Post # 1
This was my fiance and I’s first Christmas together, and while we didn’t spend it with my FMIL, she bought us both nice gifts that we wanted. I got her/the family more of a “host” gift when we came up around the holidays, but now I’m starting to realize that by joining FI family, I will be getting them ALL (3 siblings,2parents) gifts every major holiday.
I’m wondering what you guys do. Do you buy your MIL mothers day presents? or birthday presents for all/any of the inlaws? Was it awkward transitioning to that point?
Post # 3
Me & fi do combined gifts from both of us – we give gifts for his mom & dad, and sister. We give gifts for my parents, brother & his daughter and fiance.
We give gifts for christmas, mothers & fathers day.
Post # 4
@sauerdragon: my husband takes care of gifts for his family and I take care of gifts for mine. The only gifts I hVe bought my inlaws were thank you gifts for hosting my bridal and baby showers.
Post # 5
Combined gifts for birthdays,mother’s day (his Dad and both my parents are dead) and Christmas.
Cards for other occasions.
Post # 6
I do gifts for Mother’s Day/Father’s Day, birthdays, and Christmas. FFIL is very hard to shop for though!
Post # 7
Yes. I observe the gift giving culture in their family. They exchange gifts – immediate family/grandma. Birthdays, Christmas, mothers & Father’s Day. It so happens that they do pretty much the sane as my family has always done so it was natural to add their gifts, it wasn’t hard to remember or anything. Thankfully their family is more modest in gifts. My family is sooooo over the top that it takes A LOT if time & thought just to cover my family. FIL side don’t go so overboard & there are no neices & nephews (5 on my side) so shopping/buying for their side is a breeze by comparison.
Post # 8
We do combined gifts for our families. I buy for my parents and siblings and he buys for his parents and siblings.
ETA: We send gifts for Christmas and birthdays. We would probably take them to dinner for smaller things like mothers day but we live a few states away so we usually just send a card and call them up.
Post # 9
@MrsBeck: We do the same thing. Although some Christmases we will each buy specific presents for the other’s parents.
We also will frequently invite them over for a nice meal to celebrate something. Like, we almost always have his family and grandmother over for a mother’s day meal. I don’t think we do gifts then but we do try to make it special (i.e. nice wine/champagne, high quality steaks, assortment of sides).
Post # 10
The past two years, I have gotten gifts for my siblings and put FI’s name on them for Christmas/birthdays. FI has does the same for his side of his family. We each get each other’s parents gifts for Christmas/birthdays, but that’s because we both tend to go in with our siblings on gifts for the ‘rents. This Christmas will be all joint gifts, because we’ll be married.
Post # 11
Combined gift for all birthdays and holidays for both sides of our family
Post # 12
- Wedding: May 2014 - Beach
my FIL didn’t live in the same country for the past 5 years so i have never got him any presents. Me and MIL however are very close. We see eachother on a regular basis even if FI is not around. I get/got her the biggest gifts on her birthday like: bag, shoes,wallet,silver necklace. I always get her flowers on mother day and maybe a small cute gift. Also when Im travelling or so i get her a souvenir and chocolates. My sister in law’s got me a gift for my birthday seperatley so I do the same thing. He has 2 sisters so every year 2 presents 🙂 thats all. I know it maybe too much but i think it’s nice to gift someone on their birthday or mothers day even if it’s a small gift. My MIL always gets me those big gifts that im truley thankful for lol but i would also be very happy with a small gift
Post # 13
We don’t do Christmas gifts but occasionally we’ll send surprises. We just got my DH’s father a cookbook from his favorite restaurant in NYC and I sent them an album of all of their favorite shots from our wedding (lots of family shots.)
Post # 14
@sauerdragon: Not awkward at all; I buy his whole family gifts for Christmas and such. Same with fathers day/mothers day. But obviously its a gift from us as a couple, not just myself. Most natural thing in the world!
Post # 15
My FI doesn’t give his parents gifts. They also don’t buy him any – they are just weird like that. No, they just buy everything they want all the time that once the holidays come they never like or appreciate what you get them so no one tries anymore. FI and I will probably go in together for my family.