Do your friends know you're waiting?

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: Do your friends know you're waiting?
    Yep, and we talk about it all the time : (18 votes)
    33 %
    Yep, but it's not really a conversation : (14 votes)
    26 %
    Nope, and I wish I could talk to them about it : (8 votes)
    15 %
    Nope, and I'm cool with it : (12 votes)
    22 %
    Just show me the results! : (2 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    496 posts
    Helper bee

    Yup they know and if embarrasses me that people know. I am afraid that I am going to resent my SO even if we egg engaged and married because of this. Hopefully not

     

     

     

     

    Post # 4
    Member
    451 posts
    Helper bee

    My 3 best girlfriends (and the rest of the world) know it’s been coming for a while now.  But now that he’s bought the ring they are on somewhat high-alert with me.  We are all 40-47 so it’s not a huge level of excitation.  Well to me it is.  🙂

    My mom, his parents, our children all know it’s coming (though I’m not sure if the 6 and 9 year old quite “get” engagement, but they know we’re getting married).

    It took him 2 days during a trip with his parents to get up the nerve to talk to his mom.  I had already had the talk with her and then the next day he did a serious sit down talk with her.  She called me immediately afterwards to dish.  The next day he bought the ring.  I think it’s hilarious that a 38 year old man had a hard time telling his mom we were getting married.  I think it’s because he chose so poorly the first time (his mothers words, not mine).  I’m glad she approved!

    Post # 5
    Member
    2125 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    @lilmisty:  Good question. Nope. My friends have no idea. I want them to be completely surprised. My family doesn’t even know the extent of it, my mom and brother knows he has my ring, but that’s it. 

    Post # 6
    Member
    525 posts
    Busy bee

    No one knows I’m waiting. 

    Post # 7
    Member
    3338 posts
    Sugar bee

    People know and tease him about it too ! He really is taking his time… and most of the people he meets tell him he needs to stop the waiting ! haha 🙂 

     

    Post # 8
    Member
    1506 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    @lilmisty:  Yes. My friends and family know… but I wish they didn’t! I told them about a year ago when we went ring shopping (thinking that a proposal was coming soon…) but it hasn’t happened yet, and now EVERYONE asks when its going to happen/why it hasn’t happened yet. It makes me feel bad… I’m not sure why, but it does. And it makes the waiting process even worse when people bring it up all the time. Luckily, my friends only bring it up to me and NOT him… but my family likes to make little comments to him here and there. I wish people would stop talking about it.

    Post # 9
    Member
    68 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    My closest friends know. Of course like me they are hoping for sooner rather than later. But they are very supportive and will be some the first people I call when it does happen.

    Post # 10
    Member
    444 posts
    Helper bee

    No one knew I was waiting until recently.  When SO asked me to start figuring out what I like in rings almost 3 weeks ago, I told my closest friends.  Partially because I wanted SO to have their contact info in case he needs second opinions 🙂  They bring it up with me as often or more often than I do, and they started calling my SO my “pre-ance,” haha. I’m loving that they know, now.  I’d have felt weird talking to them about it until things were set in motion.

    Post # 11
    Member
    1242 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand

    When I was waiting, I told immediate family and  two of my closest friends. Other than that, no one else knew and were truly surprised lol it was a lot of fun!

    Post # 12
    Member
    61 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    @LeonardLady:  im totally in the same boat as you!  i know exactly how u feel! my family/friends knew FI had the ring and I hated the remarks i used to get! i wished i never told anyone we went ring shopping but i was just so excited when i finally found the ring and i blurted the news to my mom, sisters and bestfriends, i then got questioned constantly about why hasnt he proposed/when is he going to propose.. etc all the time!! after a while i started to get the feeling no one believed we went ring shopping because it took him so long to proposed..  i now realise it was because they were just as excited for me and in the end everyone was over the moon for us when he finally asked!!

    Post # 13
    Member
    292 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    My close friends know we’ve been looking for rings. They don’t know that he’s bought one though (he doesn’t even know that I know) and I’ve stopped talking to them about it so that when he actually proposes it’ll be a bigger surprise

    Post # 14
    Member
    633 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    Great topic! A few of my closest and oldest friends know I’m waiting mostly because I go on a bitter rant to them whenever someone we know gets engaged and they figured out the root of my passive-aggression. I try to stifle myself from blabbling/complaining too much because they can’t really relate to my situation. On the other hand, my best friend from college definitely knows and I feel more comfortable talking to her because she went through the same waiting period for a long time before she got engaged last year. When a proposal becomes more obvious or imminent in the near future I can imagine I’d mention to my friends that I think it’s going to be soon, but I wouldn’t give details or go on and on about it so it would be somewhat of a surprise when it actually happens. I also fear that talking about it with friends too much can make it hurt more if/when “life happens” or SO’s drag their feet and proposals don’t happen when we expect them too.

     

     

     

    Post # 15
    Member
    2052 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Yes my friends, coworkers and family knows that I’m waiting.

    Or at least they did.

    I’m at a point now where I’m ready to work on changing that perception.  Lots of interaction with both of our families next will provide me the opportunity to ‘play it cool’ lol.  I’m also sick of talking to my coworkers about this, which is why I find this website and the waiting hive so helpful.  I know some people may think it’s weird, but it’s a lot better than being crazy about this IRL!!

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