Does anyone else have this problem?

posted 3 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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5839 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

@PositiveThinking:  Have you looked into further Vaginismus treatment? Using progressively larger dialators to help train your muscles?

Post # 5
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568 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I second the idea of dialators to help train the mucles so that they can stretch more easily when needed.

Do you use lubricants? A lot of times when women are dry…not that I am saying this is your issue since I dont know (dryness happens at ALL ages its not a age thing contrary to popular belief) the muscles do not expand the way they should and actually get tighter, as your bodys safty mechanism. When things are too tight tearing and cuts can happen which leads to infections, so naturally your body may tense up without you even knowing it making it tighter. Lubrications are really key especially when things are too tight to help relieve some of the pain caused from things feeling too tight, and the lubricants act as a barrier and prevent any tissue damage than can be cause from friction in a very tight enviroment, they feel good and they can help you and your body relax.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@PositiveThinking:  I will be honest with you though and I completely forgot to put this in my first post….. i did have this problem until I was like 23…..no idea how or why it ended, sex didnt hurt me but it didnt exactly feel good, not to mention being so tight that it was hard for any of my partners to last long so it got really frustrating on my end for everyone else to end up satisfied and then somehow i get forgotten. Now with my FI i have no problem at all.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

when i first started having sex i had a lot of pain/discomfort. what helped me tremendously was using a vibrator during penetration. it helped distract me from any discomfort so i was able to relax.

maybe you could try that?

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