Post # 1
So I am going back and forth everyday as to if I should do a first look or not. I dont really want to take our pictures at the country club we are getting married at. I would much prefer cuter pics of us at fun places like coffee shops, downtown etc.
But then that would mean he saw me before the wedding ceremony.
I still want him to see me as beautiful and as beautiful as if he hadnt seen me at all. What do you think?
Post # 3
I’m in the same boat. We have gorgeous waterfalls and the lake that I want to get pictures at but with a 3 p.m. wedding it’ll be near dusk by the time we get there. After thinking about it long and hard I decided I wanted to be old school and have his first look at me when I’m walking down the aisle so he gets the oohhhs and aaahhs when everyone else does 🙂
Post # 4
I am in the same boat also. As is FH.
Post # 5
I am in the same position – and have also decided that I would rather his first time seeing me be when I walk down the aisle. I don’t think either way is wrong, you just have to decide what is more important for you.
Post # 6
It didn’t take anything away from the walk down the aisle. We still had googly eyes and tunnel vision so we only saw each other. He will still think that you are beautiful even if he has seen you in the dress before. I really think it is worth it because then you can take gorgeous pictures and you don’t have to worry about wasting people’s time after the ceremony.
Post # 7
If you expect to be at all emotional (i.e crying) then I would do a first look. That is what FI and I have decided to do. Then we can share that special first look moment together, by ourselves, without the added eyes of all of our guests. Plus, I didn’t want all the pictures of me walking down the aisle to be me looking red faced and sniffly!
I posted a thread about this a while back, feel free to read the responses:
Should I do a “First Look”?
Post # 8
Ugh, we went back and forth about this as well. First we werent’ doing it, then we were, now we’re back to doing a first look. And that won’t change b/c all the logistics are worked out around it.
My sister just did it and it worked out famously. She was still shaking and super nervous when walking down the aisle, so I think that wow factor was still there for her.
Post # 9
Neither DH or I are all that emotional. We did a first look, but let me tell you, when I walked down the aisle…oh boy, as soon as those doors opened and I saw him, it was like we’d seen eachother for the very first time that day. There is something magical about walking down the aisle to your futurue husband (or seeing your future wife walk toward you) that makes everything else just disappear. Im telling you, our first look took NOTHING away from the walk down the aisle. If anything, there was less pressure for him to act a certain way while wondering if everyone was staring at him for a reaction. We got the BEST photos from our first look – those are almost 100% of the photos we ended up framing and putting in our album.
Post # 10
I don’t think it would ruin anythin. If anything, I think it heightens the moment by giving you some special time together, which you don’t have at the ceremony.
We didn’t do a First Look and I wish we had! It would have made everything less hectic.
Post # 11
I am definitely doing a first look…it captures that moment of awe at a time when it’s just my FI and me, and we’re not being stared at by so many people. I think it’s a really special time and I’m SO looking forward to sharing it just with him. Plus, I think walking down the aisle itself will be a really special experience and he’ll still be blown away 🙂
Post # 12
oh, and much like you, our first looks photos were all over the place including an ice cream/coffee shop. we got INCREDIBLE photos because we had a ton of time and no stress
Post # 13
youve made me feel so much better about my decision now! I just really dont like typical country club pictures. I want something more fun and non traditional.
and the only way I can do that is if we do it before the ceremony because our ceremony starts at 4:30 PM. @@
Post # 14
We did a first look and I am so glad we did. It did not take away from the moment when I walked down the aisle at all. In fact, it made it better!
I had “the Moment” twice – Once before we saw eachother for the first time and again when I was going to walk down the aisle. It’s still incredibly exciting!
Post # 15
Reading all the other responses made me want to add something. By seeing eachother before the ceremony, you get to spend that precious time together. When you are walking down the aisle, everyone is watching you and then afterward, you have to deal with all the people. You probably won’t have time to be alone until you go home.
Post # 16
I used to think so, but I don’t anymore. In fact, I wish we had done a “first look” because it may have helped with my hubby’s nerves so he didn’t have his silly, Elvis looking nervous smilie in almost ALL of our pictures in the church.