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For your SO to have possession of the ring for more than 24 hours and not give it to you.
So I found the receipt for my e-ring about a month ago and since then I have gone through a whole list of emotions. It started off as excitement and a sigh of relief and then I was nervous about not being prepared (nails not manicured, hair not perfect, and/or no makeup). Now my newest set of emotions involves anger. If you have the ring why not just give it to me! I now look at this as a cruel joke he's playing in an attempt to make me go insane. Haha
How did you ladies handle knowing your SO had the ring for days, weeks, or even months before he gave it to you?
To his defense, he's probably just waiting for the right moment! Mr M had my ring for a month or so and I just would not cooperate with him whenever he was planning to propose! (Obviously I didn't know he was going to propose or I would have been more cooperative).
Be patient...I'm sure it's coming soon!
Aww, you're getting engaged!! Just sit back and relax and trust that he has something amazing planned. Trust me, the proposal is a much bigger deal than you probably realize. You two will remember it forever and that's what everyone asks about.
im in the "i'ld be pissed" group.....
when my ring was ready he went to the store to pick it up and had it on my finger within minutes of me getting to his place..... but im not a patient girl at the best of times
exciting times for you.. hopefully not too long a wait
@moderndaisy.. I know, I'm getting engaged. I'm so happy! I still have to pinch myself sometimes. I guess I wouldn't have to do that if I had the rock on my finger :). You are absolutely right. The impatient me just wants it now. However, I wouldn't mind having a story that my grandkids can tell their grandkids about.
@eloping.. Lol! Now that's what I'm talking about. It's funny because everytime I go to his house and he's bumming around in his torn t-shirt and his boxers watching sportcenter, I think to myself "I guess today is not the day" lol
LOL. I always wondered when it would be and then we Mr. B finally popped the question it was better than I could have ever imagined.
Trust me though. I practically went to bed fully done up in makeup wondering if it would happen and I wouldn't be prepared.
Congrats! Keep us posted!
I didnt know my DH had the ring but he had it for about 3 weeks before he proposed. He kept it at his apartment but then moved it to his parents house in fear I would find it. He wanted to wait for the perfect time to propose so I cant be upset he had it that long. Im sure you BF is just waiting for that perfect moment!
I would be mad! My coworker's FI told her he had the ring, asked her if she wanted to see it, but didn't give it to her for 6 weeks--talk about cruel! My FI proposed the very same day he picked mine up, so I didn't have a chance to find any receipts.
I must be in the minority. My FI had the ring for about 4 months if not more, before we got engaged. While I'm glad that we got engaged when and how we did, the wait killed me!!!!
Be happy! That means he's planning something special :0) You know you have it, so don't sweat it. Although, I'd rather NOT know he has it thant knowing he has it and hasn't done it yet. You're getting engaged,yyaayy!!
Yeah mine had it a few weeks. Except we got engaged at New Years so all the while he had been calling it my "present" as in my Christmas present (I knew what it really was). He would laugh and joke that he had a picture on his phone and had texted it to people (his sisters), but "oh hahaha i deleted it before you could see it!" Oh yeah, he got a real kick out of teasing me.
But I got him back good. One night he left the room AND his cell phone. Of course I got on trying to find it all to no avail, but when he came back in the room I pretended I found it.
"Hahaha, the jokes on you... not as smart as you think you are now, huh? I found the 'present' in you DELETED PICTURES FOLDER!"
Of course this folder did not exist, nor did the picture anymore, but I had a fun time pretending it did. Two can play the game. 
My FI bought my ring in February 08 but didn't propose until July 08. Which for me, was totally fine. Maybe my situation was unique (I was in school and didn't want to get engaged until I graduated), but it really wasn't a big deal to know that he had it in his posession. Think of it this way, at least you know you're getting engaged sometime in probably the near-ish future, which is a lot more than some women in serious relationships can say. Just enjoy the anticipation and keep those nails lookin' sassy!
Mine had my ring for over a year, um yeah, that was super cruel! I think 24 hours isn't bad and I'm sure it's because he's waiting for what he considers the perfect moment.
I had to wait six months after picking it out with him. Apparently he bought it the next day and held on to it for a full six months in a book bag!!! He's so cute. I didn't know he bought it the next day so I was on pins and needles as the expected day got closer and closer, haha. He did a fantastic job of misleading me about when he bought it.
My fiance had my ring for over a month before he proposed.
My co-worker's fiance had her engagement ring for 4 months before he proposed, and they've been together for 10+ years and have a child. She was mad for a second to find out that he waited so long, but how can you be mad? He cares enough about you to buy a ring, and he will do it on his time, and sometimes it takes men a while to adjust to the idea of proposing/getting married. Be patient and let him propose when he's ready. :)
Does he know you found it?
If he doesn't know, it can't be cruel... he has no idea that you're on pins and needles!
@Mrbee.. Yes he knows I found the receipt. So you agree that its cruel :)
You're right ladies. I feel so much better now. I'm just going to sit back and relax because I know its coming one day. But if he waits for a whole year, to the moon I tell you straight to the moon he's going. Ha!!
this is exactly why i'm happy I happen to be a total "flake" when it comes to knowing his secrets!!! lol - seriously he is SO good at keeping secrets from me (planned a surprise 30th birthday party for me back in august - had been planning for months and I literally had NO clue WHATsoever!!!!!)
DH proposed to me on June 30th and on May 30th is when he supposedly bought the ring...my best friend and I went to see Sex and the City the night it opened in theatres (last year) - and he told me, later, that it was this night he went to go buy it. I honest to god had NO idea he had it in his posession as we had been talking about getting engaged for a few months before this. AND we were already living together at this point! Anywhoo though.
I know that I am NOT a patient person by ANY means. I would have annoyed the hell outta him about it - if I'd have known he had it. I woulda CONSTANTLY been saying stuff like, "well, when you GIVE me the ring I know you have..." and I know that woulda pissed HIM off! so yeah - I totally understand your frustration - knowing that it's there and that it exists and it's NOT on your finger yet! lol
during that month he had it - we went to Kings Island Amusement park with our best friends...the husband of my best friend was playing in the arcade and won two plastic rings. he gave one to me and one to his wife...and i was joking with DH that "hey - at least Tom gave me a ring!" and my (now) husband looked at me and said, "let me see that"...and started to jokingly propose to me there...of course I laughed him off - whatever. But the funny thing about all this is that it was then that he told our friends he had a REAL ring for me at home. Again - me being clueless seriously had NO idea til when he actually did. BTW, he finally did it the next month when we went to Cedar Point Amusement park! (yup we LOVE roller coasters!)
as a side note, he HAD planned on actually proposing on the Millinium Force roller coaster but got scared he'd lose the ring so he did it the night before in the campground. :)
BUT that's the point - when HE'S ready and the moment is right - it will happen!!
happy for you! :)
Well, i found "the Blue box" when putting away clothes, earlier in the year.. so you could imagine my excitment when Valentines came, and how disappointed i was when it turn out to be a necklace from " other blue box " then a week also after that out of no where we decided to go on 5 hours hiking over the moutains along the coastline.. and finally made it to the beach. i was very sweating ,exhausted and very stink... he decided to get down on one knee gave me the real blue box!
so... wait... it will be great experience when you're not expecting it... though you could be very sweaty and stinks like me when it happen! but that proof he love me no matter how bad i looked ;D
Awww I would be so mad too! He knows better than to do that to me, though. I hate surprises more than anyone can imagine. Keep calm and carry on, I'm sure you'll get it when he's ready!
Mine has had mine for about a month...I think I have 2-4 more weeks left of waiting. I picked out the band and the diamond, but never saw it set. Came across pics of it on his camera but they were so blurry you couldn't tell anything about it...guess he didn't think to turn off the flash!
But yeah, I suppose it could be cruel, and like KMSull, I don't like surprises either. Oh well, it's his one big thing to do. I'll let him do it right. ;)
i'm another i don't like surprises type gal... and m is insistent upon teasing me relentlessly... if i knew he had the ring we'd have serious problems so i definitely don't want to know he has it until he pops the question.
We found the ring together on a trip last August....and it sat on his desk until the fourth of July, when he proposed.
Shoot, we went shopping months ago, and he's had at least the setting for about a month.... just waiting on the darn thing!
I know it's hard, and frustrating, but it will come, and that's what's important. I know you want to show it off and tell the non WB world but he'll surprise you and it will be worth it. Hang in there!
@eloping: Yup you heard me right, if I want to be technical it was actually 15 months! About a month after he had it in his possession we got into some sort of disagreement (don't remember what it was since it was a few years ago now) and he was like, "You know I have your ring already, but you are so damned hard to keep secrets from and surprise!" I'm actually glad he waited because I think everything happens for a reason.
I know he's had my ring for at least a week. I go back and forth between being angry and excited. I am also trying to fight the anger, because it seems silly to be mad at him for planning something special!
@ScarletJwl: I understand how you feel. Hopefully, he will not make you wait too long.
I have a feeling tomorrow will be my day. He said he has a present for me on Friday and every day this week he counts down the days " 3 more days until Friday, 1 more day". Then last night, he says "what is today" and I answer the 4th. He reponds "oh yeah its Wednesday" and I'm thinking to myself "duh...you've only said that 3 times today".
Hopefully, I'll have good news to report on Saturday.
Ummm have you seen how many posts I have?? That is how I coped. I found out in early august that he was shopping. I found out in late august that he had picked something out. He proposed October 23. It was a ROUGH few months. I just kept telling myself that I know it will be soon and that bugging him will only make it worse. So I held my tongue and went weddingbee crazy!
Aww, I'm sure he's just planning it out and waiting for the perfect occasion! Mr. Rainbow had my ring for a little over a month and a half! I was getting antsy, but I'm glad I didn't push and waited for him because his proposal was so sweet and perfect :)
My fiance had my ring for about a month before he finally gave it to me, I found out about it when he had it so I was going crazy! I went through the same emotions and I thought to myself "if you have it, just give it to me!" but in the end he was just waiting for the perfect moment and it was well worth the wait! Congrats on your almost engagement!!!
I'm sure he's planning the engagement or waiting for the right moment... I mean, he already dropped the money on the ring at this point, so clearly he is 100% serious about marrying you :-) My fiance had the ring for a while before he proposed... I don't know exactly when he bought it, but I think it was several months before the proposal. I had STRONG suspicions that it was in our apartment, but I didn't go looking for it. It totally was worth it in the end, and the proposal was AMAZING. I know it's so tough to wait... but you won't be sorry that you did!
Waiting is incredibly difficult. I hated waiting because my husband kept on telling me we would be engaged anytime but then his work told him he would be transferred to their Luxembourg office for 3 months and I couldn't leave my job so I figured he would propose before leaving so I could stay busy planning our wedding but the day came for him to leave and I still had no ring. But luckily his work paid for me to visit him, I planned on being there for our anniversary and my birthday and I figured for sure he would propse in Paris. But we went to Paris for the day and came home... no ring still, I called my mom all bummed that he didn't propose. The following day we spent in Germany and then back to Luxembourg at night and that night we took a walk and he proposed on the Duke's Bridge in downtown Luxembourg it was so perfect. I couldn't have asked for more.
We dated for 8 years recently married my soulmate on October 9, 2009.
my boyfriend has had the ring for 2 months now and nothing. he has no idea that i know though, i accidentally found the box when i was looking for something in a drawer. i got so upset last month because my best friend got engaged and her boyfriend didn't even have the ring on him when he proposed because he ordered it online and there was a delay in shipping. he proposed with a piece of paper.
I had no idea my FI had the ring until he proposed. But, you know it's coming soon, so try to relax and enjoy the anticipation!!!
Okay so right after I responded I realized who wrote this and that you got engaged yesterday, haha. YAY!
I want to preface this by saying that I know that there are some of you patient ladies out there who have been waiting for years and years, but for me, waiting was torturous and exhausting--simply because he HAD the ring for so long. His excuse was that everyone was pressuring him to do it (mostly his own mother), and he wanted to propose on his own terms. Understandable, but I was a little upset that one of the reasons he took forever was to spite everyone else.
FI actually bought the ring in January of this year, openly talked with me about weddings in February, I accidentally (I totally mean that, too) found the receipt in March, pointed out the ring box on his freaking desk in April...where it stayed...till July. He had enough sense to empty the box and keep the ring in a safe at the bank until he actually proposed. 7 months, ladies.
Truthfully I felt incredibly relieved because I felt like he thought about what would make me happy. He wanted to make it special and right and that is great. I lets me know he wants to make it just right ")
@stellar: did you feel anxious crazy at first? i go through crazy stages.. i have gone into the very relieved excited happy stage... i am ready to plan and be engaged but also excited because i know he'll blow me off my feet no matter what, because he already does..
@crebre80 I felt so relieved at first truthfully. I felt like everything was falling into place. Like you didn't know something was missing until you were engaged and could feel the right-ness of it you know? And some days I'm like oh no this is so crazy and it's happening so fast. But I always know it's the right thing. I pray that everyone else can feel the assuredness that I have. How about you?
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