(Closed) Does anyone else not see it as “MY” day?

posted 7 years ago in Weddingbee
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Nope, you’re not the only one. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@unixfairy: I’m right there with you.

All I care about is that FI and I are there, that we leave the day married, and that all my guests have a GREAT time!

I want my bridesmaids to have a great time too and I don’t want them to feel “forced” to do anything or buy things beyond their means.

I want all my guests to be comfortable (if that means an extra +1 so-be-it).

I want FI to enjoy the day as much as I.

I know that if other people aren’t having a good time I wont’ have a good time.

I mean I’m asking everyone to travel out of state to my wedding, the least I can do is make it enjoyable.

Post # 5
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726 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

not the only one for surre ๐Ÿ™‚

 

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Nope. I honestly don’t care what happens around my wedding.  ‘My’ day will be mine, I’m going to focus on it as much as *I* want to.  Anyone else who wants to celebrate with me, awesome.  If there’s other stuff to celebrate too?  Fine.. I don’t demand full attention, not even on “my” day, and certainly not wee, or month or season.  I might just demand full attention for my 10-15 minute ceremony, since that’s just respectful if you’re going to come to it.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Nope, I feel exactly the same way.  I’m finding it hard to relate to some of the postings on the board because I coordinate huge events for work.  I can’t for the life of me figure out all of the stress/angst/issues that others are going through… and I have to have two weddings (daytime and evening Buddhist ceremony)!

I completely agree with you–I’m looking forward to becoming a Mrs. and then jetting off to Jamaica for a week.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

The wedding day will actually be HIS day and his parents day.  I could care less if we had a wedding with all the trimmings.

I am of course excited to become his wife, but definitely HIS day.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

love it ! love this post ! good for you!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

i feel the same… its our day… meaning everyone! we are having the wedding for ourselves and for our family and friends ๐Ÿ™‚ although i do like things done MY way ๐Ÿ™‚ lol

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper

yea i am here with you. For me, more than anything, it is about family. It is about My FI, my daughter and me becoming a family while surrounded by our closest friends and family. I want everyone to have a good time…not just me! I want everyone to remember the great things about the day.. not just that I was a bridezilla. 

Post # 12
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Worker bee

Here here!  I agree 100%!  I think people forget the true reason for their wedding…to marry the love of their life!  Who cares what other people are doing.  My sister is kinda the same way… I am not far behind her when it comes to getting engaged, and I know she will be thrilled when I do but I know she wants every day until the moment she says “I do” to be her’s.  Blah.

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

If people were even satisfied with it being “MY” day that wouldnt be too bad, but a lot of people seem to think they are entitled to claim an entire month or year and no one else can get engaged, married or pregant during that time

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@bells: I agree with you completely!

I don’t see the wedding as MY day, so much as OUR day.  As long as FI, myself and the minister are there, everything else is icing on the cake.

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I have the argument all the time with my FI that its not all about the bride its about both of us. He is always like its your day you choose and I say no this is OUR wedding not MY wedding and we will make this choice together.

 

I know alot of people who thinks all about the bride and that is her special day its not the olden days where it used to be all about the bride. The guys should get alot of the credit for putting up with our stress and melt downs that lead up to that great day that we share with them.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I totally agree. I get super peeved at some of the “thunder-stealing” stories I hear. Honestly, getting engaged, getting married, getting pregnant are such fantastically joyful events in a person’s life…why do people want to go pushing all that joy aside and choosing to be miserable just because someone else is having some good fortune too?

Seriously, it’s like reverse schadenfreude.

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