Post # 1
I have a rather common first name. My husband’s only sister has the same first name as I do. Although she is married, she kept her maiden name. I plan on taking my FI”s name, so after our wedding we will have the same name (though with different middle names).
Family gatherings are already a bit odd, as when someone calls “our” name, we both answer (it’s a name that doesn’t lend itself well to nicknames). When I think of my married name, it doesn’t even feel like mine…I feel like I’m using her name.
I’m wondering if she will feel the same way, like I’m “stealing” her name. Of course, as she is far too polite to ever admit such a thing, I’ll likely never know. I know that if the situation were reversed, I might feel that way.
Is anyone else in a similar situation? How has it worked out for you?
Post # 3
Wow. That is tricky.
FI’s has the same first name as my cousin. FI’s sister and my Aunt have the same first name (although pronounced differently).
Post # 4
This happened to my friend from high school. She shares the same first name as her sister in law so they now share the same full name. Although the sister is still in high school so her name might change in the future. She told me that first it was kind of weird/awkward, but now it is kind of the funny family joke and she says it kind of brought she and her sister in law together in a way.
Post # 5
Hasn’t happened to me personally, but my parents have a similar situation. My dad is “Gordon ______ III”, and his mom’s name was Helen. MY mom’s name is Helen (and she took my dad’s last name), so now both my parents and my grandparents on my dad’s side are “Helen and Gordon ________”! It’s always been a family joke.
Post # 6
This happened to one of my best friends. Unfortunately it was a HUGE pain for her cuz the sister had money issues and so collections people kept coming after my friend!
I’m horribly possesive of my name…my first name is somewhat common but my last name is more unique (I still haven’t figured out if I’m changing my name to my husbands…so this is my maiden name). There’s only a few others out there with my name combo. I used to be the only person that came up if you googled me, then there were three…recently more have been popping up and I’m always mad at them for having my name :-p
Post # 7
nope – thankfully i have a pretty unique although somewhat common first name…my first name is comprised of two names with a “-” and the first part of my first name is fairly common – and my brother once dated a girl with just that name – ok my name is “Keri-Ann” and her name was “Carrie” – so yes it was very weird to hear him talk about things with her (which a sister shouldn’t hear about! lol).
thankfully his wive’s name is nowhere near mine and same with my sil (dh’s sis) – no where near same.
Post # 8
nope hasn’t happened to me. I have a VERY unique name. in fact when you google my name i’m the only person who comes up. However, I have a friend who’s brother and husband have the same name. Some very hilarious conversations have definitely insued as a result.
Post # 9
@Neva-YES I have the same first name as Teddy’s sister! it gets very confusing…they now refer to us as D1 and D2. haha. I am actually going to hyphenate for this very reason. I dont feel like the name belongs to me and we would actually have the sam exact initials also if I move my last name to my middle name. This is the way that I felt. But I dont think that his sister would mind AT ALL if we had the same name. Actually I think she would love it. But approaching her and maybe joking about and seeing how she feels may be a good idea.
Post # 10
My cousins wife has the same name as his mom! I think that is even more weird and he is named after his dad so there are TWO couples same name. We call them Old F&K and Young F&K lol
Post # 11
I am the sister of the brother who married a girl with the same name! And he married her twice….actually.
So it’s been a long standing joke about the two “jenn’s” and we eventually nicknamed ourselves “jenn squared.” this got kind of annoying at one point when i moved away to college and kept my mailing address my parents, my brother and his wife also moved to florida and forwarded all their mail to my parents because they were going to be moving around for a bit. When they moved back to Michigan, they again, forwarded their mail to their home and because the post office got confused, MOST of my mail went to my brother, some to my parents and some to my dorm. That was pretty much a nightmare for a year or two but it’s worked out now.
And here is the funnier part! Now that I’m getting married in Oct, I was excited to have my own name again…but it looks like FI’s brother is now dating a “jenni” and who knows how serious that will get…esp when he moves states away to join her in her city. *palm to face*
Post # 12
This is an issue in my family as well: our solution is that one of them is called “Laura Smith” and the other is called “Laura Smith, David’s Wife” as if those 4 words make up her name. It’s kind of an odd way to solve the problem, but it works~ this is really only an issue at larger family reunions (cousins, not siblings). It may be a little awkward, but I think in time you’ll use your new name enough with other people that it will feel more like your own & will lessen the weirdness with his fam.
Post # 12
My husband and I are both Taylors. We also both have middle names starting with “GE” (Genevieve and Gerald) to make life more interesting! I haven’t officially changed my name yet and i’m contemplating if I need to add my maiden name legally to have some difference in our names. #SameNameProbs
Post # 13
My FI’s brother’s Girlfriend and I share a name. It does becomes a little confusing when someone says “Hey X!” And we both turn around. That’s all.
Post # 14
I have two aunts with the same first and last name. We call one Anne and the other Annie to avoid confusion – not sure if something like this would work for you as you said nicknames may not work.
I don’t think it’s that big of an issue. It’ll work itself out.
Post # 15
Neva: That’s funny! What a concidence! My sister was named after my grandma, so we call them Big ‘name’ and Little ‘name’ if they are together.
If she gets married and changes her last name, then you’d be the only one with it…