Post # 1
So, a person that I am friendly with but don’t have a “friendship” with has agreed to be my DOC. She isn’t a professional and I am aware that I am not getting a pro. I am paying her a couple of hundred dollars for the day and have told her her fiance could attend the wedding as well, but I have made it clear that she is “working” the wedding. Since I don’t expect too much to do once the reception starts, I don’t mind if she relaxes and has fun with her guy. Now, if she wasn’t acting as DOC, I wouldn’t normally have invited her. So, my question is, do I send her and fiance an invite or just keep it to the verbal invite?
Post # 3
@Sweetnsassy: I’m sorry, what is a DOC?
Post # 4
@leannteresa1 sorry, a Day Of Coordinator. Someone to do all of the logistical stuff and act as a point person during the wedding and reception.
Post # 5
It sounds like she’s a vendor. Vendor’s don’t get invites.
Post # 6
@Sweetnsassy: I sent my DOC a wedding invite but it was partly so she could see our style for the wedding. But for this particular situation, I don’t think it’s necessary.
Post # 7
@Sweetnsassy: This is a slippery slope… I think so you are both very clear put everything in writing. If she will be responsible for set up when will she arrive, when do her official duties end. Many of the formal wedding resposibilites will be done after dinner is served however there are still things that need to be attended to- ex. first dance (if not done at the beginning), cake cutting, bouquet toss, garter toss, vendor tips, etc etc.
If you are really clear about your expectations then everything should be fine but get it in writing.
Post # 8
@Phebelasha: +1 for getting it in writing!