Post # 1
Are there any other adult women out there (I use the term ‘adult’ loosely because, even though I am a mother to a 2.5 year old, I still feel like a teenager somedays! My Fiance & I are epic dorks and are sure we’ll be embarrassing our daughter infinitely once she’s old enough to realize how silly we are lol) who don’t know what they want to do with their lives?
I cycle through ‘dream jobs’ on a monthly basis. Looking through old blog entries from a few years ago, I’ve wanted to be anything from a psychiatrist to a photographer to an Avon lady! Lol. And I STILL don’t know where I’m headed!! It’s kind of frustrating as all of my friends are getting to the point in their lives where they’re getting careers and making tons of moola and here’s me, still not sure where I’m going.
I’ve had psychics (yes more than one) tell me to write. Ever since I was a kid, I’ve wanted to become a writer! So on their advice, I took a reporter job for the local newspaper. Well, that turned out to be a bust as my bosses were unappreciative assholes and the only “stories” I ever got to ‘write’ were retyping press releases and typing out the winners of card games from the local seniors centre (seriously lol. It was an exciting job..). So I guess I KNOW I should be a writer (not because the psychics told me to, but because I’ve always felt like I’d have a career writing) but I just dont know how to get there.
Point of the post — anyone else feel this way?? Lol.
Post # 3
I don’t feel like this at the moment, but I just wanted to give you a little bit of advice that has really helped me.
Those boring jobs like writing stories on senior bridge games can be blessings in disguise.
When I was in college, I had to do a placement at a local non-profit. I always had my sight set on working with abused women or teen moms (as I was both) but because I was last to choose my placement location, I was placed in a multicultural centre. I was so upset because for the first little bit I was doing the boring stuff like photocopying, stuffing envelopes, and random BORING stuff. But I took that opportunity to meet everyone there, learn as much as I could and I took ANY opportunity to work hands on with clients.
Well a few months into my UNPAID placement, they hired me as a counsellor and I have since worked my way up and have changed locations. Even though I wanted to work with a different area, I ended up doing something very similiar and now have the opportunity to work with people from all walks of life (and yes some teen moms and at times abused women).
So basically the point of my story is, if you want to be a writer, I say get back at it. Take those what may seem like shitty jobs and use it as experience to work your way up.
Post # 4
me! i have nooooo clue what i want. i have a ba in general studies… and i just applied to a nursing program… but still im just not sure. fi wants me to go for the nursing… i just am not sure what i want…. and my job hunts so far have not been the best…. i get interviews but then get there and find out theres no room to move up… or no benefits…. it just sucks.
Post # 5
I don’t feel like that right now (but I have in the past), but I want to echo what @tranquility: said.
5 years ago I had graduated college with a B.S. and landed a job in a huge, public company. I was an assistant for about 1 1/2 years and my job consisted of making copies, making coffee runs for my boss, and scheduling meetings. The work was seriously mind numbingly boring. I cried and felt like I was wasting my degree doing such a stupid job. But over time, I was assigned to help with different projects, met other people in the company and proved myself. I eventually was promoted and I’m now a manager (at a different company). I still have days where I wonder how/if I really want to continue in this field forever. I don’t have a true passion for it, but I enjoy it and I am challenged.
My point is, you have to start somewhere. If you want to be a writer, a newspaper is a great place to work. Even though you might spend a year or 2 doing re-writes, or covering really lame stories, if you work hard it will pay off. Everyone has to start somewhere!
Post # 6
I feel exactly the same. I’ve bounced from job to job and I’m clueless.
I have a natural ability as an artist, but I lack the ‘finess’ that some people naturally have. I have great experience as an office manager, but no one will hire me, and I truly don’t know why. I Hate restaurant work but I’ll do it if I have to, and the only place that hired me was a horrible cynical boss. I had to leave that job quick!
I’d truly be happy with a consistent job either in office or advertisement, art, or anything like that. But the job market here is SO small, I can’t seem to get a jo in anything.
Not to mention, I shake like a leaf at interviews, and interviewers seem to look at me like I’m nuts if I mention I want to start part-time college this fall. >.<
My family keeps telling me I should open my own business.
Post # 7
I had 3 majors as an undergrad, have a Ph.D., have invested myself in three different major career/professional tracks, and I’m writing a book (yeah, yeah…since a couple of years, and I’ll never finish it), and have been thinking about opening a wedding dress shop since I got crazy about my own wedding. LOL. I feel you, and can say that if I’m any indicator, if you’re born this way, you’ll probably always be this way.
Post # 8
I went from artist to art therapist back to wanting to be an artist again. Same type of thing kind of, but none of them make any money. So now I’m going to be a Stay-At-Home Mom, I figure I have a while before I have to decide now.
Post # 9
I guess if you were to consider my current situation, I’m kind of floating along with no clue what will happen in my future. After college I started a very lucrative but stressful and mind-numbing career in corporate retail. I made excellent money and the career path was pretty obvious, but I couldn’t take it anymore and left in September to join a small local company and open their third location here in the city.
I have my own store and LOVE what I do, but I’m not quite sure what I’ll do once this 5 year license is up. Will I renew for another term? Will Fiance and I move and I’ll open another location where ever we end up? Will I become a bigger part of the company (like partner, or owner even)? Will I end up going back to corporate retail? Ugh, who knows. I’m fortunate that Fiance has a FABULOUS career that could support us both, so I don’t have to worry too much…. but I still want to do something meaningful and worthwhile with my work days. Hm.
Post # 10
It’s comforting to know Im not the only one!
The thing about the newspaper I worked at is that it’s for a small town. There literally is nothing more exciting going on than seniors game tournaments lol. I managed to stick it out there from September until April but I just couldnt do it anymore. It might not have been such a bad job if the bosses were likeable people but they just weren’t. At all.
Post # 11
I can really relate to Melini, I have 2 undergrad majors and a minor, a MBA and am currently working on my PhD. I’m not writing a book but I do have lots of random hobbies (building furniture, painting, etc.) that at times I think about as career possibilities that will never be. I have no idea what I want to do but I always seem to turn to education as a way of prolonging that decision. I will be looking for a job again soon and I am already thinking about an industry with lots of fun benefits (airline, hotel, meeting planning, etc.). I don’t know that I will ever feel like I have a life plan but I’ve decised to at least put myself in a situation where I can always earn money efficiently.
Post # 12
@ChantelleyLace: Yeah over here! I left a good job to teach which I thought was a good move, it was the worst decision i’ve made. I now wish I’d stayed in the job I had before.
Post # 13
I can relate!!! When I was growing up, I was positive I wanted to be a teacher or a social worker. I began studies in Social Work at the college here, but since I have A.D.D. I found it so hard to concentrate on studying. I love to learn, but it’s so hard for me to sit down and focus on my work. Since then, I’ve been at a job that I love, but I don’t plan on being here forever. I don’t really know what my next move will be and sometimes I feel lost and like a failure 🙁
Post # 14
Something that gives me hope sometimes is this line from Baz Luhrmann’s Everybody’s Free (To Wear Sunscreen) song:
“Don’t feel guilty if you don’t know what you want to do with your
life…the most interesting people I know didn’t know at 22 what they
wanted to do with their lives, some of the most interesting 40 year
olds I know still don’t.
Post # 15
Career-wise, I know, but other than that… Where the eff is the instruction sheet?!
Post # 16
I’m TOTALLY the same way. My job is pretty sweet, but not as fulfilling as I woudl like/ I”m seriously considering medical school but it just seems like a lot you know! I wish I could just have enough money to explore all the things I want to figure out what to do with myself.