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In my group of friends and family, this would go over really really badly and it would be noticed and commented on.
However, after spending all this time on the 'Bee, it's clear that what's normal for one is not normal for all. Perhaps your FI's family member has a circle of friends/family where this is the norm?
It depends on where you live/your circle of friends. In some areas it's considered unbelievably rude, while in other areas it's considered normal and even helpful... so depending on the attitude of the guests it may be talked about or it may not even be noticed.
I do think that people other than Brides notice things like this though.
Depends on your guest list. Each family is different.
I didn't include registry info due to our having a small intimate wedding. If it was larger, I would have included the info.
I wouldn't include it in mine, but I wouldn't care if someone included it in theirs.
@bellagio: You spend too much time looking at websites. This is what I've chalked it up to. I've gotten probably over two dozen wedding invites over the last three years and each one had registry cards with them. I didn't even know it was a "no no" until I joined weddingbee. Even my ex's CT socialite parents friends daughter sent us an invite with her registry card in it. If CT socialite princesses are doing it then I am not questioning it.
Times have changed. Etiquette needs to change with it. We can't follow etiquette that was written when all women did were host parties and nothing else.
As a guest I like it because I don't have to make a call to the brides family and friends to find out. My phone calls are very limited throughout the day and I wouldn't want to waste a precious break to track down a registry.
@MaiFuture: this
Though imo the faux pas here is including so many. If you really feel the need to register at so many places you should just put a wedding website on your invite and put the registry info there. For a backyard wedding the invite couldn't have been too detailed so I think that much registry info would overwhelm the invitation.
Years before I was engaged I noticed. I know it would bother some of my friends as well.
I also remember that the people who included registry cards didn't send thank you notes.
Hm... Thanks for all the feedback. I guess it is because I read about etiquette too much - and I don't know the bride's family at all or what is acceptable in my FI's family since this is the first wedding on their side that we've been invited to. I know members of my family would probably frown upon it. I feel like listing them on the website is a happy medium.
Around here, at least in my circle of friends, it's considered rude NOT to give registry info in the invite. You're essentially trying to make it easier on the guest. But five?? That's a bit much!!
Every single wedding invitation I have ever recieved has had the registry information in it. I never once thought this was inappropriate until joining WB. It depends on your circle and your history. Maybe FI's family is used to putting the information in the actual invitation.
Personally I do not see it as crass and I don't see the difference between putting it in the invitation or on your wedding website. As long as the people who are looking for the information get it then what is the harm. Again, that is the way I have grown up.
I would notice but wouldn't care. Most people now put a card in of their website and then list the registry info on that.
It would probably annoy me a tad, but registries annoy me in general. I have yet to purchase a gift off of someone's registry. I have yet to actually look at anyone's registry either. I just give money and no one has ever complained. 
I am SO back and forth on this! I mean, five registries is definitely too much (that made me super relieved that I'm using MyRegistry.com which is a universal gift registry) but as far as announcing your registry... I have received tons of invitations that included registry info and I don't mind it but I know that my family would NOT be pleased. The problem is, my family also likes to buy off the registry and I want to save everyone the hassle of digging around for the right information. I seem to have found a happy medium in MyRegistry.com because they let me have my MOH to send out ecards announcing my registry. This way I'm not formally putting it out there, but I can be sure that everyone will have the right info. In the end, I think every bride just has to do what makes her most comfortable!
personally I dont see anything wrong with that, its not like they are expecting you to buy a giftf rome very single place they registered... they are just providing more options
FIVE? Hello, overkill... that would bug me just for the sheer number of them.
I have no problem with sticking a small registry card provided by the relevant company in with the invitation, but it really bugs me when the registry info is actually printed on the invitation itself. I got an invitation once that said, "John and Jane are registered at [department store] for everyday household items, and at [super expensive jewelry store] for their silver." I thought that was a bit extravagant to put on an invitation inviting me to a cake and punch reception.
It's totally normal in the UK to put registry detail in with invites (every invite I've ever received had some sort of present information in), and last time I posted this on WB other people from different places (including some parts of the US) said this was also the case where they lived.
If it's unusual in your area, then it might raise a few eyebrows.
Our invites were really simple - the invitation, a card with directions to the venue and the reply card. On the card with directions, we wrote underneath "please visit our wedding website for additional information: www._ _ _ .com" The website including things like attire, our registries, etc. Lots of people asked where we were registered but I didn't want to print it on anything in the actual invitation.
I wouldn't care either way on someone else's though
I don't think I would think posting one or two would be that bad... I've gotten invites and wondered what to get them and there was no registry listed and it's always awkward to ask the bride and groom... I would prefer if they listed one or two or at least a website with the information on it.
But I think listing 5 is a bit much. Just my honest opinion.
Personally, I wouldn't care. It's becoming more and more popular, and I just view it as a way to tell people where you're registered. If you have young guests (or even older ones who just haven't been married/to a wedding before), they'd have no idea how to find out, because that kind of etiquette just isn't taught anymore!
I agree, 5 is a little over the top. But it is the norm around here to have a little card included with the invite (not on the invite itself) with the registry info. I wouldn't think anything of it.
@bellagio: We included our registry information in an invitation insert. We did it to eliminate calls to my parents, etc. We figured it was just better to have all of the information readily available. If it was tacky, whatever, we thought of our guests, not ourselves.
I find it hard to believe that it will ever be appropriate to actively solicit gifts.
Or that being asked where you are registered is too much work. If someone is too distant to be comfortable asking a couple or their family where they are registered then they are probably too distant to be invited to share in the wedding.
In my family, this would definitely get talked about (on my side probably more than his). My mom, especially (she calls herself Emily Post) would disapprove. I personally would do nothing of the sort.
However, after much time spent on the bee, I have realized that everyone is different, people have differnet taste, and there are different etiquette standards between families and regions.
I've gotten probably six wedding invitions in the past year and they all included registry info. I found it helpful because I could easily look up what the couple wanted. And my mom insisted that we register and send out the info.
But five registries is a bit excessive :-P
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Do other guests even notice the faux pas or is this only because I spend too much time looking at wedding etiquette?