(Closed) Does anyone else not want more/new friends?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
9627 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@CanAmBride:  I think you’re totally normal to feel that way.  My Fiance and I feel much more comfortable hanging out, socializing, partying, etc., with our couple friends than our single friends now.  Maybe it’s just that being in a couple you tend to have more things in common than with single friends. 

I still care about my single friends but I do notice some drifting apart.  Sometimes my single friends want to party more (possibly because they have more free time or maybe get lonely for company); but we’re like you and your Darling Husband, we’d much rather have a quiet evening at home alone together watching movies than almost anything else. 

I look at it this way – you only have so much time in life to spend with loved ones and friends.  So it’s not wise to spend time on anything or anyone you don’t enjoy.  Just because she wants/needs new friends doesn’t mean you are in any way obligated to her.  

Post # 4
1576 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I have many acquaintances, but relatively few friends. I am sure some of my acquaintances consider me a friend and that’s fine. But I can truly count on my friends through thick and thin and they can expect the same from me. I am long past the point of wanting to be popular.

Post # 5
1406 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I completely agree with you.  DH and I LOVE spending time together…there have been few instances where we’ve gone out w/o each other.  We know another couple who doesn’t go anywhere w/o the other.  Which sucks b/c she’s great, we get along, and the husbands get along…I’d even push the guys to go camping together but she’d want to go to.

Don’t feel like you should have to hang out with her just because she “needs” you.  I’d stick to casual meet-ups…coffee, lunch, etc. but I’d save dinner dates for your hubs.

Darling Husband asks me all the time what’s wrong with the guys he works with who purposely avoid going home to their wives when he can’t wait to come home, make dinner with me, and hold me on the couch.  I guess I’m just lucky…sounds like you are too!


Post # 6
6248 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

Take it as a compliment that she really enjoys being around you.  =)

Post # 7
13099 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I don’t actively search out new friendships because I LOVE the group of friends Darling Husband and I already have and don’t feel as if I need anything more.

But if someone new came into our lives that we enjoyed spending time with, I wouldn’t be resistant to having a “new friend”.

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