Post # 1
Im happy to share most things…or give things to people.
You want to stay at my house – sleep in my bed, ill take the couch
need to borrow money – thats fine (well, unless they have a big history of never giving it back)
my shoes, clothes or handbags – borrow away!
most things in fact. except food. if you ask to have some of my food or worse still..take it without asking, i will secretly envision poking you repeatedly with my fork. And theres a big part of me that wants to wrap my arms protectively around it and run away and hide in the corner.
i dont know why. drinks i at least have a vague logic – its because the idea of backwash creeps me out. even though i kiss my fi…i dont like sharing drinks (please dont point out abotu saliva in kissing, logically i know it…and i dont want to develop a phobia of kissing him!!)
ive never gone hungry as a kid or any other possible psychological reason that will explain it. im just irrationally food-selfish. I also don’t eat more than the average person 2-3 meals a day…its just the meals i do eat..are *mine*
I can just about tolerate sharing food with my fi. just. but i would much rather pay for him to have his own chips/candy/meal or whatever than share, even if its a big portion
im hoping somewhere theres a similar bee so i dont feel so weird!
Post # 3
@newname_99: lol, yes, but I’m not as generous as you. I hate sharing anything. Today I bought chips and hummus and my SO’s sisters helped themselves. They stuck their hands in the bag (eeeeew! germs. I almost didn’t eat any more chips after they did that, but I am too greedy and cheap, so I begrudgingly ate them anyway). They were eating my chips and hummus. I was secretly annoyed, but acted like I didn’t care.
I will only share one bite or a couple chips etc with SO. WHY am I so greedy? I dunno.
Post # 4
@bunnyharriet: I try to act like i dont care too, as people think you’re odd otherwise!!
i mean imagine:
“can i have some chips and hummus?”
“no, i dont like to share. hands off, its mine”
theyd think it was totally weird! my fi does notice sometimes, he says i get a weird look on my face when he takes my food and it makes him nervous and put it down, even when i say its fine. oh dear i sound like a loon hahaha
Today i bought a box of krispy kreme doughnuts, because i love them./ and when my fi offered them to some friends who came over, i honestly wanted to grab them back (in my defence, we have to drive pretty far to get them)
Post # 5
I’m the opposite, actually. I have a real phobia about sharing food and drink….. except with my SO.
It’s especially bad with my mother. If she eats off my plate or drinks from my glass, I literally cannot touch it again. It squicks me out.
But with my SO? I don’t care.
Post # 6
Funny, I have no problems with food. I can eat out of the same dish as a stranger and not care. I’ve always been that way, but my father was nuts about sharing food and drink espeically his soda. If me or my brother would even look at it funny, he wouldn’t touch it again.
Post # 7
YES.. I hate sharing food/drinks with anyone else but my FH.. though I’m good at pretending that it doesn’t bother me haha. I always try to eat from the untouched part of a sandwich when it’s offered to me.. or drink from the other side of the martini haha!
Post # 8
I didnt’ used to be this way, but it seems like lately since I have been pregnant, I have been like this with my husband. He says, “Can I have a bite?” and I think, “Why didn’t you just get some for yourself?!!” lol
Post # 9
I think maybe my parents raised me wrong, because I’m selfish about pretty much everything. Except when it comes to DH. I’ll share whatever I’ve got with him.
He’s pissed me off in the past by offering bites of my food to other people, just because I ordered something they had never tried before.
Post # 10
I guess I am so use to sharing my food because I had no choice in doing it. We go out to eat with friends all the time and always share our food with each other. I just wish that we did family style more often instead of just ordering our own items.
Post # 11
Try sharing something something small, like asking if your partner wants to try your french fry[ies then after a week try sharing something which used to bothered you 🙂
Post # 12
@Hyperventilate: I am the same way — I hate sharing food and drinks with anyone other than DH. Since we share a bed and we kiss, I’m going to pick up any germs that I would by sharing food. (Unless I already know he’s sick, then we absolutely don’t eat/drink after one another).
This was actually instilled by my mother, who had a strict rule that we weren’t ever supposed to share food or drinks with anyone. We were sick far less than the average kid in elementary school, and I think this was one of the reasons why.
I still get extremely grossed out if we’re out with a group of friends sharing an appetizer, and someone double-dips a chip into the queso dip. Absolutely disgusting!
And I don’t like it if someone starts grabbing stuff off of my plate. Get your own!
Post # 13
I’m the complete opposite of you… Don’t take my clothes, shoes, or hard earned cash.. But you can have my entire plate if you’re that hungry.
Post # 15
@shaynapunim: id forgotten that friends episode! yep…that’s me!
yesterday i asked my fi 3 times if he was hungry and he told me he had been eating all day so didn’t want whatever i was making. I prepared scrambled eggs with potatos,onion, tomato and bacon -just how i like them, with a sprinkling of cheese on top. Of course as soon as I made it he decided he did in fact want some but im proud to say i did share it! Though if I’m honest it was partly to do with the fact I made too much haha