Post # 1
What should I do for my registry…
We are having about 200 guests, mostly in state but maybe 10-15 out of state. We are middle class, not loaded with money or anything and I want to make my registry affordable yet there are a few things I want that are more expensive.
Is it ok to put these things on my registry??…..$200 standing Kitchenaide mixer, $80 handheld kitchenaide mixer, $120 coffee maker, $60-80 toaster? (I feel like that seems like a lot of money for a toaster and would not outright buy that for myself)…$100 blender?….
I’m not a ‘cheap’ person, I like nice things but I feel bac putting some of these things on my registry..is that normal to feel like that? Do I need to choose less expensive things? I dont want to be a brat about it and make people feel obligated to buy us expensive things.
Also, how many places do I register at? I was thinking Kohls and Bed Bath and Beyond but now my mom is telling me to also go to Target. Is 3 places too many? What do you think?
Post # 3
As long as you have a variety of price points there’s nothing wrong with putting some more expensive items on there. I’ve heard not very nice things about the target registries and their return policy, so personally I would probably skip them.
Post # 4
My Fiance and I felt the same way! We went to Bed Bath and Beyond and the store associate helping us had us include all this fancy crystal and flatwear (which I know we’ll never use, plus I have crystal from my late grandmother …) when we came home and looked at our registry online we saw the champagne flutes we had chosen were $89 a flute! We immediately removed them. We felt that if any of our guests saw that they would think we were incredibly materialistic.
That being said we did register for a few high price items (like a Dyson vaccuum) but we also chose a lot of of lower/medium priced items. It’s definitely not a bad thing to have something a little pricier that you know you really want and will use. If someone buys it for you, great! If not you can always buy it yourself after the wedding with the discount the store gives you.
We’re only doing one registry. We know sometime after the wedding next year we’ll be moving and redoing a house so we didn’t want to register for too many things that we might not use for awhile.
Sorry for the long post. Good luck with your registries!
Post # 5
Oh, I registered for things at a variety of price points. My pots/pans are 500.00$ Will I get them? Probably not but I do have rich grandparents so who knows, they might buy them.
But because they’re on my registry, if I have enough money after, I will just buy them myself! (Macys.com has a good registry)
Post # 6
I know in my family we tend to gift together for the higher priced stuff. So, 200.00 for the mixer isn’t bad if two people go in together for it.
I say register for what you want but stay open minded. If you don’t get it guess what you ask for at Christmas/birthdays
Post # 7
OMG yeah…the vacuum I like is a Dyson and Idr how much exactly it is but its over $400! And I also wanted stainless steel pots and pans and those were $500. I saw online that they carry pots and pans that are $2000! Thats crazy! I’m not a chef! lol
Post # 8
We registered at two places and people commented on how great we did with having a nice variety of prices. And we didn’t get any of the expensive things we asked for, so yeah keep those items to a minimal. We didn’t get our vacuum, pots, or knife set. Those were the only really expensive items.
Post # 9
We haven’t filled out our registry yet, but I plan to limit the number of higher price point items, simply because we don’t have that many people I would expect would purchase in that range anyway (pretty small families, both of us).
The whole registery thing feels so awkward to me. I mean, on one level I get it: it helps guests find things that you actually want and/or need, matches your decor, etc , avoids duplication and takes the guess work out of it. On the other hand, as a guest, i might feel weird about giving people bath sheets as a gift (though we’d really like and appreciate bath sheets!!). Though I generally don’t care about what other people think, there is a part of me that worries about being judged about what we register for (“Seriously? They expect someone to buy them $200 bedsheets?!”).
In general, I’m not one to be forward about what I “want”, and I’m pretty private, so it just doesn’t sit right with me to put my “wish list” out there for everyone to see. But I’ll do it, simply because I do know that guests appreciate it, and I do trust FI’s judgment and guidance when it comes to what to register for.