Post # 1
My DOC has gone above & beyond (IMO). She’s doing all my flowers, is willing to scour the internet/area for things I need (I live in the UK- getting married in Philly).
Last night we were talking about tips (who, how much, etc) and she very definitively said NOT to tip her. I was planning on tipping her….hmmm?
Perhaps a very nice present? Gift card to her fav restaurant? Flowers? What do you think is apprioprate?
Post # 3
Is she self-employed, or does she work for a company? As an employee, she may not be able to accept tips/gifts…
Post # 4
Hmmm… she’s an employee. I never thought she wouldn’t be allowed to accept tips. This is quite a minefield this tipping thing.
My matri’d is an employee- but I am expected to tip them.
Why is it any different?
Post # 5
I know in my current position, I’m not allowed to accept "kick backs," as some call them. Some companies have policies against that, preventing unprofessional or unfair business partnerships, etc.
Maybe you could email/call your DOC’s manager, and see if they’re opposed to you giving your DOC a little something extra? That way it doesn’t ruin the surprise, if she can accept them.
Post # 6
If she prefers no tipping, I would honor that request. I would probably end up going with a more personalized or sentimental gift. Maybe you could get her something unique from the UK? Or, something that will help her for her next wedding, like a moleskin notebook?