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Maybe I am being ridiculous, but I think I will feel shy with everyone looking at me. I am glad my dad is walking me at least, so that takes some of the pressure off...
I don't think you are alone. I have heard a lot of people say just the same. I think the whole walking down the aisle thing is going to be so surreal for me that I won't even be able to comprehend that a hundred people are staring at me. If that thought actually does click in my head, I will probably turn fifty-six shades of red. Blushing bride indeed.
Well...EVERYONE will be looking at you!
I kind of get stage frieght too. I especially am not looking forward to doing my speech.
Yeah, I'm kind of afraid of walking down the aisle because of that. I'm just going to look at my FI and try to focus on him.
We're both nervous about our first dance, too.
OMG I am so nervous about this! I think I like the idea of having all the attention on me and the FI but secretly, I am terrified. I mean, I get embarassed when people sing me "happy birthday" or something ha.
Blushing bride I definitely will be!
This is why I wanted a small wedding. I can't stand people looking at me, it makes me cry. But, my FI wanted a big wedding, so I'm just going to have to deal. At least he'll be with me, he always calms me down.
Yes FI and I both are a little shy and nervous. He keeps saying at least everyone will be looking at me, which makes me more nervous. But I'm sure in the moment, it won't be as big a deal. I just need to figure out a way not to cry.
I'm sure you'll be fine once you're in the moment.
Yeah, I am here with you on that! I agree with mrsmurraytobe, I like the idea of having all the focus on me, but I know in situations like this I am always a bit frightened! Haha. This is why I am glad we are doing a first look - I will get to enjoy a few quiet moments with my FI before the ceremony and I won't have to worry about people staring at me while he sees me for the first time. I am glad the aisle I'm walking down is rather short! haha
Yes- another shy bride here. I am terrified and have decided we need to have the shortest, simplest ceremony ever. I keep going back and forth about getting married privately at the courthouse and turning our wedding into just a reception. My FI always gets me back on track by reminding me that I bought the dress for the ceremony.
This really bothers me, because I really don't want that much attention on me. Even if it were a small thing, but most certainly since the big white hurricane is expected... :(
Ah well. Maybe when it happens, I'll be too worried about everything else.
I am so nervous about everyone staring at me while walking down the aisle. I keep joking that hopefully I don't trip or something. I think every bride has this fear, because we will already be overcome with emotion, and then all the attention on top of it makes it unnerving!!
Yep! I am insanely nervous. I am normally quite outgoing and will often give presentations at work. That being said, this is different. I am not up there talking or presenting. And everyone will be staring! At least when I give presentations at work I know that at least 50% of people have zoned out and aren't paying attention!!
Definately. I do not like the 'all eyes on me' feeling. I've never wanted to be the center of attention or even been really comfortable with a lot of compliments (silly, I know).
This is exactly why I've always wanted to elope. FI on the other hand wants a "real" wedding with all his family there. We've come to a sort of compromise, but I'm secretly hoping he'll change his mind. I hate being up in front of crowds...I also am dreading the dancing.
I def have this fear. I get nervous when I find myself in a situation where I am the center of attention. I just really dont like people looking at me! Maybe if I have just one glass of champagne...just to calm the nerves.
I am super nervous about it, I am not big on attention and I am not a real public lovey dovey affectionate person so the whole wedding things scares me and makes me nervous. Especially the reception, like the first dance.
As nervous as I am about the whole thing (I'm not one to be the center of attention at all...) my poor FI is even more nervous about it! He is more of the 'loner' type (his word, not mine.) and doesn't like crowds at all. He's especially nervous about the first dance... where as I'm just worried about the ceremony bit (a little too much like public speaking... which I hate.) I mean, we're only having ~50 people if you include the wedding party and the officant and photographer... but still!
Nerves are always expected and totally normal!! I will have to say I was nervous thinking about the big day, but once it came, I had a little champagne and kept my eyes on my hubby and everyone else just seemed to fade away. Good luck to all of you brides and I'm sure you will all look and feel amazing standing up there in front of all those people! :)
with the chance of sounding super selfish.... Im so excited for all the attention to be on my fiance and i .... we deserve it with all that we ahve been through
Oh gosh. The thought of this makes me excited and nervous/shy all at the same time!
Although, we are doing our photos before the ceremony, so I expect that having so much attention on us for photos will calm my nerves a bit. Or at least I hope so!
OMG, this has been my biggest fear, my first entrance when everyone is looking at me. I just hope to GOD that i don't freeze up and make a fool of my self. My dad is walking me also but he's a clown and just adds to my fear that he may do something nuts, while i doubt that he really would, but.....
i was terrified! i get major anxiety about being in front of people. because of that we only had 30 people at the ceremony, but i still didn't want ONE person (other than my husband) looking at me. i had both my parents walk me down the aisle because it's jewish tradition, but that also made me feel more secure because they blocked me from everyone's view.
after all of that worrying, during the ceremony i didn't notice anything but my husband and rabbi. literally, i had no clue what was going on around me. before i went down the aisle i made a mental note to look at the ceremony flowers b/c i wanted to see how they turned out. for all i knew they didn't exist until i saw the pictures. my husband and i both didn't notice our photographer and worried that he wasn't even at the ceremony, until we saw him in a picture that our friend took. my friends told me that there were cars that were blasting music during the ceremony, which again i didn't know happened until i saw our video. i didn't see our guests, i didn't have a clue what was going on around me. and that's what i wanted.
I thought I would be but I was surprisingly calm and okay with it. We had about 100 guests though, so that probably made it easier than 300+. I really felt like it was just the two of us standing up there. There will be so many things going through your head that I bet, "there are lots of people here" won't be one of the first.
I was incredibly nervous about this. Especially since I'm usually a fairly blunt, non-crier type of girl. But honestly, it was a surreal experience and most of the time was just completley focused on my husband and whoa we're really doing this. Yeah, I was kinda embarrassed that I cried but whatever, it was my wedding day.
You are definitely not alone. I am normally a shy person and when I feel just a tad bit embarrassed, my cheeks get all red. I am not used to the attention and rather have it somewhere else but the wedding is all about you and your FI so all eyes are on you. Sso what I did to overcome this was that I kept my eyes on my FI when I was walking down the aisle even while my guests were taking pictures of me walking the aisle.
i am a singer songwriter and hve performed many times alone with lots of people watching.
but walking down the aisle seems daunting to me as well. i think i enjoy the attention when im actually doing something that requires skill.
walking does not require skill. (although some might say so since im wearing a floor length gown, 5 inch heels, and walking on flagstone without looking down or falling haha.
OMG Yes! Mostly about saying the vows and getting emotional in front of people! I'm sure it will be fine, but if I think about it too much it makes me nervous!
I'm really nervous about saying our vows and then our first dance... My FI doesn't understand at all; he's a meteorologist and is on the radio and on television every day, he loves having all eyes on him! I get shy even in front of my family.
Luckily, my friends have all offered to carry flasks or to give me valium and I fully intend on taking them up on their offers LOL
I'm super duper shy. I basically ran down the aisle. No really, fastest bride ever. When I see my pictures on weddingbee (or used as an example elsewhere) I get really embarrassed. Like I said, I ran down the aisle and our ceremony was no more than 10 minutes... minimal staring time.
I'm the same way!!! People have suggested to just look straight and focus on the groom, for aa good pic. I most likely will look at the groom and then down at the ground because of embaressment. LOL!!
I was really nervous about this too. I'd like to say that once I saw my husband, the nervousness melted away, but it didn't, not completely. It helped, but until we got to the part where we were saying our vows to each other I was nervous, and I REALLY didn't like kissing in front of everyone. When I walked up the aisle with my dad and back down with my hsband, I was bobbing my head to smile at and acknowledge everyone there, and in the video I look like a frikkin bobblehead. Ugh.
It wasn't as bad as I was expecting, and seeing my husband and concentrating on him helped, but I'm not gonna lie. It wasn't fun.
I am so nervous about it! Also, FI wants to sit up on this elevated platform thing to eat, and that scares the crap out me too!
Oh yeah!
My photographer took pre-wedding photos and kept showing me- all I could say was, "that can't be me". The guests kept saying that I was glowing, I told them it was because I finally was wearing makeup.
It was a totally awesome day, don't worry about being shy- you will be thinking about someone else seeing you more than the other people!
I was very nervous about this beforehand. But once I was there, I was fine! As soon as I saw the hubs, I just focused on him. He was crying, and it was too cute, which made me giggle. Oops! :)
It will be easier than you anticipate.
Uh, yes. Very. Being a painfully self conscious klutz can lead to paranoia. I'm excruciatingly shy at the best of times, an antisocial shut at the worst of times
my FI is the same way; public speaking & being the center of attention is definitely not our thing, so there are definitely some jitters.
At the same time though, I'll probably be too busy the day of to even notice, much.
I'm SOOOO scared!! I get the worst stage frieght. I seriously want to elope when I think about the walking part... but I do want all my friends there so I wouldn't elope. I'm terrified I won't be able to walk, let alone dance down the isle. My face is going to get red & I'm going to look scared & nervous & shaky & not be able to make eye contact with anyone. I'll try to not look at ANYONE except my groom. Ha I make it sound so dreadful...
Me! Im so so so shy and im glad my mom is walking me down. I guess you have to just try to zone everyone out and pretend its just you and FI. I was baptised last week and am so glad I did it because I actually had to walk down the aisle twice one for the rehearsal for the baptism then again on the actual baptism day. Im going to go back and walk down it a couple more times, I totally recommend doing this for practice. My church aisle is extremely long too!
I was terrified about this until I was walking down the aisle. I was so overcome with emotion that I teared up a lot during the walk, but all I noticed was my husband waiting for me a the end. During the ceremony, I thought I'd be nervous, but I felt really comfortable because I realized that the entire crowd was made up of people that loved us and were so happy for us, that all those fears just melted away. There is a tremendous feeling of love when you're up there that I can't describe, but it's amazing. Don't be worried for a second--it's one of the most special moments in your life. Savor every moment :)
Don't stress at all!! You'll feel a little butterfly-y before you walk, but then you forget and just look at your SO...nothing better. :)
Looking for stories of terrified brides who survived. My mother picked my dress, she created the longest aisle ever, and i am her only child and can't bear to break her heart by not giving her a wedding, but i am someone who will literally run all the way home from a party and spend the next two days hiding in my closet, and my friends don't even bat an eye anymore. People once sang happy birthday to me and i dove under the table. We are eliminating first dance, bouquet toss, cake cutting... but i can't get out of the walking. People have bought their plane tickets already; i am an idiot to have thought i could do this; please tell me you are as nuts as me and that it was okay.
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