Post # 1
My SO’s parents are pretty well off and still pay for quite a bit for SO. SO is 26 and has a solid job and makes decent money, but his parents still help out quite a bit. Yesterday, for example, his mom paid to have his oil changed and tires rotated. Next week, we’re making the 13 hour drive to see them for Thanksgiving, and they’re paying for all gas and lodging. They still pay for SO’s cell phone, student loan, send him clothes, and sometimes put $ in his account just because. Don’t get me wrong .. SO still pays for a lot on his own, but as someone who has been living on my own since 18, I was surprised by how much they pay for.
Or maybe I’m a wee bit jealous. I have great parents and I love them, but they were raised with the mentality that once you’re out of the house, you support yourself. And they’re very middle class, and therefore don’t have a lot of extra income. But SO has never had to worry or stress about money because of his parents. I, on the other hand, had to get by on ramen noodles way too many times throughout college. 🙂
But a positive aspect of that is that I feel I’m very responsible when it comes to money/finances and know how to be frugal!
What about you and your SO? Do your parents still support you?
Post # 3
Nope. I’ve been on my own since college. I wouldn’t feel comfortable accepting that as a full fledged adult, and i’d be worried about what strings may come attached to that help further down the line. If my parents wanted to help, i’d much rather that they save all the little bits of money and give down payment assistance for a house or something. I’d feel more comfortable with that than the day-to-day living assistance for some reason.
Post # 4
My parents do things like…if I say I want to come visit, my dad will offer to buy my plane ticket. My mom bought me a set of china last year. But they don’t pay for day to day stuff.
My fiance works for his dad’s company, so that’s a little different.
Post # 5
@pokie45: Heck yeah they do. I work for my dad and he still pays my health insurance, they have bought ALOT of things for my daughter, they have put groceries in my fridge “just because”, and they put gas in my car sometimes because they feel like it. My DH’s parents do too. They pay his phone bill and his health insurance. I will do the same for my kids too. It’s hard being out on your own and my parents see it as “you are doing great with paying your bills and saving up money, so we will pay for some things sometimes and you put the extra in your savings”
Post # 6
I moved back in to my parents house almost 2 years ago because of financial hardship. I don’t let them pay for anything; my dad always wants to though. It is more than enough that they let me move back in. I would feel bad if they paid my bills or for car repairs.
Post # 7
I started working at 13 to help my mom pay bills so I definitely don’t get help from my mom I generally am helping her out, same goes for Fiance he sneaks his mom some money whenever he can if we can afford it to try and help her out. To be fair though his mom got breast cancer a few years ago and all of the medical bills have basically wiped her out. If offered I wouldn’t really feel comfortable taking money for either of our parents.
Post # 8
Wow. Ive been on my own since I was 18 and Darling Husband about the same. His dad usually picks up the tab for family dinners (2 or 3 a year) but thats about it. I can’t imagine my parents paying my student loans or cell phone at this age…or really any bill for that matter.
Post # 9
The only thing my dad has paid for since I turned 16 was my cell phone and health insurance. Health insurance stopped last year and the phone stops at the end of the month. Everything else has been on me.
Post # 10
@pokie45: No, my parents dont pay for anything. My mom may take me out to lunch occassionally but neither my fiance or my parents are well off so they aren’t really in a position to support me. Which is the way I prefer it. I appreciate what I have because I had to work for it!
Post # 11
I’m a student and still dependent on my parents. I earned enough scholarships and grant money that I don’t have to pay anything for school. They cover my rent and give me a little extra each month. Right now since I am jobless but looking, they are covering a lot more.
My SO is 28 and his parents will give him money whenever he visits. It basically covers all his travel costs, plus a little extra. When he spends time with them and go out to eat or to an event, his parents pay. They also give him money at holidays and birthdays, but that is it.
Post # 12
Not even a little tiny bit.
Post # 13
Typically no – I pay for my own life and have since I finished college. The only time that changes if it is something I do for them, and then they insist on helping. Sometimes I can turn it down, sometimes it would be rude. Most recently, I am hosting Thanksgiving (first time!) and they sent a small check to “help with groceries.” But outside of things with them, I pay my own way.
Oh, I forgot. They pay my cell plan, too, because we have a family plan. That’s going to change as soon as my contract expires, though – Darling Husband and I are getting our own plan.
Post # 14
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
My Mom loves to buy us gifts (birthday, christmas, mothers/fathers day, big life events, etc.), and my parents always insist on paying if we eat out with them somewhere. If Momma wants to buy me the dishes from our registry as a housewarming gift, I am not going to say “no”. 🙂 But money for actual expenses would be off limits in my book. I have my pride to think about, and after living on my own for this long, uusing parental money to pay for expenses would just feel like a personal failure to me.
Post # 15
No. I got a LITTLE help from them while I was getting established right after college but after that, absolutely not. ESPECIALLY not at 26. I wouldn’t feel right taking my parents’ money for things that are my responsibility.
Post # 16
Neither of our parents are all that well off so my SO moved out at 17 and paid his way since and I moved out at 19 and worked 3 jobs. My father and I own a business so our company pays my phone bill and our salaries. My SO’s parents will help out by loaning money which we will pay back rather than paying a bank, or by offering to loan us their car until we got a new one when ours became undriveable. They do things to help us get by but don’t outright buy or pay for our bills or expenses.