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In the past couple of years, every woman I'm friends with on Facebook who has become pregnant has created a photo album containing weekly photos of her "bump." I find this a little bizarre. Why does the whole FB-verse need to see your belly get bigger?
Does this bother anyone else, or do people find it cute? I don't meant to offend anyone who has done or plans on doing this. I would honestly like to hear your thoughts on it.
I don't mind the occasional pictures. But I do think sometimes it's overkill to do it every day or every two days. And I'm incredibly not a fan of the pictures with almost no clothes on. I knew someone that posted a picture of her right out of the shower with just a white sports bra on, hair wet, all of that out there to show that she still fit into her size 4 jeans in her 7th or 8th month of pregnancy. Sometimes the pictures are cute though and with some people I like the occasional update, just not everyday.
I have seen a lot of people recording this now. I guess it's in place of having a photobook at home so that all your familiies can see it?
Occasional pictures? fine. Every freaking status update about how horrible/annoying being pregnant is and all that...not so much. It gets old...fast.
There are a couple of people who do that on my facebook. It doesn't really bug me though. One of them is on bedrest so I think she is bored out of her mind.
I don't mind the photos, but the constant updates with TMI are over kill. Especially the updates while in labor. Way too much TMI
@pinkb: I'm not a fan of labor updates either. I've seen updates all the way to 8cm dilated and I just can't imagine myself updating my Facebook status while in labor. Maybe a quick "Headed to the hospital" but I can't picture myself sitting in the bed with my phone updating everything (maybe I'm wrong and it'll be different when I'm the one in labor but I don't think it will).
Yeah the TMI facebook updates really get me! I know some people have long labor and are bored but I don't really want to know the details!
I like the monthly progress pictures...weekly/daily is probably too much. What I hate is when someone starts recording pictures of it and then just stops and makes the entire thing pointless.
I'm 28 weeks along and I think I've posted 3 belly shots (not nudie belly, with clothes covering it). And occasional big milestones or questions posed to moms. But it's definitely not the only thing I post about. My friends/family who don't see me often actually ask for more pictures. I'll probably post once to let people know we're headed to the hospital and then to let folks know the baby is here. I DON'T want "I'm 4 cm dilated," "6 cm," "oooh, the contractions." I think it's easier to spread info via FB/email so I'd rather go that route than to make 100 phone calls.
I totally agree with you. Actually, I can't wait until facebook goes away. Guess it's me because I never got into it and haven't been on since the summer. I guess I'll announce my pregnancy but since I really don't talk to anyoone on it to begin with, do I really need congrats from people from high school I haven't seen in like 10 years. I would never be posting pictures of my belly or anything like that. I just think facebook makes everything so unpersonal and not private. I even think the pictures people put every single month of their babies with signs next to them stating how old they are is kind of corny. Like I get it, you want to show your baby off but I'm still not into posting pics of children on the internet. And posting updates while you're in labor...really bizarre to me..
I dont mind the occasional picture but what I really can't stand are the stretch mark pictures. I'm in no way making fun of those with them, I've got plenty of my own, but I would never in a million years post of picture on the internet of my stretch marks. No-one wants to see that.
there is a girl on my friends list who was posting about her constipation problems when she was pregnant. um, let's just say her statuses got hidden after that. WHO DOES THAT?
Lol, I think it's entertaining. Facebook gives people an opportunity to be vain, full of themself, showcase themself. I think pregnant ladies are no exception. I have a couple of friends who had babies in the last few months and all three of them change their facebook photos weekly, one does it daily. When she was pregnant, she changed her bump photo daily. It's entertaining as an outsider. I mean, I enjoy seeing photos of their babies but it's also not a huge deal outside of parents/grandparents.
I will add too that I don't mind pictures with clothes on if the girl pulls her shirt above her belly or even if she goes to the beach. But I just thought a just out of the shower in your bra picture was a bit more than most people were probably wanting to see. And I totally agree that monthly, maybe bimonthly in the later months is fine. Daily is just a bit much.
Most of my friends who are pregnant are miles and miles away (one's in Italy!) so I love the monthly updates with pictures of bellies and discussions about doctor's appointments - on the other hands my friends are pretty good about not crossing the TMI line. I can understand the daily photos for grandparents/family that's far away (soldiers anyone?) but really, no one needs to know about the fun bodily functions that abound with Pregnancy!
I don't mind the occasional photos. In fact--I really like to see how some friends are doing... especially if they live far away and I don't get to see them. But you guys are right: they should definitely be fully clothed to put the photos on FB. I don't want to see your stretch marks or belly button.
I've seen weekly albums like this, and monthly, and I have to say, I think the monthly is much more my taste - 1) you can see a lot of difference (especially the first few months - one reallllly skinny friend posted pictures about how big her "bump" was every week for 4 months before she even remotely "popped" - it felt like a "Look at how skinny I am!" album more than an "I'm pregnant!" album), 2) it's more like, "Oh, hey, another picture!" instead of, "Oh my gosh, another picture?!" from that person. :)
Not a fan! I made a sincere promise to my friends that they would see nothing private about pregnancy and nothing about poop or vomit. I remain true to my word! I have no interest in knowing that my friend's water has broken or that she's started pushing... And I'm into babies! I can't imagine what people who are less baby oriented must think!
Wow! I am have stretch marks from my pregnancy, and I still rock the bikini. I could care less what other people think, if they don't like it, then don't look. A lady with stretch marks, has every right to post a picture as any other woman out there. I would never feel ashamed of my stretch marks, or any thing else about my body, and we as woman should definitely be encouraging eachother to accept ourselves, flaws and all. We are only givin one body, we might as well love it.
But to answer the original post, I actually love them! However, I have been pregnant before, and I didn't do updates because I hated how I felt pregnant ( very bloated, very tired, very pale). I think I may have taken 4 pictures in total, from 12 weeks to 41 weeks. I love to compare where I was to how they are doing. As for the labour updates, I have never seen them, I only have close friends on my list, so it is pretty small. Also when I was in labor I couldn't imagine updating my status I was too busy feeling like death the entire time! ha. Seriously that didn't even occur to me. I guess if you were on the epidural the entire time it would've been just boring as you probably couldn't feel the contractions, but then really, what would there be to update then?
STFU, Parents! My new fave blog :)
I think it's kinda odd too. But then again, there are people who post pictures of their weight loss week to week too.
I kinda like seeing the updates. They are proud and excited! And TBH if it bothers you, don't look!
I think everyone has experienced at least one annoying facebook friend who constantly updates. However, they're facebook FRIENDS. My profile is set to private so only my friends can see the things on my facebook. I've never been pregnant but I do post my pictures to share with all of my friends and family who live all over. I will, undoubtably, post pregnancy and baby pictures for my friends & family when the time comes.
A lot of my friends have a blog, and they'll do the bump pictures there, which I don't mind. But the crap on FB drives me nuts. I have one friend that goes so far as to post what she's feeling "used and tired today" was yesterdays. Ugh. Don't care. I also don't understand using FB as an update like: "heading to the grocery store" "just got back from the gym!". It's weird.
I don't mind the occasional picture. Ya know, the first little bump, the 6th month bump and my personal favorite, The YOUR GONNA POP! Bump.
Even before pregnancy I felt uncomfortable posting a pic that was showing alot of skin. Now showing off the stretch marky, red, big ol basketball lookin thing?? no way not for me! Please put the shirt down. If your noticably preggers then I will still be able to tell with the shirt down.
I do have to say though that a friend of mine started posting daily belly pics once she became over due. It was amazing how her belly litterally grew DAILY!!!!
I never had a friend do weekly updates or anything but I wouldn't mind at all. I wish I would have taken weekly bump photos (just for me, even if I didn't post them on FB). I was harassed on a daily basis by my mom for more photos. I think I ended up posting four? I just wasn't into it.
I've also never seen anyone post labor questions, but I have no idea why anyone would find it gross. Isn't it the same in real time as opposed to talking about it later? Plus a lot of women labor for DAYS and it may get monotonous. Maybe some of these women posting are proud to finally have gotten to 8cm after days of contractions? Dunno, again I've never seen it. But I wouldn't be weirded out either.
For the rest of the stuff, I was probably one of the people my friends hid or whatever. I don't remember posting about pregnancy symptoms much, but I definitely posted a lot of what was happening (going to another u/s, baby is measuring 5lbs now, etc). The updates were really more for my immediate family since we don't talk everyday.
A guy friend posted that his wife was 'unplugged' and the baby could come anytime now. Which led to someone asking more questions which led to explanation of the mucus plug. Yikes!
My posts are infrequently about getting something ready for the baby, in excitement rather than the technical stuff.
I agree! I find this so odd and rather personal. An occasional update ok. I get that some people are just trying to keep family in the loop and such, but really gets me are the people that go overboard. I'm talking pictures of their home pregnancy tests, weekly/daily updates and what really gets me are the ultrasound pictures. I'm sorry but I think they are rather personal and something to be shared with your SO, family and close friends, not all of facebook.
I have yet to make a facebook comment regarding my pregnancy and I have no intention of doing so in the near future. It's just not my cup of tea to share something that is this personal and wonderful with anyone and everyone, but that's just me.
Haha, I have not yet encountered an update while in labor -- that would definitely be over the top! Constant complaints about how uncomfortable pregnancy is would bother me, too. Um, nobody cares.
@JennyW1: STFU, Parents is pretty funny!
thanks all for your input!
Belly shots with clothes covering is fine. But honestly, I just don't want to see up close shots of naked belly. I have a friend who does this and while I know she's excited and i"m excited for her...it's just a bit much.
Agreed.
My cousin in law does the monthly update and I think that's super cute. I love seeing how her bump has grown. I gotta think for her it's WAY easier than taking a pictures, attaching the jpg and including every single person's email address. And in her case I know she's doing it because a lot of FB friends/family have requested. And she does the modest, fully clothed profiles. :)
But then I have a excoworker who updates almost 3x daily about her pregnancy. A little too much.
When I was pregnant I didn't post any pictures until 28 weeks and then only a few after that except for the actual "pregnancy photos" that my FSIL took and I posted saying that we were at the hospital but after that my FI posted a few updates to let everyone know how I was but I didn't touch the phone except to see what people replied to them. I was going to do the weekly shots but I didn't start showing until I was a few months along and then I started feeling fat and didn't want to show my huge belly. lol
I think FB is weird in general. And yes, I find that really kind of creepy and weird because I think of pregnancy as a private thing. I think I am super old fashioned, but some people just put it all out there.
I think that some friends will want to know, for other's it's going to be TMI. For people who do so, you can make your album limited to just a few who you will know how appreciate it. One of my best friends is pregnant right now, and I get updates from her via phone, but I would love to see pics! I wouldn't mind, but I know that others wouldn't appreciate it.
I say who cares. I'm not on Facebook to please others. I did weekly posts of my belly and then a timelapse at the end that documented my 41 weeks of pregnancy in 60 seconds. I loved it. I don't have anyone on my list that I don't know personally. I know all of my friends and I know they don't have problems with most things people have problems with. And if they do, they can hide my posts.
I think that when I am pregnant I will do monthly pics, plus ultrasound pics, because since I have moved 3 hours from my hometown, it will be the easiest way to keep family and friends updated. If some people don't like it they can feel free to block me.
The only time a pregnancy-type pic offended me, was when it was a full-on vag shot while the baby was 1/2 out (ewwww - and I attend deliveries as part of my job ad an NICU nurse!)
I think the same people that tend to post every detail of wedding planning on FB also post every detail of their pregnancy on FB. I'm just not that girl. Most people don't want to know every detail of wedding planning or pregnancy (even if they are super close friends and family).
@Treasure43: I totally agree. I don't mind the clothed belly shots. I think they're cute...but the minute I see a naked belly...ick. Sorry...I don't find a darn thing "beautiful" or "artistic" about that at all. Just so not my thing.
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