(Closed) Does any other TTCer feel this way?

posted 5 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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1251 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

I understand you completely. FH and I tried for 13-14 months before we got a BFP, and shortly after we miscarried. Now, FH wants to wait a few years because I think he’s emotionally devastated, and so am I. I see FB posts daily about babies, or someone finding out they’re pregnant, especially younger couples who definitely weren’t (to my knowledge, of course) planning it. FH’s best friend and his wife got pregnant the month after they got married–the next month! I understand your pain. The only thing to do is to cut out social networking as much as possible, because stuff like that is ALWAYS going to be posted and is more obvious (I think) to those TTC. It really hurts, to want something so badly, and to see all these others posting about it, and it hasn’t happened yet in your own situation. Best of luck to you for next cycle, and baby dust!

Post # 5
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1272 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Wed2Attn:  i completely understand, and no, i don’t think it makes you a horrible person.

We’ve been trying for 15 months, and one friend who I was really upset about getting pregnant with a honeymoon baby is now about to give birth… and we’re still not even pregnant. It hurts.

I have two things I remind myself about to help me through:

1. I don’t know how long they’ve been trying, or what they’ve been through to get their sticky baby.

2. Their pregnancy/baby has no effect on our own chances to get pregnant.

These two thoughts help me feel a lot more peaceful about announcements – even if they sting in the first few moments each time. I find life a lot more enjoyable if i’m not jealous and upset all the time.

All the very best – and lets get our own sticky babies soon!!!

Post # 6
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142 posts
Blushing bee

I have recently been through the same kind of feelings. Turned up on my other half’s doorstep in floods of tears because another woman at my work announced her pregnancy.  At the time it felt like I was the only person going through this, and then i found all these lovely Bees! 

I just keep reminding myself that yes, we are allowed to have times like this, but as hamikay mentioned, we don’t know these other peoples ttc stories.  

And one day, I hope to have a sticky baby, and you will have a lovely family and there will be ladies who feel like we do now about us. All this is sent to test us, and to make it even more special when it does happen. 

Post # 7
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5109 posts
Bee Keeper

@Wed2Attn:  I cried on thanksgiving about a girl that got married in September is KU. Yes. In front of family! Lol

Post # 10
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5109 posts
Bee Keeper

@Wed2Attn:  lmao I can so relate. I went months without crying on BC. Now that I’m off of it I’m like an uncontrollable fountain of emotions. My poor hubby.

Post # 11
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190 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

As others have said, you are definitely not alone.  I didn’t begin to feel this way until after my miscarriage in October.  After that, and still even now I walk around stores or even look at my pregnant with twins co-worker and get mad that it isn’t me.  But then I do rationalize that who knows how long they tried to get pregnant or who knows if they too have miscarried or had other issues that can’t be seen.  It helps a little but it is impossible to not go through the motions wondering why isn’t it me and when will it be me.

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