Post # 1
Honestly, I couldn’t care less about weddings – my fiance are getting married on my parents’ property (six acres of beautiful garden), and we’re just doing a relaxed afternoon tea reception then, after the formalities, we’re having a BBQ and a bonfire and camping out with any guests that want to stay the night.
Fiance’s parents, on the other hand, are horrified at how our wedding is unfolding. If we say we just want it to be relaxed, they respond that it will be formal up until they leave. The relaxed part starts when the reception’s over. Because it’s on my parents’ property, which is a relatively isolated place, they’re asking how we’re going to avoid seeing each other on the day. When we said we weren’t fussed if we saw each other or not, they freaked out again. They’re scared of me having a male attendant, they don’t like that I’m a dress that has colour in it, they want us married in a church…I could go on and on.
So…does anyone else struggle with this? Do you just want a nice, casual wedding, but you’ve constantly got family (or friends) breathing down your neck telling you you’ve got no idea what a wedding is about?
Post # 3
My mother turned into an absolute bridezilla. Does that count? Our wedding is Princess Bride themed and my to-be mother in law wants us to do a full scale in-costume reinactment. It should be noted that to-be husband comes from a very theatrical family (He’s an actor & I worked with his father in the theatre for many years), but my mother is convinced that any hiccup along the way spells dooooooooooom.
Post # 4
My In-Laws spent most of the planning extremely concerned about the music and what their side would think because were going half-Greek, half-English language songs – and, shock, a DJ istead of a traditional Greek band. There were tears and tantrums from MIL that what would people say about that and how we’d be talked about. I don’t know who this Babis dude they had invited was, but they were most concerned that he wouldn’t like it because he only like the traditional music of their area, and he’ll get very upset. We had this conversation every.frigging.time. Didn’t matter how many times we told her it was an multi-national wedding, so those people who spent a feww hundred pounds to fly out for it needed to have fun as well, she would still worry about this Babis person, because he’s “very vocal” about his dislikes.
Anyway in the end we stuck to our guns, and the only complaint we had from people afterwards was the fact their feet hurt so much as they didn’t stop dancing all night. The Brits loved having a go at Greek dancing, the older Greeks loved hearing the rock-n-roll and swing from their younger years and the younger ones enjoyed finally being able to dance to some Beyonce at a wedding for a change.
Oh, turned out Babis didn’t come to the wedding in the end because he had to work.
Post # 5
@Cariad: Oh god! That sounds like my FMIL! Fiance’s family is Italian, and she insists on inviting distant relatives my fiance has never heard of, then gets upset at the wedding planning because “Zia and Zio Whaternames won’t understand if you do it that way! It needs to be a proper reception!” Or it needs to be in a church or whatever.
I’m glad your wedding worked out so well, despite the doomsday prophecies!
@Hyperventilate: Your wedding sounds awesome! I love that story 🙂
Post # 6
ME!!!! haha any time my mother and I talk about my FH and I’s reception it makes me want to scream. I love my mother. I do. And I knew that it would be difficult going into this but I didn’t think it would be this hard.
FH and I want the formal ceremony. No problems there. It’s just when it comes to the casual reception that she loses her mind. We want it very relaxed, casual, and just fun. We didn’t want the traditional wedding reception. We want family reunion feel. So we found a friend of his mother’s that has a great backyard that is within walking distance of the church we are using. But she doesn’t quite understand the feel we are going for. We told her we’d have a tent in case of rain but anytime the reception is brought up, she goes on a rant about rain.
There is a pool on the property. We are allowed to use it for the reception if we want. She thinks we shoudn’t. We are having a pig roast. She doesn’t understand how the sides will be served and other issues related food.
We just want to be relaxed and casual. And now we have to look into all these things that we don’t want just because we need to appease my mother….ahhhh….still love her.
Post # 7
- Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge
My grandmother. When I mentioned that my friend was marrying us she says “What denomination is he? You know we are methodist”. Well yes but FI was raised Catholic and we don’t want a denominational ceremony. In fact friend marrying us isn’t even a minister, he’s just ordained to do marriages. Grandmother nearly faints (she’s very dramatic) “But that’s living in sin! You aren’t truly married unless its before the the Lord. Even marrying Lutheran or Baptist is better than non-denoinational…” By this time I just roll my eyes. God love her but she drives me nuts. I should just be happy this is the only issue she brings up because when my cousin got married she had 2¢ about EVERYTHING. I think my Grandma is just happy I’m getting married because I am 31 and already has made comments (before meeting FI) how I was getting to be an old maid.
Post # 8
We’re having an Edgar Allan Poe/Raven themed wedding… in a park. FMIL was pushing us to get married in a church and have our reception in a country club (so not us). However, she’s slowly seeing my vision and coming around and even pinning fitting ideas for the wedding on her Pinterest board. Also, I know we have relatives who are worried the wedding will be too ‘gothic,’ but we’re going to make it more elegant.