Post # 1
My FMIL is just about one of the nicest ladies I have ever met. I read all these posts about how difficult MIL’s can be and I can say I’m lucky. Grant it, she lives about 300 miles away, so I don’t see her often. 🙂 My mom passed away 10 years ago, so it’s nice to have her to bounce ideas off of. She’s so supportive and kind, always reminding me how happy she is to have me as a daughter in law.
Originally I was just planning to do evites, as we are having a very small wedding. She had offered to lend her services should I change my mind about sending paper invites- not in a pushy way, but just putting it out there. I politely told her no, because it wasn’t in our budget. Today she sent me an email saying that she wanted me to have paper invitations as a momento and would be happy to design my invitations with the help of her friend who makes them professionally, and pick up the tab to boot. (FMIL does graphic design for a small college). She said she wouldn’t be insulted if I said no. I know that this is something that she really wants to do- she isn’t pushy at all and uses tactful hinting to get her ideas out. I sent her my Pinterest link with some ideas and she is getting back to me in a few weeks with some mock-ups. I’m grateful with whatever she makes and I can’t wait to see what she comes up with.
Does anyone else have MILs they love?
Post # 2
I adore my FMIL. She is a wonderful, fun, classy lady and I love spending time with her.
Post # 3
My mom passed away seven months ago today and my fiance’s mom passed away 6 years ago. We both have step moms and I like both of them. It hurts a little to see people on here complaining about how annoying their moms are or how they wish they would just leave them alone in regards to wedding stuff. I would LOVE to have my mom nagging me about wedding stuff.
Post # 4
That being said, my future sister in law is insufferable.
Post # 5
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
sarahalthea.: I adore my MIL. She’s very similar to me and she goes out of her way to avoid stepping on toes. She’s the best!
Post # 6
MouthOfTheSouth: me too 🙁 My mom was so stubborn, but she loved me so much and always want me to have the very best. The last time I had my mom for a big, special shopping adventure was for my prom dress, 15 years ago. I remember I was so happy that even my grouchy teenage self forgot to hate her. I remember throwing my arms around her and calling her “Mumma” something I hadn’t done since I was little. It makes me sad to read women and their moms arguing over dresses; I would give up everything I have just to have that one special moment with her again.
I’m glad I have my FMIL.
Post # 7
I love my FMIL. There have been a couple times where she has driven me a little crazy, but she always means well. If we have an issue, we discuss it and move on. My FI and I have been together almost 5 years and we have never had a real problem. Plus, FMIL and FFIL have been so accepting of my son from the very beginning (my son is from a previous marriage), they love him and treat him like their own grandchild. That makes me love them even more.
I could never say any of that about my ex-MIL. She was a monster. I know first-hand how many issues can arise in a marriage if FMIL/MIL’s are a problem. I have sympathy for the bees struggling with theirs.
Post # 8
My FMIL and I have had issue in the past. We had a bad start and we are both very strong opinionated women so we have butted heads a couple of times. There have been a few times I’ve had to ask her to back off a little from our lives. FI has always stood up for me in terms of this.
That said, most of the time I genuinely enjoy spending time with her, and the rest of FI’s family. She has called me her daughter in law before we were even engaged and shows lots of affection towards me. I went for a job interview recently which I had mentioned briefly to her about 2 weeks beforehand and she msgd me half an hour before my interview to wish me good luck. I guess I just consider her as a genuine family member, can drive me nuts but love her all the same lol.
Post # 9
My FMIL is just amazing! She is always there for both of us and our children! Not only does she look after our babies but she has a disabled child herself who she looks after 24/7 . If there was an award for FMIL of the year, I would definitely nominate her. She’s just an all round amazing woman!
Post # 10
I absolutely love my FMIL to a point where I consider her one of my best friends. We are very similar when it comes to our humor and personalities and I always joke with FI that Frued would have a field day with him because he’s marrying someone so similar to his own mother.
i am not close with my mother and didn’t really have her growing up so I finally feel motherly love and while it’s amazing sometimes i feel like universe is being cruel because FMIL has cancer and now that I finally have a mother it’s uncertain how long we will have her here. all I can do is just cherish the time I have with her. We talk on the phone every day sometimes for over an hour just chatting.
Post # 11
MouthOfTheSouth: ha! Same here, I absolutely love my FMIL but my FIs sister in law I would happily do without.
Post # 12
I DO! I love my FMIL, she is absolutely the best. I have only met her once (she lives in a different country) but we email constantly and she is so fun and supportive. She’s a no-nonsense kind of lady and she has been super accepting of me when I had a lot of silly “strikes” against me (from another country, FI is going to stay in that country for me, I’m also 7 years older than him…). She is absolutely delightful.
Also I really like my FI’s brother’s fiancee (she’s so fun!) and I like my brother’s fiancee as well. (we are totally all getting married this year ooops). I feel really lucky because I have friends who hate their SIL’s and MIL’s. I know it’s just the luck of the draw.
Post # 13
My FMIL is awesome, I really love her. I have only really met her once, and that was when we dropped the bomb on her and FFIL that we were getting married. We spent 3 weeks with them over Christmas and I felt like I was hanging out with one of my girlfriends. She’s super supportive of me and FI and is just really lovely. She lives in a different country with an 8 hour time difference, and my mom lives in a different country as well. I also hate seeing people bitch about their moms/MILs because I would kill to have at least one of mine to be in the country with me to help me plan.
Post # 14
Love, love, love mine! I feel so lucky.
Post # 15
- Wedding: July 2013 - The front lawn of our church
sarahalthea: I love my MIL! She can be a little overbearing and offers her opinion too much but she always has the best intentions:)