Post # 1
recently i’ve been looking at my Fi and thinking ‘i don’t know what i’d do if something happened to you’ and i feel myself getting tearful. I worry about him dying and get really upset, I’m getting tearful as i type this.
I know it’s a really morbid thing to be thinking about, but it does sometimes cross my mind and it gets me really emotional. I can’t imgaine not having him around
does anyone else get these depressing thoughts in their head?!
Post # 4
yes I do sometimes and i hate thinking that way 🙁 gets me all upset and Im not sure why I start thinking it
Post # 5
Oh yes!!!! I have a wild immagination and i don’t know why i’ve wasted some of my time during the years immagining the worst events..sigh..
Post # 6
yeah i definitely think about it sometimes, he went on holiday with his family to Fiji recently and was stuck there for a couple days due to floods and cyclone warnings, i was so scared that if the cyclone hit where they were staying something could happen to them :'(
Post # 7
Yes, all the time. If it’s raining, I worry about him driving home from work. I worry his plane will crash when he flies alone. I just seriously don’t know how I could live without him. I also worry about his well being if something were to happen to me. I worry our house will catch fire while we’re out & kill our dog. I imagine this will only get worse when we have a child.
Post # 8
A woman where I work lost her husband last week… they are early 50’s, he’s been a runner for 30 years. He was running in the morning before they were set to go to the beach for the holiday weekend, he was late coming home. She drove out of the development to go get groceries for the trip and saw the ambulance a few blocks from her house with a body covered in a sheet… and recognized his sneakers. Heart attack- never had a symptom in his life. The same day, a girl I went to HS with lost her fiance, he was in a car accident. Your life can change in the blink of an eye… I am the same way, getting scared about him driving and knowing that no matter how safe HE is, it’s the other people that you can’t control. I just make sure I appreciate every moment I have with him, and puts things in perspective. Makes it less annoying that he ALWAYS leaves his dirty socks on the floor next to the hamper rather than putting them in! 😉
Post # 9
@MrsPeachMartini: that’s such a sad story 🙁
Post # 10
Of course, I think everyone does at times. I try not to think about it too much, though, and focus more on being present in the blissful moment.
Post # 11
Sometimes. I think about our grandparents who have lost their spouse of like 40 years and think, “How do you pick up the pieces after that?”.
Post # 12
Yes. I honestly don’t know what I would do if I were to lose him. When I start feeling melancholy like that I try and get busy with something else to stop thinking about it.
Post # 13
I think if it becomse a preoccupation for you, like thinking about this keeps you from concentrating on tasks that you need to focus on, it could be a problem. But I think what you’re talking about is a healthy appreciation of what he means in your life. If you didn’t ever consider how important he is to you, that would be a concern 🙂
Post # 14
I think about these things sometimes. Not just my husband but my parents too as i see them get older. With my husband I knew i would just be crushed if something ever happened to him before we could have kids. I wanted that bond with him and to know that if god forbid something happen to him i would at least have a part of him with me always.
My uncle and his fiance were out one night the week before their wedding and were hit head on by a drunk driver. She passed away at the scene and he spent months in the hospital. He later married my aunt and had two beautiful children. He had been given blood tranfusions when he had the accident and was given bad blood and contracted Hep C. He passed away March a year ago at 49 years old. Both his wife and his children made note at the funeral how he was now at peace with his fiance in heaven. I don’t think he truly ever got over her.
Post # 15
@totheislnds: wow, that is horrible, poor woman.
I do this all the time – imagine the worst scenarios. I also do it with my dog. I can only imagine it will be even worse when I have children!
Post # 16
@londonchick: My husband and I had a really rough year (actually maybe 2 years) in terms of being hit with the reality that life is short. He had 3 friends/coworkers get killed in (separate) car/motorcycle accidents – the story that hit me the most was his ex coworker that was killed in a motorcycle accident. I found out that he had barely been married a year! I just couldn’t believe it. I didn’t even know his wife, but I immediately sent her a note about just how sorry I was to hear the terrible terrible news. I just can’t imagine!
So yes, there are days when I just thank my lucky stars that DH and I are both healthy and here with each other!