Please don’t feel alone, or let others, who didn’t find themselves ready or mature enough to marry at your age, talk down to you. What is right for one, is not right for all. You can only live the way you know is best for you. I say this from experience. My fiance and I have been together since we were 15 (freshman in high school). From the beginning, we were just way ahead of our years. As funny as it may sound, by the age of 17, we had talked quite a bit about our futures individually and collaboratively, and just knew that we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together. We even spoke to our parents about getting engaged, and started looking at rings. We were both laughed at many times by jewelers, but the fact is, they were the joke. A year later, at the age of 18, we graduated high school, and moved to a new state, into a home of our own, to attend college. Less than a year later, on February 20, 2009, my fiance proposed. We were both 19, and ready to be married, in my honest opinion. We tried planning our wedding twice, but had to postpone plans each time, because our families were having financial difficulties. So, here we are, both 22, and finally getting ready to take the leap that has been over seven years in the making. By the time we get married, my fiance will be 23 (for a week), and I will be a week away from 23 (October 5th is FI’s birthday, our wedding is on the 12th, and my birthday is the 19th). In reality, we would’ve loved to have been married for a few years already, and sometimes it saddens us that we have had to wait so long, but neither here nor there, our love has grown, just as we have together and on our own. And, knowing that our hearts were right even at a young age, has given me the strength to overcome the negativity of others , past, present, and surely in the future.
My advice is to do what is right for you and your fiance. Love has no age, and should not be confined to one that is deemed “reasonable” by society. The fact of the matter is that marriage is something that must be worked-at mutually, no matter how old or “wise” one is. It takes two very committed individuals to make it a success, and can fail whether you are 20, 30, 40, etc. if that commitment isn’t there. Nothing in life is guaranteed. We must all rise above the negativity when it is so undoubtedly misguided. Likewise, we must have the ability to accept our mistakes, and admit when we are wrong, and others are right.
I hope you do not become too discouraged by the nay-sayers, and I wish you all the best!