- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2010
I need a bit of Bee support in my pocket…. I’m heading to court tomorrow morning for a child-support modification hearing with the Ex. Totally afraid to admit this, but I am quite scared of how this is gonna go down…
Here’s a quick overview:
Ex pays “Schedule B” child support guidelines. This means that because he gets Dirty Delete for 10 nights a month, it’s quite reduced. In addition to his support, he is responsible for 1/2 of all uninsured medical expenses (co-pays, deductibles, etc.) and 1/2 of all extra curricular expenses (soccer, dance). Anyway, this has been ok, until late last year.
In December, I took him to court because the “extras” that he hadn’t paid was up to over $700, and the judge told him he had 4 months to pay it off. He gave me $60 in the courtroom that day, and since then I’ve only gotten another $100.
In addition, he has taken a new job where his schedule is 3 days on & 3 days off. Since December, he’s only had her for 10 nights 1 month…..all the rest have been 5, 6, 7 nights.
As if this all weren’t enough…. When he got together w/his GF/now wife, they had a kid before they were married, they split for a bit, she filed for child support. Then they got back together & got married. They’ve been married for 3 yrs or so & now they’re splitting up too. But, she has never dropped her child support case. So, when MY court order to have his wages garnished is in effect, they take my support from his check, send it to the state & the state splits the money between her case & mine. Yep, he’s been paying her when they’re married! She’s given me a lot of that $ for a while, and I’ve had to write him receipts to prove he gave it to me, so it would come off of what he owes. But, since they’ve split, she’s stopped forwarding that $ to me, which leaves me getting….wait for it….$26 a MONTH!!! WTH!?!?
So, I’m taking him back #1, to get his order modified to “Schedule A” guidelines, where he just pays me one lump, because he’s not getting her the 10 nights a month & also hasn’t been keeping up w/paying the “extras”, and #2 to also get a slight increase because he’s taken a new job where his salary has doubled.
Well, he calls me last night & we had a total blow out…. He’s basically trying to talk me into agreeing to his “proposal”. He wants to pay me $200 a month. This is the amount that our state worksheet says he owes based on Schedule B. But, the judge told him last time he also has to pay $50 toward his arrears. He says he can’t afford $250 a month. If I get Schedule A, he’d owe $490 a month & I can’t ask him for anything more….
Darling Husband is furious, because he feels like Ex is just trying to manipulate me & make me feel guilty, so I’ll give in again…. I’m so freaking mad, because he does this crap to me every time we go to court & I do usually give in. And, his money problems are not my problem!!!!!!
Please tell me I’m not a “Money Hungry Bitch”, like my Ex keeps calling me….