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Does she have memory problems? Most adults would write it down or put something on their computer calendar instead of asking you 5000 times.
I'm not sure if my girls remember the date, but my fiance sure as hell can't remember it. Sigh.
MMM they better or else they better tell me now if they wanna be in it!
Has she heard of a pen? she needs to write it down and maybe stick it somewhere she can see it every day or once in a while.
They should know since they are in the wedding, I'm sure she doesnt want to double book herself so she should write it in her planner.
yes, they do. sometimes they give me countdown updates on my facebook. it's pretty amusing.
Umm has she heard of this little thing called a day planner or calendar? lol. That's odd that she keeps asking you, it's almost as though she wants you to know it isn't important enough to remember. I'm not trying to start something, I'm just saying, short of having memory loss issues, I find it hard to believe she *actually* forgets your wedding date every month lol.
If she's super busy she must rely on a calendar. Send her a meeting invite on google calendar or lotus notes or outlook or whatever she uses.
The bmaids do, but the GM are clueless ... even after save the dates went out. She will be there, don't worry!
Just remember that your wedding day will never be as high a priority to someone else as it is to you. She's not forgetting on purpose or to be offensive/rude. It happens even among closest friends.
Hmm, does she HAVE one of your STDs on her fridge or something? Maybe she really just has a bad memory and needs visual reminders. Or maybe she's been asked to do other things that weekend and just wants to check. I know I do the latter when it comes to other friends weddings quite a bit.
At first one of my BMs couldn't remember but she was busy planning her own wedding. Now that she's married she's got it down :) There is one groomsman that I have to remind all the time though. He even took the wrong weekend off of work AFTER the STDs and invites went out.
@ Ms.MedinaJr - Exactly, I feel like asking her if she's ever heard of a pen! The dumb thing is that she owns a blackberry, so I'm sure that device has a built-in calendar? Doesn't it?
@ shaydenise - I also find it very hard to believe that she actually "forgets" my wedding date every month, considering she designed my STD's. I mean, I'm not asking for her to make it the center of her universe, I just want her to put it on a calendar somewhere so she won't double book on the day of. Her forgetfulness is irritating me.
@ Mermaid 1082 - The weird thing is, our groomsmen know exactly when the wedding is, they even know the time and location, etc.. but this one bmaid does not.
Yes, they do. I would be offended if they didn't. She should write it in her planner or something.
PS: this is what our recent conversation looks like:
Jade: When's your wedding date?
Amber: Lol. October 9th.
Jade: This year right?
Amber: Yes ma'am.
Jade: Oh crap.
Amber: What's wrong?
... no reply ...
Should I be worried??
WOW...that is really sketchy! She should respond to you...she should know that'd have anyone freaked out.
Wow, that last convo is ridiculous. Yeah, it seriously sounds to me like she's doing it on purpose. If she is clearly comparing that date to a calendar or something, she can obviously put this event down as well. I would either buy her a planner with the date marked or make a joking comment like, "Geez, when are you gonna write this down?" and laugh about it. We'll know you're serious but she will think it's joke but still hopefully take the hint. lol
Thanks shaydenise! I'm seriously worried. I just don't know if I can say anything that won't make me sound like a bridezilla. Even if I joke about it, this girl is super sensitive and she'll take it the wrong way. She has a blackberry so I can't exactly give her a calendar, lol. She's also the girl who couldn't agree on a bridesmaid dress. So, I finally picked one that she particularly wanted. But then she didn't order it on time and it got sold out on Nordstrom, so now she's getting hers custom made. She is causing me anxiety issues, lol.
@ Mermaid1082 - ya, she's normally flighty and disorganized, but she has been a bridesmaid a dozen times so she is kind of aware how important it is to remember dates.
Eeeesh, I think at this point you have a right to ask what's going on. Not in a BZ way, but in a concerned friend way.
My MOH came to visit me 2 weeks ago and had to ask when our wedding was, but she wrote it down in her planner so hopefully no more questions?
I think that she is either very disorganized, has a memory problem, or being shady (how can you forget the date if you helped make the STDs).
YES! i have a blackberry and it does have a built in calendar! its really neat too! if not im sure "THERES AN APP FOR THAT" lol
One of my BM's asked me at my shower last weekend. It really annoyed me. The rest of the girls know the date, or at least I assume they do. But another BM had to be reminded that my shower was the upcoming weekend when we got together the week before.
Eh, I don't think it's out of the question that she forgot/forgets. Some people are just bad with dates. I know that me helping with the STD would be unlikely to impress it in my memory - I would process the date only insofar as necessary to finish making the STD. However I would write the damn date down somewhere and reference that anytime I forgot - I would suggest that to her. :)
i have a couple that don't know for sure and keep asking.. write it down!
I hope so...you remind me that I should probablly send an email to remind them of it.
I think it's understandable that some people are bad with dates and always ask, etc. At least it shows she's thinking about it! It would be one thing if she was like, "ok it's the beginning of October is the first or second saturday?" Something like that. But that convo is alarming not just because she doesn't know the date, but because she doesn't know the friggin YEAR! AND she is implying that she isn't 100% sure she can make it (with the "oh crap" comment)
I would ask her about it for sure. It isn't BZ to say: In our last conversation you implied there might be a conflict with the wedding date, and you always seem to need a reminder about when it's actually taking place -- what's up with that?
That conversation would really be freaking me out. Fortunately, it's still a little ways away. We had an usher forget when it was and he bought tickets for a show that night. We still had enough ushers so we just cut him. We didn't feel bad about it. Cutting him was more his own choice, but it was still annoying to remove his name from everything. We found this out about two months before the wedding.
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This is a bit weird, but my bridesmaid and best friend of 16 years keeps asking me when my wedding day is. It's like she can't remember the date. I have told her repeatedly when it is over the past year and a half, and now it's 5 monhts away. She still text messages or emails me every month asking me when it is. Granted, she is a busy lady and we hardly see each other because of our busy careers. But we email every day, and she was even the one who designed my STD's. Do your bridesmaids remember your wedding day? Or do they need constant reminder?