Post # 1
So I am in my late 20s but it’s funny how at work and around my family I am still considered to be so young, and often hear things like, “oh you’re still a kid.” Since we have got engaged I feel like we’re taken more seriously as a couple and more responsible too. It seems overall like I am being treated as more of an adult lately as funny as that sounds. Anyone else have similar experiences?
Post # 3
I’ve been working since I was 20 (and look young) so suddenly people notice the engagement ring (ha – and the reading glasses) and treat me differently. I get a lot fewer “oh, you’re so young!” comments now at work too. I’m 27 but work in a very male-dominated field and work with senior partners all the time, so maybe that’s it.
Post # 4
Yes, I feel that I am definitely taken more seriously and sometimes it scares me as I still do not think of myself as an adult. That is what happens when you are 27 and still in school, you still feel a bit like a kid. It is nice though when my advisor understands when I need to take a break to spend more time with my FI.
Post # 5
I feel like my FILs take us more seriously now. I’m pretty goofy/not very adult-like so not many people take me seriously….
Post # 6
I stopped getting carded at restaurants when I started wearing my engagement ring…LOL. It’s nice considering I’m 27 and they used to scrutinize my driver’s license for minutes before handing it back to me. But anyway, yes I find that I am taken more seriously, especially by my older, married coworkers.
Post # 7
I’m really hoping the ring will help. People still ask me if I’m 12, or if I’m in high school. Doesn’t help that I’m 5′.
Post # 8
I’m still getting the “you’re so young,” but it has helped with my mom. She has always treated me like a little kid and now she seems to be treating me like a woman.
Post # 9
My FI and I are definitely taken more seriously. I am a grad student and since most of my classmates are older and married, they treat me more seriously because I’m engaged…it’s a little strange.
Post # 10
In general people I meet assume I am 8-9 years younger then I am. That is fine in day to day life. I really don’t mind it. But it does bother me when Im working. I work with new people all the time and eight out of ten people (based on my appearance) will assume I am just out of school or just starting out in my job. A lack of trust is sometimes a result and I have to re-assure them I have been doing my job for 10 years. I make a huge effort to look professional and age appropriate with my clothing and style when Im at work.
After I got married new people I meet (if they notice the wedding band) will tend to take me a bit more seriously then otherwise…. or at least thats how it seems.
Post # 11
I feel like I am taken more seriously. Before getting engaged, my family treated me like a child. Now they treat me like a young adult. It is not like I am suddenly more responsible, but they now see me differently.
Post # 12
haha, the Fedex delivery man at work asked me today “Are you old enough to be working here?” Sigh…so no, I guess I’m not being taken more seriously yet. I’m 5 feet tall with baby face, people always think I’m in high school, but I’m actually going to be 25 in May. Maybe an e-ring would hel, ha.
Post # 13
I hope a Ering makes people take me and my relationship more seriously. I feel like people do not see my relationship seriously because we aren’t engaged.
Post # 14
Definitely! Once we got engaged I noticed a change… People treated me like my actual age (instead of 5 years younger) once I had some diamonds on my finger. And now that we’re married, people treat me differently when I say anything about “my husband.” If they haven’t noticed the ring, saying husband really changes how they act (very strange, but I’m not going to complain). I love getting so say husband, and I don’t mind that people are finally treating me like an adult!
Post # 15
My FI and I have definitely noticed this change. People are basically treating us as a “grown up” unit now, instead of just two “kids” still dating. It is making everything with trying to get our lives together much easier. I feel like people trust us to make our own decisions and live with the consequences without trying to push us.
Post # 16
yeah no one even took me that seriously after having two kids one which has a rare syndrome and requires responsible parents… now that im planning the wedding and they realize i have an income all my own to pay for the wedding myself im suddenly an adult… ive been working since i was 15 im 23 now, and going through a change of career from gemologist to doctor… i still get carded at the beer and liquor store except by the one women, she is my neighbour and our fiances are friends