Post # 1
I am super thrilled to be marrying again which I NEVER thought I would say. I am having a beautiful wedding with all the trimmings, so to speak, to celebrate and if anyone wants to come to it I am honored. I want the reception to be fun and enjoyed by the people that are taking time out of their lives to celebrate our union.
I see so many post focusing on it being the bride’s day and that ppl getting pregnant, married, engaged etc anywhere near HER day is going to “SPOIL EVERYTHING”
Heck I just want to be there with my guy – keep a sense of humor about “Murphy’s Law” – and have a great time with the friends and family that can make it. If they cannot make it for whatever reason I am not insulted or bothered. At the end of the day I want to be married and enjoy how special this is going to be no matter what.
Am I the only one out here that feels this way?
Post # 3
Nope, you’re not the only one. 🙂
Post # 4
@unixfairy: I’m right there with you.
All I care about is that FI and I are there, that we leave the day married, and that all my guests have a GREAT time!
I want my bridesmaids to have a great time too and I don’t want them to feel “forced” to do anything or buy things beyond their means.
I want all my guests to be comfortable (if that means an extra +1 so-be-it).
I want FI to enjoy the day as much as I.
I know that if other people aren’t having a good time I wont’ have a good time.
I mean I’m asking everyone to travel out of state to my wedding, the least I can do is make it enjoyable.
Post # 5
not the only one for surre 🙂
Post # 6
Nope. I honestly don’t care what happens around my wedding. ‘My’ day will be mine, I’m going to focus on it as much as *I* want to. Anyone else who wants to celebrate with me, awesome. If there’s other stuff to celebrate too? Fine.. I don’t demand full attention, not even on “my” day, and certainly not wee, or month or season. I might just demand full attention for my 10-15 minute ceremony, since that’s just respectful if you’re going to come to it.
Post # 7
Nope, I feel exactly the same way. I’m finding it hard to relate to some of the postings on the board because I coordinate huge events for work. I can’t for the life of me figure out all of the stress/angst/issues that others are going through… and I have to have two weddings (daytime and evening Buddhist ceremony)!
I completely agree with you–I’m looking forward to becoming a Mrs. and then jetting off to Jamaica for a week.
Post # 8
The wedding day will actually be HIS day and his parents day. I could care less if we had a wedding with all the trimmings.
I am of course excited to become his wife, but definitely HIS day.
Post # 9
love it ! love this post ! good for you!
Post # 10
i feel the same… its our day… meaning everyone! we are having the wedding for ourselves and for our family and friends 🙂 although i do like things done MY way 🙂 lol
Post # 11
yea i am here with you. For me, more than anything, it is about family. It is about My FI, my daughter and me becoming a family while surrounded by our closest friends and family. I want everyone to have a good time…not just me! I want everyone to remember the great things about the day.. not just that I was a bridezilla.
Post # 12
Here here! I agree 100%! I think people forget the true reason for their wedding…to marry the love of their life! Who cares what other people are doing. My sister is kinda the same way… I am not far behind her when it comes to getting engaged, and I know she will be thrilled when I do but I know she wants every day until the moment she says “I do” to be her’s. Blah.
Post # 13
If people were even satisfied with it being “MY” day that wouldnt be too bad, but a lot of people seem to think they are entitled to claim an entire month or year and no one else can get engaged, married or pregant during that time
Post # 14
@bells: I agree with you completely!
I don’t see the wedding as MY day, so much as OUR day. As long as FI, myself and the minister are there, everything else is icing on the cake.
Post # 15
I have the argument all the time with my FI that its not all about the bride its about both of us. He is always like its your day you choose and I say no this is OUR wedding not MY wedding and we will make this choice together.
I know alot of people who thinks all about the bride and that is her special day its not the olden days where it used to be all about the bride. The guys should get alot of the credit for putting up with our stress and melt downs that lead up to that great day that we share with them.
Post # 16
I totally agree. I get super peeved at some of the “thunder-stealing” stories I hear. Honestly, getting engaged, getting married, getting pregnant are such fantastically joyful events in a person’s life…why do people want to go pushing all that joy aside and choosing to be miserable just because someone else is having some good fortune too?
Seriously, it’s like reverse schadenfreude.