(Closed) Do your in-laws spend the same amount on Christmas presents on both you and SO?

posted 6 years ago in Holidays
  • poll: Do your in-laws spend the same amount on Christmas presents on both you and SO?
    Yes, all members of the family gift us equally : (41 votes)
    32 %
    Some members of the family do, but some members do not : (38 votes)
    30 %
    Nobody gifts me the same amount as SO : (37 votes)
    29 %
    Other (explain below) : (12 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 3
    118 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I voted other. Usually we get gifts for both of us, not individual ones.

    Post # 4
    7349 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    None of the adults exchange presents in DH’s family.  Only the kids get presents.

    Post # 5
    6998 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    My husband def got more gifts from his family then I did but I was not expecting much anyway – we did however get several gifts to the two of us which was nice.

    Post # 6
    1488 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Fiance got TONS of gifts from his parents. I got one, and it wasn’t even a good gift. But, it’s whatever. I don’t expect much from them anyway…..

    Post # 7
    5371 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016

    It depends on the people and the year (: The first year we were dating they gave me a $50 bill last minute because they forgot I was coming. I also didn’t get a stocking. But as the years (this was our 4th Christmas together) went on they’ve started making the presents between us a little more equal. One of his grandmas doesn’t give me a gift, and the other usually spends about the same on both of us. His brother has always spent $20 more on me than my SO hahah. It just depends (:

    Post # 8
    2891 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Fiance asked that his family not get him anything this year and instead buy for me and the kids. I didn’t know he was doing that. It is rather sweet 🙂

    Post # 9
    741 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I had to go with other – For the most part gifts are shared between couples to save money.

    Post # 10
    10288 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    My IL’s always spend more on Darling Husband and his brother than they do me and my SIL, but we still make out pretty decent. My BIL & SIL used to spend around the same amount on Darling Husband and I (normally a $50 gc or something) but in recent years they’ve cut back. Last year they spent probably half of what they gifted Darling Husband with on me and this year neither of us got anything (well, besides 3 copies of the same framed picture). His grandmother always sends him $100 and this year I got $50. Heck of an upgrade from last year when I got what we refer to as “the puke scarf” (it looked like it was covered in vomit but it was actually just really ugly). 

    Post # 11
    5670 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    We usually get joint gifts. We stopped doing gifts with all of our sibling because there are too many so we just receive gifts from our parents and grandparents.

    Post # 12
    3798 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2018

    SO gets more, but that’s fine.  His mum crocheted me a handbag, it’s amazing!  And I really wanted a new one.  It’s the same with my side: I get more, but SO still got something he really wanted from my family.

    Post # 13
    38 posts
    • Wedding: January 2013

    FI’s parents spend more on him than they do on me, but that doesn’t bother me at all.  His family is more than generous at Christmas time as well as the rest of the year.  My parents spend more on me than they do on Fiance.  I don’t expect his parents to spend the same amount of money on both of us when Fiance is their child!

    I did spend more on my brothers for Christmas than I did on my SILs, but I always try to get something nice for them!


    Post # 14
    5668 posts
    Bee Keeper

    We get a few joint gifts but no, no one gifts us equally.

    Post # 15
    228 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    my FI’s family always spent more on him, and i never minded. but i think this year it was all equal between us. 

    my family didn’t give Fiance gifts, then they’d give him a little, and now we all get the same. my parents gift us with cash so it’s easy to compare. hehe

    Post # 16
    573 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Both my family and FI’s family gifted us an equal amount. FI’s family actually gifted me the same amount as him last year (our first Christmas together) but my family didn’t gift Fiance the same amount until this year. 

    Like other PPs mentioned, we also get gifts given to us as a couple. One of those this year was a Keurig, then a variety of Kcups to use. 

    For those who don’t get equal gifts to their Fiance, does it bother you at all?

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