Post # 1
Hi bees. I’m happily engaged to my Fiance of 5 and a bit years. He’s 28 and I’m 23, we bought our house last October and I love him to pieces. I love my enagement ring and think it’s perfect. However, I have seen a Swarovski ring I would like for my birthday. It’s a halo with a pink stone and it’s gorgeous. Plus I wear a lot of pink so I would like a pink ring to match – maybe it’s a silly idea. The ring is £80 (don’t know how much that is in dollars) and I would like him to get it me for my birthday. The price of it isn’t a big deal because he’s always bought me jewellery – but when I hinted to him that I liked it, he said the only ring he will ever buy me is my wedding ring and possibly an eternity ring. I explained it was just to match pink outfits/accessories and he said it was “shite” and “a waste of money”. He’s a typical bloke!
Just to let everyone know, I adore my e-ring and would never, ever change it. He knows how much I love it because we picked it together. I just don’t understand his attitude towards “dress rings”, or rings to throw on with certain outfits.
I’m sorry if this post is long – I would like to hear your stories.
Post # 3
My Darling Husband feels the same way!
He told me when we started dating that he will only ever buy me one ring.
I made fun of him constantly when we were buying my wedding ring 😉
If you really want it I would just buy it for for yourself!
Post # 4
No, my Fiance thinks jewelry is a very nice thing to gift and thinks the idea of anniversary and right hand rings is pretty cool.
Post # 5
Ooh, good to know he’s not on his own feeling this way! Yeah I might just get it ayway haha x
Post # 6
@jocember Will have to tell my fiance that haha!
Post # 7
My SO is the same way. I think men hear “ring” and for some reason can only think of marriage. My SO has bought me necklaces, anklets, bracelets, earrings… but there can only be one type of ring. Go figure. I say treat yourself to it as a birthday gift!
Post # 8
Haha it’s funny how some men think differently! I may well just buy it haha!
Post # 9
@mrs_moden_to_be: His comments were a bit harsh but I kind of understand where he’s comming from. He might feel giving you a ring is symbolic and wants to do it just for engagement, wedding, etc.
It might not make sense but I feel I understand cause I felt the same way about Fiance giving me any kind of ring prior to the actual engagement (not that he did, but the idea of him doing it).
Post # 10
@mrs_moden_to_be: you know what? I NEVER thought of it until just now when I saw your post, but, of alll the jewelery my Darling Husband has ever gotten me: he never got me a ring (other than my ering & band). It’s always a braclet or necklace, earrings.I think men associate rings with marriage, like a PP said. They just don’t get why we’d wear rings unless it’s our wedding ring?
This is funny…my husband will see a girl that is wearing a fashion ring on..her middle finger of her right hand…and he’ll think she’s married! He doesnt get that we wear it on our left,ring fingers ONLY. He thinks it’s a matter of preference. This comes from a guy that only wears his wedding band and a watch (not a jewelry guy)
Post # 11
Luckily my husband doesn’t feel that way, because with my love for jewelry that would make for some very angry moments. He just wants me to have what I want.
Post # 12
Oh boy lol. Guys can be weird about jewelry, especially rings that aren’t E rings… I’ve been with Fiance for more than 3 years, and he has never bought me a piece of jewelry. Not one piece!! I asked him about before, because I would love a nice pair of diamond earring or a tennis bracelet (or even something cheap from like claires!), but he told me he would only ever buy an engagement ring… I do hope that now the E ring is out of the way, there is room in his mind for earrings or a bracelet lol. Good luck!
Post # 13
For Christmas I asked for a sapphire and diamond RHR and I think he got one of my top picks (here’s hoping!). However, when I asked for it he did seem a bit surprised that I wanted another ring when I already had my e-ring.
Boys don’t understand the idea of fashion, they only see necessity. You needed one ring to indicate you are engaged and you have it…what more do you want? 🙂
Post # 14
the only ring besides my e ring and eventual band Fiance has said he would be ok with me wearing on a regualr basis as a right hand or possible stunt ring is one i am planning to get custome made from a rock that he gave me when we first started seriosuly dating (he knew my affinity for disney movies and the pebble and the penguin)
i tihnk Fiance is ok with this because my wedding set is a family heirloom from my family so it would be sometihng directly from him that i would be wearing
Post # 15
@mrs_moden_to_be: I can’t say my Fiance feels this way. I’ve told him about right hand/cocktail rings I’d like to have and he has never said he wouldn’t buy them for me if I asked. I can kind of see how your Fiance might think that way, but that doesn’t mean it’s very nice! I think guys just don’t understand the sparkle addiction that us women have 😉
Btw, that ring sounds gorgeous. Do you have a link to share??
Post # 16
I could see him thinking you don’t need a ring if you aren’t engaged– because he wanted to buy you an engagement ring first– but now that he’s made it clear you’re getting married I don’t see why some more jewelry would mean anything more!
I say get it for yourself if you love it!