(Closed) Does anyone else have a husband who commutes so they can live near their family?

posted 5 years ago in Career
Post # 3
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Bumble bee

Before we were married my DH commuted a little over 1 hr each way because he worked in a city where no family and friends lived and would rather stay where he was. The commute was very hard on him. But he had to drive. A train may not have been so terrible. 1.5 hrs is a long time though.. 3 hrs a day total. That means leaving you earlier and getting home to you later. just something to think about! He may be miserable himself when he gets home at night. Maybe have him stay with family for a week in London and have him try out the commute for a week and see if it is something he can tolerate? I can totally relate to living somewhere far from family and friends and being miserable and lonely. I would have happily done an hr and a half commute to get out of that situation too.  Hope it all works out!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

Luckily my husband start a new job the day after we got engaged so we both drive around 20-30 min for work and live near friends.  Being happy where you live is so important so its grea that your husband is supportive and is willing to commute. Glad he is testing it out first but yeah if my husband had a train option it would have been a lot less painful!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

At 3 hours a day he is actually spending 30 days a year, 1 MONTH of the year on a train commuting. 

Now some people do this, but I would not willing enter into this kind of commute for myself unless absolutely required. 1 month of my year is a lot of time to spend commuting when it is not necessary. 

What this also means to me is that you are only 1.5-2 hours from your family? That isnt a very long train ride for weekend visits.

I will also add that my DH commutes 40 minutes in the AM and 1 hour 15 minutes at night due to traffic varying he comes home not in a great mood because of all the time he wastes commuting. Commuting a long time can really be a downer.

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