Post # 1
Maybe it’s just the stress of being nine days out from the wedding, but I feel like if anyone asks me one more question about why we’re doing something the way we’re doing it, I’m going to have a meltdown.
I had to measure the church railings for the garlands the florist is making. I don’t care about having garlands, but it’s something my mom wanted. So I’m standing there measuring after church last Sunday, and my fiance is like, “Why are you measuring those? Why do we need garlands? Why can’t you just tell the florist not to make them?”
Then one of my bridal party members asked why we weren’t having the bridal party introduced at the reception. It’s for a lot of reasons – we don’t have an even number of guys and girls, some of the party doesn’t like to be the center of attention and would rather we skip it, we couldn’t come up with a good song to have everyone walk in to, etc. But I guess I just assumed that he was asking why because he was disappointed not to be introduced and I was like, “Because that’s the way we’re doing it!”
And lots of people have been like, “Why is your wedding ceremony so early in the morning?” Because we want to have a Catholic wedding, they take an hour and then we need time for everyone to get from the church to the venue, and we could only afford the afternoon wedding that starts at 11:30 am. Don’t want to get up that early? Fine! Don’t come! Meet us at the reception, then! ARGH!
I think I’m just exhausted from trying to make everybody happy. I feel guilty about having one bridesmaid spend the night in the hotel with me and not the others, but she’s the one who came to my fittings and knows how to lace up my dress, and I don’t want a ton of people around that morning cause it’ll stress me out. I feel guilty about taking pictures while our guests are at cocktail hour because FI is grumpy about not being able to go to his own cocktail hour. I feel guilty about not inviting some people who have made it clear now (after it’s too late) that they wanted to be invited. I feel guilty about people who declined the invite but sent gifts anyway. I feel guilty about everything. And for some reason, that guilt means that any time someone asks us to explain a decision we made, my eyes cross and steam starts coming out of my ears.
Post # 3
@KatieBklyn: I’m tired of EVERYONE asking “OMG. Are you SO excited?” Well, of course I am. I’m not really a gushy bride so I’m tired of everyone else being so gushy lol.
Post # 4
@IUrebekah3RT: I’m with you there! I’m 10 days out so for some crazy reason everyone expects me to be excited or nervous. Jeez!
Post # 5
I am so with you girls! My typical answer is now “because it’s what I want”. I’m dreading the day after the wedding when everyone starts asking “Are you pregnant yet?”!
Congratulations on your so near wedding!
Post # 6
@KatieBklyn: Yes, yes, OMG yes. My new rule: If you’re not doing it, you don’t get an opinion. Not doing the escort cards? No opinion for you. Not organizing the timeline for the day of? No opinion.
Post # 7
Yes, I do. My older sister who is also my maid of honor (and has not planned a wedding before) can be really negative about, well, everything. She seems to want to disagree with/question every decision we’ve made. I am getting really frustrated because we’ve spent so much time and money planning and it makes me feel like she (or whoever else is questioning us) doesn’t think we’ve really thought through what we decided on. We’ve been planning for 18 months now. Do not question me!!
Post # 8
One benefit of being an older bride is knowing it is IMPOSSIBLE to please everybody, so one might as well please oneself. Few, if any of my/our decisions have been questioned. If they ask why I simply smile and say “because that’s what we want”.
Post # 9
It’s almost Friday. Sit back, relax and have a glass of wine (or in my case, a pink girly drink with a squiggly straw and umbrella). You’ll never make everyone happy. Never, ever, ever. They’re not getting married. You are. Just smile and say “Because that’s what we decided”. If they give an opinion, just smile and say “Oh, that’s interesting. We’ll have to keep that in mind” and move right along.
Don’t feel guilty about the invitations. No one except the super crazy rich have unlimited invitations. You can’t invite everyone. And you really shouldn’t feel bad about the ones who sent you a gift. You invited them because you genuinely wanted them to be there. And obviously, they’re happy for you!