do you/will you call your (future) in-laws “mom” or “dad”?

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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2006 posts
Buzzing bee

Nope they will always be “jack” and “jill” to me. I have a mom and (step) dad that are very deserving of the titles mom and dad (even though I call my step-dad by his first name because I was over 18 when them met/married).

Post # 4
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2788 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I am afraid that I am hurting my in-laws feelings though by not calling them mom and dad, but I cannot get over the weirdness.  Maybe in time…

Post # 5
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347 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

I don’t call mine anything but their first name.  When my husband and I send them cards for their birthday/holidays/etc. we always write Dear Bob/Dad for my FIL and Dear Susan/Mom for my MIL.

I have a mom and dad…and one set is enough for me.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I’ve called my fmil mom before we even got enaged. Mostly because I love them so much and my parents always called their in laws mom and dad too.

Post # 8
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3316 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I don’t think you’re alone on this.  In fact, as far as I can see, the most common way of dealing with this is not to call your in-laws anything for several years, after which your children will invent a name for them that you can use.  😉

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Mine wanted me to call them by their first names.  I can’t call someone else mom and dad.

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Mine wanted me to call them by their first names.  I can’t call someone else mom and dad.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I just call them by their first names, but his grandparents sometimes I call “Papa” and “Grandpa”. He calls his grandmother by her first name so I do too. I don’t think they would notice either way, but when everyone is saying Papa, it seems weird to say his first name.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Well my mother and father are “mom and dad” to me.  He calles his parents “mama and papa” and for now I call them mama B. and papa B. (Last name beings with B)  Or sometimes Mama to Be etc…and that’s how they sign off to me on email, cards and such.  I’ll prob. transition to just mama and papa after we’re married and I’m fine with that.  I guess b/c it’s diff. from what I call my own parents?  He calls his grand parents Lolo and Lola , and aunts and uncles are all Tita/Tito, and I already use these terms with them so…?  I dunno.  Their family is so full of love and open warmth and just GOODness that I feel like part of the family pretty much already so I guess that’s why it’s easy to use these terms with them? 

Although, he hasn’t been around MY family as much as I’ve been around his, so I have no idea how it’s gonna work on the flip side!? 

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

My FILs told me I can call them Mom and Dad. It still feels too weird to me, even though we’re really close. I tend to not call them anything, which is a bit weird! I still call them by their first names when talking to other people. 

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

No way!  However, if the family dynamics were different I would have no problem calling them “mom” and “dad”.  I doubt that they would even expect me to, as we never even hug (even after receiving xmas and birthday gifts, which used to drive me crazy since I’m from a family where some of my earliest memories are being squished by my parents as they chanted “huggy huggy huggy”… anyway).

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

FI’s wants me to call his parents “mom” and “dad” but I feel weird about that- I still have managed to avoid calling them anything. In my mind they are Mr and Mrs ******* because they have the same names as my divorced aunt and uncle. I don’t know my parents will result in FI calling them mom and dad.

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