Post # 1
Does anyone else have the problem that their wedding keeps getting put on hold? My FH wants to make sure we’re financially set before we get married and that we have a place to live which I COMPLETELY understand but it seems like it’s never going to happen. We’ve been engaged for a year and he will be deploying soon. Anyone else feel the same?
Post # 3
I think not wanting to set a date is a pretty big red flag…
Have you considered financial counseling? If it’s putting life on hold for you, I think it would be worth the trip!
Post # 4
@future_mrs_taylor: FI didn’t moved the date or anything, but he was TERRIBLY anxious of our house being FULLY equipped before we moved in.
I tried to tell him that we are supposed to build a house TOGETHER and that we didn’t have to have EVERYTHING to start with. He wasn’t listening so much.
I think it has to do with a bit of the male “provider” responsability they feel, but when he talked to a male friend of his, who got married last november and didn’t have EVERYTHING in his house, he suddenly relaxed.
I think that sometimes, as we feel they don’t understand us, they also feel like that, and they need to talk to another male about how they feel.
I would sit down and ask him the real reasons why he is pushing the date around and try to make him understand what you thing, need and want.
Best of luck!