Do your friends dislike your fiance/husband?

posted 1 year ago in Emotional
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Bumble bee

My friends all like FI, although when we first started dating him my one of my best friends resented him a lot. She’d always liked him before we got together, she likes him now, but in the first 6 months or so of our relationship, I spent a lot more time with him and a lot less time with her, so that created tension. She told me one day she thought he was an ass. Her bf is my FI’s best friend and we would all hang out together and we never really got any girl time. Once we started making more time to catch up without the guys, things went back to normal and they get along fine now.

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Bumble bee

Yes, I had a friend that emailed me at work at 5:00pm just 4 days before we eloped to tell me what a bad person my FI was.  Because it was my last day at work before the wedding I didn’t see it until afterward.  Yes, she knew when I was getting married so it was a well executed passive-aggressive move on her part. 

Notice I said that I “had” a friend.  She had already said bad things about him and I had warned her to stop.  The crazy thing is that she never even met him.   I’m fairly certain it was all out of jealousy and I told her so when I ended the friendship.  We had been friends for 20+ years and her ignorance ended it all. 

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Honey bee

My friend said she would take my husbands side if we got a divorce even if he hit me. They love him. And it’s sort of annoying because when I’m pissed at him I want them to be pissed at him too!

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Sugar Beekeeper

Nope, they love him. They all hated my ex, and I really should have taken that as a sign early on, haha.

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Helper bee

@vorpalette:  Exactly. My best friend hated my ex and I should have taken it as a sign. 

 

My friends love my FI. :)

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Buzzing bee

My friends all seem to like him, and I’m fairly certain my family like him better than they like me!

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Busy bee

I think my friends like him and a few love him. But the ones that like him I think it’s because they know he loves me and treats me well, otherwise they don’t have a whole lot in common. Regardless, they all support my decision and us as a married couple.

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Blushing bee

@chronicwhimsy:  Haha I feel like my parents like FI more than me sometimes too! I guess its a good “problem” to have.

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Sugar bee

After I broke up with my ex, a LOT of my friends told me they never liked him. Well why the hell didn’t you tell me?

I take it as a bad sign when my friends or my cats do not like someone. Luckily FH has passed the test with both!

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Bumble bee
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My friends/family like him now.  lol  They thought DH was too sarcastic for their taste but they learned that that’s how he is; and, they learned that he is a good guy all around. 

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Busy bee

Like many people, I have two groups of friends.  Friends I’ve had for a long time that mean the world to me and “friends” that I hang out with when I want to go out but I’m not particularly attached to.  The first group loves him, the second group not so much.  It used to really hurt my feelings that they didn’t like him…and then I found it it was because THREE of the guys in the group had been trying to get with me when I started dating him!  LOL!  Sorry charlies, you weren’t good enough ;)

 

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Buzzing bee

No, and it would be a red/yellow flag to me if they did. They don’t have to love him and want to hang out with him, but they need to think he’s a good fit for me and not dislike him.

I have great people in my life. I trust their judgment and take their opinion seriously. Sometimes people outside a relationship can see things that someone caught up in love can’t.

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Busy Beekeeper

Nope, they all love him.  I can’t think of a single person who doesn’t like him – he’s pretty awesome.

If more than one or two friends don’t like your guy, I might think they’re on to something…

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Busy Beekeeper

My friends/family love my FI.  However, I am kind of on the other side of things with a friend of mine.  I dislike her BF.  I haven’t verbally said this to her, because she really wants things to work out with him, but I have warned her to put her own well being first.  The reason I don’t like him is because he’s cheated on her, and I’m fairly certain he’s still doing it.  Since I don’t have undeniable proof, I won’t bring this up to her, and I genuinely hope that he is treating her better.  No matter what, since she is my friend, I will support her; even if that means I’m her shoulder to cry on when he does something horrible.

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