(Closed) Does anyone care?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
4123 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

To be honest, I put the sTD on the fridge and that’s about it… ๐Ÿ™ Im totally guilty of that!

I’m really sorry though, I think especially older people don’t necessarily get excited about ‘invites’ and stuff.

Post # 4
268 posts
Helper bee

That sucks! I’m sorry .. Hope it gets better ..

Post # 5
3285 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Aww, I’m sorry!  Maybe they’re just slow to take action – and there’s a possibility that some people may not have gotten them yet.  At any rate, we’re always happy to see them!!

Post # 6
11 posts
  • Wedding: May 2011

Oh Bride!  Don’t worry!  No one ever comments on the STDs!  There is no RSVP for a Save-the-Date so there’s really no way to directly respond to it.  But I am sure they are great and people are happy for you!  I am happy for you!

Post # 7
124 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

That sucks!  My experience has been similar, not too many people said anything about our Save-The-Date Cards.

Post # 8
294 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Don’t be bummed out! I bet many guests received it and marked it in their calendar. 

Post # 9
5263 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m afraid of that too. ๐Ÿ™ I don’t think people who aren’t immersed in the wedding world realize how much time and effort goes into these things. 

Post # 10
2090 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I’m sorry you feel that way – that is a bummer. From a different perspective – I LOVE paper products and getting things in the snail mail, so had I gotten one, I would have loved it – but am unlikely to have told you, just because I probably wouldn’t have thought it necessary. But I would have enjoyed it ๐Ÿ™‚ I bet your guests do care, maybe they just aren’t so great at showing it.

Post # 11
838 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Ya I dont expect to get much of a response about my STD. Dont worry im sure people are excited!

Post # 12
1566 posts
Bumble bee

It is so hard for us brides to imagine how other people could not care about the details we have painstakingly put together. But they usually don’t notice these details. Think of weddings as a hobby like any other. If someone’s into weddings, they’ll care about every little detail. If not, they won’t. And most of your guests probably aren’t into weddings unless they’re also planning one. You wouldn’t expect someone to be interested in the details of, say, your new car, unless they were a car enthusiast. They’ll be happy for  the bigger picture, but not with details. Same with weddings. 

I actually have a rule based on all this: if I don’t enjoy doing a project, I skip it or do something simple. I only DIY things that I am so excited about doing that the project itself satisfies me, without anyone else’s approval. If your happiness about making something pretty for your wedding hinges on this approval even a little, you’re setting yourself up for disappointment. 


EDIT: And definitely don’t interpret lack of interest in details as lack of interest in the wedding itself ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 14
571 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Get used to it!  Not many people cared about ours either, but at the wedding, you will have plenty of wonderful guests and well wishers! Just don’t expect any help and if you get some, you’ll be grateful!

Post # 15
2030 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Yeah, nobody cared about ours either, and I slaved over them. When I complained to my moms he was just like, “Get over yourself!” which only made me feel worse. Now that I know how it feels, I always compliment the bride when I get a STD. But I never did that before I sent out my own.

Post # 16
2271 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Yeah that happened with me too. I figured it was because I was an older bride and not getting married for the first-time. But the wedding was really important for me because it symbolized a new life and hope after many years of sadness and heartbreak. I NEEDED to celebrate and celebrate we did. I ended up doing 99% of everything myself, although a few folks did help out the day of and after the wedding. When the actual day came, it was amazing and I was in a state of utter happiness. Our situation was unique, my outfit was unique, the ceremony was unique and the pig roast the day after was a blast. All those months of being kinda pissed off because of the lack of help/interest just melted away and I am truly proud of how things came out!

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