Post # 1
Some of the girls just went to dinner after work- and although I’m not upset that they didn’t invite me- I started thinking about how they probably didn’t invite me because they assumed I’d be with my SO.
I usually hang out in coupled groups- out of circumstance- even the die-hard bachlors in my circles have long-term girlfriends nowadays- but I’m still a fan of going out with out my SO!
I am my own person! With independent interests, hobbies and friends!
Then again- single ladies deal with different issues- is it possible that the less and less we have in common will actually create social barriers? That bothers me.
Does anyone ever feel like they are left out by “all the single ladies?” Do you blame them?
Post # 3
Yes, some friends feel that I can’t relate to where they are coming from. Maybe I can’t because I have been dating FH since we were 17. We still talk about life, and are there for each other, but I guess FH is my new BFF now. It’s cool because I have experiened this since last my junior year in college.
Post # 4
i ttotally feel left out sometimes but for a different reason. i have 2 kids!! I got knocked up with my first son when i was 19, not exactly what a normal 19 year old does. and time has flown by and somehow i’m 24 now, and i lost most of my friends. kinda sad how people suck like that!
Post # 5
As, part of the reason why I’m let out is because when we first graduated from high school a lot of people were dating their high school boyfriends. As everyone began breaking up, we began losing friends (I guess we didn’t have that in common anymore). Now me and FH are the only couple still together after high school and we are more into settling down.
Post # 6
when i was single, a group of single gfs and i would plan to go out…sometimes we wouldn’t invite people in serious relationships cuz you figure they are going to spend friday nights together.
my friends don’t invite me as much to their going out parties at the bar/club cuz they figure that i wouldn’t go.
that’s just the way it is.
Post # 7
I feel ya! Me and my future hubbs live about 2 hours away from most of my girlfriends now so if I go or we both go visit then it is fine but when we lived near everyone, yes, this happened. It is hard but understandable and I don’t think people want to leave you out…they just assume you will want to be with your SO. Or maybe they think you’ll be calling/texting/talking about your SO the whole time.
Sorry you are going through this…and you arn’t alone 🙂 hang in there! suggest a girls night in/out that you host maybe? keep your head up!
Post # 8
My friends started doing that to me. They wouldn’t ask me to go out with them or hang out or even call/text me like they used to. I was really sad about it and then I confronted the girl that I was most hurt by and she told me basically that I shouldn’t want to go out because I had a good man. My fiance works over 50 hours a week and is hardly ever home but to sleep. I told her that I get lonely sometimes and just because I’m getting married doesn’t mean I have to stay home and rot. I kind of think it was a little bit of a jealousy issue.
Post # 9
I hate when I don’t get invited to stuff because people think I am doing stuff with my fiance! My Maid/Matron of Honor is terrible about that, I think that’s partially because of her insecurity about being single and partially because when she does have a boyfriend, all she does is spend time with him (she assumes I’m the same way). There’s only so many times that you can explain to someone that you have a life outside of your relationship. So annoying!
Post # 10
@ LadyGoodman – Exactly. One of my bridesmaids and the girl I confronted is a single mom and wants to have a man soooooo bad. Like I don’t even understand why she wants a man so bad. But then again she has another friend that got married a year ago and they are best friends. I heard her say once though that she doesn’t think they will last. I guess getting married is a good way to tell who your real friends are…just wish it didn’t have to be like that.