Doctor Bride! Invitation Wording help!

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Doctor Bride: Should I include my title of M.D. (medical doctor) on my invitations?
    Yes - You earned it! It's time to change some outdated wedding rules! : (49 votes)
    25 %
    Only for a formal wedding - black tie : (10 votes)
    5 %
    No - only reserved for professional settings and not weddings (can seem pretentious) : (102 votes)
    52 %
    It's your day - do what your heart tells you and makes you feel happy! : (34 votes)
    17 %
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    I would do mockups of each way and see which looks best.  We went informal so we just included first and last names, no Mr. or Miss.

    Either way would be appropriate here so it really depends on what you prefer.  I would definitely put one or the other in it if you’re throwing a formal wedding though.  You worked hard for that title!

    Miss FirstName MaidenName, MD

    OR

    Dr. FirstName MaidenName

    Post # 4
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    1056 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014 - Cedar Lake Cellars

    My FI and I are both Drs. and we are leaving it off the invite entirely.  Anyone you invite likely knows that your a doctor; you shouldn’t need to tell them.  However, if it’s important to you, then your proper title would be Dr. and his would be Mr.

    Post # 5
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @bonbonsparklesMD:  I found this reference:

    For example, if the bride is a doctor and her parents issue the invitation, her title should not be used. However, if the b ride and groom issue the invitation, the bride’s name should be preceded by her title, (e.g., Dr. Mary Elizabeth Jennings).


    There is some interesting discussion in this post about using or not using titles in invitations:

    http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/invitation-wording-for-marrying-a-doctor-use-title#axzz2uYG6BNMO

    Post # 6
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    8914 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

    it is my hope that etiquette rules will change and women now will be acknowledged for their accomplishments and addressed by their proper titles as well.

    Obviously you want to, so go for it!  I certainly wouldn’t turn up my nose if I saw that on an invite.

    Post # 7
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    1040 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    Both FI and I are doctors, and I don’t plan on using Dr or Mr or miss on the invitations. It’s far too formal for my taste – our friends don’t call us by our titles so I don’t see why it should be on the invitation. But I’m not planning on a super formal wedding either. 

    Post # 8
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    4641 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @bonbonsparklesMD:  Do women really need acknowledgement of their accomplishments on a wedding invite? I think most people in attendance are going to be aware of what you’ve accomplished and that you’re a doctor. Other Dr bees have valid points about why they didn’t include it..

    Post # 9
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    260 posts
    Helper bee

    I would leave it off.  Everyone attending would know of this title, I think it’s a bit unecessary.  If your hubby doesn’t have a similiar title, it could make him feel badly about being less academically accomplished.

    Post # 10
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    260 posts
    Helper bee

    Oh I apologize, I see he is also an MD.  I say go for it then.  If you’re for sure putting his title, you should have yours as well.  

    Post # 11
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    1084 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I have to say that I don’t really understand why MD’s so frequently need to be referred to as Dr. I understand that is a big accomplishment but no other high level professions (PE, JD) use their accomplishments as part of their title except in the professional world.

    But, if you want to include it then do so. Because it is so commonly used I wouldn’t imagine that it would be odd to see it.

    Post # 12
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    i would think it was a tad bit pretentious… obviously you should be insanely proud of being a doctor! but i’m sure everyone already knows. i understand an MD is quite impressive but people don’t put BSc or RDH (i’m a hygienist) on the invitation. i just don’t think it’s the time or place, personally.

    Post # 13
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    @bonbonsparklesMD:  I would leave it off, just like I would any other title (would you say Ms. Name if you weren’t a doctor?). That goes for both men and women!

    Post # 14
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Most of the invitations I’ve seen don’t have any titles at all just – just first and last name (what we did) or sometimes first, middle and last name. But if you’re using Mr. for him then I think it would be okay to use Dr. for you. But I wouldn’t use the MD and I definitely wouldn’t use both Dr and the MD. That seems a little bit of overkill.

    Post # 15
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    130 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Since it’s a social event, professions or titles don’t need to be mentioned. If you choose to use them where others have noted it’d be appropriate, I’d suggest referencing either your title or the degree, not “Dr. Name, MD.” 

    Post # 16
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I voted “use it!” because I know I would!

    But you can always write Dr. Bride on your chair sign. 😀

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