Does anybody have a difficult sister?

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
505 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

yup, you’re not alone! as i was reading certain parts of your post i swore i thought i wrote it haha.

my sister has no friends (because she is mean and judges everyone), so i was her MOH. i made her my MOH simply because i didn’t want the drama and i knew she’d be super organized (and she’s been surprisingly good!) but she’s bitching about my friends not RSVPing/paying quickly enough for my bachelorette and i’m like STOP! it’s not for another month.   we also have a half sister with a 3YO son… she’s never bought him a gift or attended any of his birthdays. i wonder how it’ll be when i have kids… (since she clearly doesn’t want any of her own). a part of me does not want to introduce my future children into her and her husband’s toxic life… but i guess we’ll have to see when we get there. i actually decided no more gifts between my sister and i because she’s too cheap that she’ll ask how much i’m spending and spend the same amount to a T… so then we both gift each other $25 gift cards. it was stupid so i said enough of that.

Post # 4
3653 posts
Sugar bee

I think you “dodged the bullet,” by not having either of them in your bridal party. Maybe it’s time to announce that you’re having an adult only wedding? 

Post # 5
110 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Wow.. All i can say is that my 6 years older sister has a son i have not met yet and probably will not, she is not included in my wedding and we all moved on. I would never even count on her she is in this as you write… All about money & gifts. ush!


she is my only sister so i am incredibly happy that my FI has two sisters that i can finally have a sister-relationship wuth.. Sad thing tho

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 2 months ago by  Ivana1988.
Post # 7
122 posts
Blushing bee

I am so sorry. Your sister sounds like mine – she gets along great with people…as long as they are doing something for her. You do 1000 things for her but you tell her no once and she cries how she’s all alone in the world and no one loves her. <br />For my sister, there were many other factors to the issue, but a few years back I estranged myself from her. I have nephews that I had to mentally prepare myself to never see again. But it wasn’t just for me, we always fought so hard anytime we were together, so it would be better for my nephews anyways. However, I do get to see them when they see my parents.


Post # 8
42166 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

PonyoPan:  My Dad used to say “You don’t get to choose your relatives”.

I have 5 sisters and my relationship with one of them is tenuous at best. If you asked her what it was like growing up in our family, then heard my version, you would never know we grew up in the same family. She looks for the negative in everything and I am the exact opposite. She’s a user and I’m a giver.

I have a great relationship with her children, however.

Post # 9
1102 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

PonyoPan:  um wow… my sister just said YESTERDAY ‘let’s not bother getting each other birthday or xmas presents anymore’ as well! I was shocked and hurt but… what can you do.


I also had a really hard time with my sister being totally selfish before my wedding but she pulled through a month or two before the big event. 

I completely understand!!!!!!!!! I love my sister but she is SO selfish, probably the most selfish person I know and thinks she’s always right – you can never have the last word with her no matter who you are. 

Post # 11
264 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

PonyoPan:  You are not alone at all! 

Your sister sounds like mine. The world revolves around her and her opinion is law. I have never been super close with my sister so I didn’t make her my MOH, she has made numerous snarky comments about my MOH (who is amazing). I have also heard of her talking behind my back to family about how I haven’t booked a date yet. Like its inconviencing her. I want to be in a better place financially before I start to plan, in order to have the wedding FI and I want.

I think the best thing to do is have your sis and her husband as guests to the wedding. Your bridesmaids should reflect the girls that support you no matter what and are positive toward your big day, not hindrances.. I wish you luck, if it wouldn’t cause the beginning of WW3 I probably wouldn’t have my sister in my wedding party either…

Post # 12
187 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: mountain venue

bahahahahahahahahhahahaha…pretty sure difficult is somewhere in the definition of sister

Post # 13
15019 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

My sister is the complete opposite of myself also. We only see each other when my dad has everyone over for the holidays but I make it a point to avoid her even then. My sister didn’t come to my wedding because she couldn’t bring her st Bernard and her other equally as large dog. She say they are “service dogs”. Ha. There is nothing wrong with that woman or her husband that they would need a service animal. Plus, we had at least half a dozen nurses, a doctor, and two military medics at our wedding and a stupid dog is going to help her with what that a doctor couldn’t take care of. Ugh. She is a lazy,self righteous, self centered, over dramatic princess. My brother and I have decided that after my parents pass away, we will never see her again. 

Post # 14
585 posts
Busy bee

Please read my post about my sister being a horrible friend/sister in general. It’s terrible not to have that kind of relationship with your sister, but it hurts even worse to keep trying.

I’m sorry to everyone who is in a similar situation- no matter what is going on!

Post # 15
979 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

julies1949:  That is EXACTLY my sister. I’m 25, she’s 18. She makes herself out to have this horrible family. She talks so much crap about all of us. Yet, when I haven’t asked her to be a bridesmaid (I haven’t officially asked anyone yet), she went off on my mom about me and how she’d be so pissed if I have my stepsister (who I get along with really well) and not her.

Mind you, I moved away 5 years ago and I have only talked to her a handful of times since I left! So.. It’s not like we have this great relationship and i’d be leaving her out. As it is, I’m trying to decide whether or not to ask her to be in the wedding. I don’t want to burn that bridge in case she does decide to grow up because I know somewhere (deep) in side her, she’s a good person… But she just always acts like this spoiled rotten little B.

So… we’ll see. I’m going to have a serious conversation with her about it and the wedding and see what she has to say and how she acts. I will NOT have her ruin my wedding day either way.


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