Post # 1
I read a lot of threads on the bee about exes. For example, my ex is getting married, my ex is having a baby, I still think about my ex, etc. To be perfectly honest, I don’t care about my ex or what he is doing with his life. When we broke up, we severed ties and that is how I like it. We were together nearly a decade so it wasn’t easy to do, but it was for the best.
My ex is married now and he has a baby. I can’t even remember how I found out because it wasn’t traumatizing. I didn’t care or feel any emotion about it whatsoever. That would not have been the case early into the breakup, but I can comfortably say that before I started dating again, let alone got engaged, I was done with my ex and his life.
I can look back on our relationship and remember the happy times without feeling bitter or angry, but no part of me wants him back. As such, I don’t really care if he is with someone else, having a baby with someone else, or any other thing that people tend to do as they get older. It just doesn’t impact my life at all.
What about you? Do you care about your ex/what he’s doing?
Post # 3
@MrsPanda99: As long as he’s not still stalking me or breaking into my apartment while I’m sleeping, I couldnt possibly care any less.
Post # 4
@MrsPanda99: It’s been almost 6 years. At this point I am no longer angry about how things went down and I genuinely want him to be happy, though we do not talk and I honestly wouldn’t know if he was married or not.
Post # 5
@MrsPanda99: Raises hand! Me! Don’t give a hoot – what he does doesn’t affect me any more.
Post # 6
@badabing88: @love108: @Sunfire: I’m glad I’m not alone. I can’t really relate to the threads where folks get upset about their exes getting married. Of course he’s eventually going to get married, and you’re on a wedding site so it looks like you are too. I can’t contemplate starting a new relationship, especially a marriage, if I wasn’t over my last one.
Post # 7
I broke up with my ex 3 years ago and couldn’t be happier with my decision! We are still “friends” meaning we are civil and if we saw each other things would be fine, but we don’t go out of our way to speak to each other.
I found the love of my life & my best friend. 🙂
My ex is now dating a gorgeous girl and they seem very happy, and I am super happy for the both of them!
Post # 8
@MrsPanda99: I couldn’t care any less about my first ex. we did try to be friends again after 4 years but nope. Blocked him, deleted him, don’t ever want to see him, don’t care what the hell he’s up to 🙂
Post # 10
@MrsPanda99: oh, yes, me. i’ve had a number of exes and besides the “i wish you well”, i really don’t care. i was with my last ex for 9 years and there’s a reason i broke up with him. i sometimes hear what he’s doing through mutal friends but, eh. i’m sure he knows what i’m up to. his best friend and wife attended my wedding last year.
Post # 11
@MrsPanda99: Yeah, I’m the same way. I was only with mine for about half as long as you (5 years) but we were serious. Very serious. The breakup came out of nowhere and was truly devestating to me. I’m talking not leaving bed for a few weeks. Not feeling back to normal for 6 months+. But, looking back, I feel nothing now. I saw him and his girlfriend at Target a few months ago, and I actually thought – gasp – they looked cute. That is something I never thought I would get to! It’s amazing how time really heals everything. If he got married or had a baby now, I think I would honestly feel happy for him! Weird.
Post # 12
@MrsPanda99: …well yeah…I care…but not in that, “Oh my GAWD!” kind of way….I’m actually friends with most of them and just because our romantic relationship failed doesn’t mean the underlying friendship that brought us together is fractured…they’re all really great people…we just aren’t great as a couple….so I see and talk to a lot of them regularly….
*Please note that and ex is not one of my lovers…I have no idea where any of those went or what happened to them…but I hope life is treating them well**
Post # 13
I don’t care one bit. If you still care what an ex is doing with their life, you’re not ready to be in a committed relationship with someone else. I can’t relate to those threads OP mentioned either.My FI thinks that being emotionally attached to exes is a girl thing. When a guy is finished with a relationship, he is really finished.
Post # 14
I am civil with my ex as in if we run into each other, I’ll say hello and so will he. But we don’t talk or go out of our way to talk.
Other than a very mild curiosity, I don’t care what he does anymore. I would never take him back.
Why would I when I have my fantastic BF? 🙂
Post # 15
My ex is married and has a kid. Was married almost before I even started dating and had the kid before we were even serious (wait… )
Anyway. Good for them. Every once in a while FB goes dumb and suggests I be friends with him or his mom because I haven’t searched out every email I have from them and deleted them. No, thanks. But it doesn’t cause me any grief. My husband is friends with his little brother. Whatever.
Post # 16
Nope… Couldn’t give a shit.