Post # 1
We want to either get married October 2014, or April/May 2015. We both really want to go overseas for a honeymoon so we want to be sure that we have plenty of money saved since I don’t start working fulltime until November this year.
Is an 18 month engagement quite long to you? Bees, if you have had an engagement this long or longer, did you find the time to go fast or slowly?
I should mention that my SO told me last month he will propose before April next year, and his mum blurted out the other day that it will happen before Christmas because he asked her about rings (could be when we go on our holiday!)
Post # 3
Nah it’s fine! I think the average is like 13 months or something. Ours was 16 and it flew by!!
Post # 4
My engagement is 18 months. Nice because we moved across the country twice and had plenty of time to figure things out. But gosh I just wanna be married to his guy already
Post # 5
Our engagement is about that long. While his mother thought it was too long, I think it’s perfect, especially if you want to do a lot of DIY or planning makes you feel overwhelmed.
You have to do what’s right for you in the end and wanting to save money is definitely a good reason for an 18 month engagement. Congratulations and happy planning!
Post # 6
Our engagement was 16 months long and I wish I would have done it 2 years out like I originally wanted to. DH and mom wanted us to get married sooner (April 2013, I wanted April 2014–we were engaged Dec 2011)
Post # 7
@sunshinewish15: My engagement was almost 2 years to the day. At first it seemed to go by slowly, but I’m getting married this September and since we hit the year mark, it’s been flying by! I will say… my friend had an 8 month engagement last year and although she pulled it off, she didn’t have her first choice of things. Since I had a 2 year one, I had time to weigh my options, meet with vendors and have my first choice. I didn’t have to worry about compromising due to people already being booked. This isn’t a problem if you have an “off” month like maybe February, but if you get married in “peak” wedding season, aka April-October, people book out far in advance! Also, if you can spread payments out, it can help too instead of having to pay all your vendors in a short period of time.
Post # 8
@RunnerBride13: Phew I’m glad to hear yours flew by!
@Zephi: Thank you for the congratulations 🙂 congrats to you too, I hope your day is perfect.
@lindseyl06: That is a shame she wanted to push you to marry sooner, but how exciting that you are married now 🙂
@SashaWest: You made some good points, I feel slightly more at ease about it now!
Post # 9
Mine was 14 months, we’re down to 4 months, and holy crap, it’s been so fast!! I think 12-18 months is probably a good length for most people. Gives you time to plan the wedding and get used to the idea of being engaged. 🙂
Post # 10
@carrotstick: Thank you for your comment. I’m glad yours has gone fast.. your day is only a couple of months away! My mum thinks anything over a year is long and so do many of my older family members, but I feel like people in their 20-30s seem to be engaged quite often 1-3 years? I guess times have changed a lot!
Post # 11
IMO, there’s no such thing as a too-long or too-short engagement unless you want to become parents for the first time and you’re both over 40. Then it’s possible to make a case.
Post # 12
@sunshinewish15: Yes I am glad it’s over and done with!!!
Post # 13
I was only engaged for six months, but really only because a cousin of mine that was going to be in our wedding joined the military, and so we decided to get married before he left for boot camp and being stationed far away. It seemed like a short time, but I really had no desire to drag out planning and everything like my husband wanted to do, so it was just the right length for me. Plus my cousin passed about eight months after our wedding, so I’m glad we were able to have him there.
My husband’s best friend recently got engaged, and he and his fiance don’t plan on getting married until summer 2015! But whatever works for the couple is what works!
Post # 14
Honestly, that sounds average to me. Mine will be 24 months.
Post # 15
we have been engaged for three years :/ and now since it’s hit the one year to the wedding mark, it’s flown.
Post # 16
Our wedding is in three weeks and our engagement was two years for date and financial reasons. I agree with PP that after the first year time flies. And I was able to spread out payments ect. One thing I will warn you about though is thinking you have all the time in the world… because you don’t! It will sneak up on you! I promise lol