- 3 years ago
I feel bad writing this post but I really need to vent after something that just happened. I actually really like my SO’s mom – she has always been very sweet to me and asked me questions about myself and remembered things i’ve said to her to bring up in later conversation, and made me feel included.
My SO’s father… well that’s a different story. I first met this man on father’s day of this year, he came over to our house to eat lunch and hang out and spent most of it on Skype with his girlfriend (who is my age) who lives in Colombia. He barely talked to me but I chalked it up to the fact that i’m shy and take awhile to warm up to people so maybe it was my fault for not being welcoming enough.
He just came over to our house again to pick up my SO before they go out for coffee. I said hi to him when he came in and he barely acknowledged me, and then asked my SO to skype with his girlfriend-now-fiancee (he has only been officially divorced for ~8 months now and this will be his third marriage) so that they could ‘meet’ before the marriage is official. I excused myself and went upstairs to change out of work clothes and I heard him ask my SO what my first name was because he couldn’t remember. For some reason, that really upset me – I have been dating his “favorite son” for a year, and he can’t even remember my name?! So I, admittedly, was a little cold for the duration of his visit which was thankfully only another ten minutes. I know that’s childish but this man just makes me so uncomfortable and like my existence doesn’t matter to him at all.
I know that I need to try to be more civil to this man because he is my SO’s father and I want to be respectful, but ugh. Being in the same room with him makes my skin crawl for a reason I can’t explain.
Sorry if this is a jumbled mess. I poured myself a big glass of wine and am stream-of-consciousness typing to let off some steam.