ice-skating in her dress. It looked magical...
But in the end we decided to do a small wedding (with around 35 guests). And the reason is because I know it is the only time that all the special people in our lives will come together and all be at the same place at the same time. I think of it more as a family reunion than a wedding... and because FI and I have lived overseas and not seen our families for a year and a half, it will be like a nice welcome home party. I wouldn't trade it for a thing...even though it is a bit of an expense I feel like an elopement would have been nice but we would have missed out on this once in a lifetime opportunity to have an excuse to get everyone together.
Yes and only because it was yet again all about my MIL. We just got our pics back and I want to burn every single one of them she is in. I am reliving all the stress she caused, all the stunts she pulled, all the hurt she caused among everyone.
We would have eloped only to save the money.. but we had a great time at our wedding and I wouldn't change what we did for the world!
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I totally wanted to do a destination wedding in Mexico, with maybe 10 guests. I still would love to do that. But the boy's parents refuse to fly so.....
We were originally planning a medium-sized wedding in our hometown, but it just got out of control. We were going to be planning a wedding for 200 people from 500 miles away, while I'm in grad school and the fiance would be finding a job. Then trying to figure out family stuff and work with our tiny budget just got to us.
We decided to "elope" with our parents, brothers, and grandparents, and we've been totally satisfied with that decision ever since. But of course, it's different for every couple. At times, I worry that I'm going to look back and wish I'd had a big wedding, just like people who are planning the big wedding sometimes wish they'd planned to elope.
We joke about it often, especially when wedding planning gets tedious, but we're happy with our decsion...so far! haha
Sometimes I kind of wish that I can. But I've been so lucky to be surrounded with so much help and support from my friends and family I can't imagine not having them there on my wedding day - even if it's just to have a big bash of a party after the ceremony!
We aren't eloping (the thought definitely cross our minds) but ended up choosing a destination wedding. We want the feeling of eloping, but we didn't want our immediate families to miss out on the union. So we have a guest list of only 18 for our wedding in Florida! The one thing I keep hearing from women when I tell them our wedding plans, is that they wish they would have had a smaller wedding because they spent all night saying hi and hello to everyone they didn't have any time to spend quality time with their closest friends and family. So we're pretty excited for our DW!
My fiancé and I wanted to elope from the beginning since we're very private people, but our families wouldn't hear of it. We went ahead with planning a small City Hall ceremony (including family) and a larger reception, but even the thought of a small group of people looking at me drove me to therapy. We finally decided to have 2 ceremonies; the private city hall one with us, and a public one at the reception for everybody else. So now I feel like we still get our "elopement" and the parents get the big ceremony they wanted.
Nope, when I think about how great the weekend was and how much fun we had. Yes, when I think about how much it cost!
We eloped... it was a lot of fun and we saved a ton. We drove a few hours and stayed in a "resort" at a huge lake. We got married on the bluffs.. it was really nice. Afterwards we went swimming in their giant pool and played on the waterslide with my 6 year old step daughter. Overall, it was a fun vacation with a bonus wedding. We would have gone out of country like your plannning, but it wasn't an option at the time. That would have definitely made it way more awesome 
... but... I really wanted a wedding. It would have been small but I loved all of the planning we were doing before eloping. Plus, our families were not happy with us. I didn't talk to my brother for like 2 months after I got married. It's all fine and dandy now but it was really stressful at the time.
We plan on having somekind of anniversary party in the next few years to make up for it. Kind of my husbands way of meeting me in the middle since he was the one who really pushed for eloping.
Shhhh! But we eloped in August but are still planning a wedding for this coming October (it was already scheduled, eloping was a spur of the moment thing!). We got together in Sept 2006, bought a house in Nov 2007, got engaged in Mar 2008, and eloped in Aug 2009.
It was pretty sentimental (and his idea!) since we did it in our first house together and its also where we got engaged. Our parents and my brother were present and then we went out for a quiet dinner before Mr JKH and I headed down to the casino for the night.
No one knows about our elopment because I think they will judge us and think we are just having the wedding to get gifts -- which is the complete opposite!!! We will be able to focus on the wedding day itself and have fun and enjoy all the hard work and $$ we put into the festivites for our friends and family to enjoy. Plus I have a fabulous dress I bought and am dying to wear!! I also enjoy knowing that we are secretly married and were able to do it in an intimate way.
Sometimes it's tempting, but I'm much too dramatic of a person to elope. I want the fancy dress and gorgeous shoes and amazing party. What I would love is a small (30-50, that would be family only) person ceremony and reception that would be way more intimate than what we are having.
I wanted to elope so many times during the planning process. But, I'm glad that we stuck it out because I wouldn't trade our wedding day for anything in the world. It was amazing celebrating with our friends and family.
YES- but I think it's because the planning process has caused some drama at times and sometimes I have thought it would be less stressful to just get it over with.
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